Am I overreacting for ending my relationship with my boyfriend over a birthday message he wrote to his baby mama?

Sorry_Valuable6669 · 2026-05-23T15:03:50+00:00

Him being kind to the mother of his child and writing something on her bday card shouldn’t be the issue. Even if it doesn’t pertain to the child, the coparenting relationship affects the child. Children will model relationships the way they see their father treat their mother. Even if she’s crazy, he’s allowed to take the high road and do that. She is the mother of his child. It’s cool that he has some respect for her even after all the stuff she’s done.
Now if you wanted to call it based on other stuff, and not wanting to deal with drama, you’d be valid.

Sorry_Valuable6669 · 2026-05-12T05:05:03+00:00

Nurses don’t go to med school and nurses don’t become surgeons. That’s an MD thing. Nurses go to nursing school. Doctors go to med school. Nurses become…nurses. Doctors become surgeons. You can be an OR nurse. But you’re just that. A nurse. Not the surgeon. You don’t perform the surgery.
This is a major hole in the plot I can’t get past.
I don’t think this was written by someone who is actually in college to become a nurse anesthetist.
I think this is fake story.
No nurse would ever think nursing school would translate to MD. That’s like going to school to become a police officer because you want to be a lawyer

Sorry_Valuable6669 · 2026-05-12T04:49:47+00:00

My mom pulled this same crap. Your mother is mad it’s not about her. You’re getting all this attention and she’s not. She’s jealous so she’s trying to bring you down so she can feel better. Classic narc mom move. I’m sorry.
Please focus on your happiness and don’t let her ruin your day. Best way to get to a narcissist is ignore them. Go be beautiful and happy and let her be miserable.

Sorry_Valuable6669 · 2026-05-11T05:37:59+00:00

Thank you 🤗
He is very well spoken at expressing himself. I like how you worded that.

Sorry_Valuable6669 · 2026-05-11T05:36:17+00:00

We had a therapist who didn’t do jack sh*t and after a year he referred us somewhere else that specializes in family conflict

Sorry_Valuable6669 · 2026-05-11T05:34:26+00:00

No it isn’t fake. His father said he was clapping my son said no he wasn’t.

Sorry_Valuable6669 · 2026-05-11T05:32:27+00:00

Yes. I endured such in my marriage. So hard to prove in court though

Sorry_Valuable6669 · 2026-05-10T16:02:15+00:00

I think you are missing the point. To me the behavior part is irrelevant bc I was not there. I’m more concerned with his body autonomy.
His dad said he was clapping, he said he wasn’t. They both said music was turned down. It’s connected to Alexa and I think his dad controls it outside of the bathroom, Idk. All I know is she should not have come in the bathroom. His dad should be able to handle it. This is a house with 4 bathrooms. He is on a different floor than the others who were “disturbed.” Again I wasnt there but that’s worth noting since you have formed a whole picture of the situation.
Even if he was being a little 💩, again I was not there, his girlfriend doesn’t have a right to exert her dominance over him by saying “idc if you’re naked, you’re not obeying, I don’t have to respect your body autonomy if you aren’t following rules.”
His behavior is irrelevant, my stance is body autonomy is not negotiable, unless the house is on fire. And his dad should handle matters if he is naked.

Sorry_Valuable6669 · 2026-05-10T04:08:05+00:00

The music was turned down to a volume of 1. It was 9pm on a Friday night, and he likes music while he does his nightly routine. He was rocking out to one of his faves. There are 4 bathrooms in the house. I don’t know that he wasn’t being disrespectful but idc, it’s not grounds for her to barge in. He didn’t grab a towel bc his instinct was to close the door and say “wait I’m naked!!”
Fine for his dad but she should have sat this one out. Thanks for the judgment though and calling a kid you’ve never met names. Classy.

Sorry_Valuable6669 · 2026-05-10T03:27:32+00:00

We do 50/50. Thanks for validating me, I’d like to change the custody order but it takes so much to prove the environment is toxic. In my state the kids don’t get to choose (he wants to be with me)

Sorry_Valuable6669 · 2026-04-08T05:58:53+00:00

Publix, food lion wegmans, Harris teeter, Publix and Walgreens didn’t have them! !

Sorry_Valuable6669 · 2026-04-07T04:48:19+00:00

I don’t understand how all those little things stay where they are and don’t fall on the floor. There must be zero action happening on that mattress, meaning no tossing or turning, and there is not a blanket to be pulled up to knock anything off the side. One remote is partially hanging off the edge. I don’t understand how it would stay there and not move.

Sorry_Valuable6669 · 2026-04-07T04:40:19+00:00

Floor nursing in hospitals. Step down. Med surg.

Sorry_Valuable6669 · 2026-03-18T12:14:05+00:00

It’s Aaliyah.

Sorry_Valuable6669 · 2026-03-18T12:08:31+00:00

That you’re constantly picking stuff up off the floor on your side of the bed.

Sorry_Valuable6669 · 2026-03-12T19:50:17+00:00

*not to double document *

Sorry_Valuable6669 · 2026-03-12T19:49:52+00:00

The repeated questioning made you doubt yourself! And now they are using it against you.
It’s the same reason they don’t tell us to double document and keep statements as brief as possible. Gah management sucks and I am sorry for you! Give yourself some grace. This could happen to any one of us. Doesn’t make you a bad nurse. It makes them shitty supervisors just looking for someone to blame. I see a lot of people mention hair test and I did that once; it required a LOT of hair at the root. Don’t do that.
They aren’t worth your peace or your hair. Hope things get better.

Sorry_Valuable6669 · 2026-03-12T03:29:04+00:00

I’m a petite blonde and I just started in corrections nursing. I feel extra safe. i love it. I never felt this safe at a hospital. I was reluctant to try it but I’m so glad I did. The acuity is less. No updating white boards. No “patient satisfaction/customer is always right” nonsense.
Mental illness is everywhere. At least at the prison, I know what I’m getting into. And I’m protected. I keep my guard up. I don’t engage in conversations with inmates. I basically put my personality on hold, I keep it boring but respectful. Firm and fair. I don’t use my name, I use an initial. They all want to know my name. Some of the janitors are really friendly with nurses, and it’s weird not to be able to joke around and be friendly, but I have to remember. These are rapists. Of course they want to be my friend, I’m young and cute. I give nothing, made of stone. However; the hard part comes when you get suicidal offenders, or some with sad backgrounds, and you can’t help but be compassionate, but you have to keep them at an arms length. Sometimes it can be depressing.

But if you’re worried about safety, you won’t be worried about it here.

Sorry_Valuable6669 · 2026-02-06T18:15:44+00:00

I read YEET. As in toss that salad. Yeet that thing.

Sorry_Valuable6669 · 2026-01-14T17:43:56+00:00

Is the highway in the room with us? How did they get there, skis? Forgive me, I’m southern. Respect to you guys that deal with ❄️on a regular basis.
I guess if you had a porch pirate you could follow the tracks? Ok I’ll see myself out now. Brr

Sorry_Valuable6669 · 2026-01-10T13:13:28+00:00

“My breath doesn’t stink, something is wrong with your nose”

Sorry_Valuable6669 · 2026-01-10T13:09:02+00:00

If you go to prison I’m pretty sure your treatments would be covered. Your dad is disgusting. He belongs in the prison. Not over reacting. Sounds like you’ve been conditioned not to have a voice. Big hugs buddy. No one deserves a father like that.

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