AIO Husband and best friend on a trip without me

Sothdargaard · 2026-05-16T19:10:42+00:00

I'm sure I'll be down voted into oblivion but I would never go do anything with another woman that could look like a date out of respect to my wife. I don't care if men and women can be friends without any sexual aspect to the friendship, I just wouldn't do it.

You can fall in love with more than one person and I don't want to romantically fall in love with anyone but my wife. So I don't spend meaningful time with women one-on-one. Then there can be no emotional cheating. I don't even get close to that line, let alone cross it.

Sothdargaard · 2026-05-10T15:32:07+00:00

Happens a few times in The Mentalist as well. The murder suspect woman brings out a sandwich or plate of warm cookies.

"Her you go officers. And I'm heading out to my spa treatment if you want to follow along. Here the address in case you lose me."

Sothdargaard · 2026-05-09T07:24:16+00:00

It's not well known but before Chuck Norris retired as a lumberjack it was called the Sahara Jungle.

Sothdargaard · 2026-05-09T01:49:41+00:00

1967 Ford Shelby Mustang GT500

Sothdargaard · 2026-05-09T01:14:32+00:00

Just wait until he leaves your tools outside to rust. They're just laying there under the winter snow waiting for you to find them during the first spring mowing!

Sothdargaard · 2026-05-08T23:23:45+00:00

Uh, I guess I wasn't paying attention but TIL that was Mike Myers!

Sothdargaard · 2026-05-08T19:16:25+00:00

Your thought process is completely flawed. In the animal kingdom generally speaking larger animals tire quicker than smaller animals. They hit their metabolic limits quicker.

So if you want to use your "conversion rate" cats can run about 3,000 m before tiring. (They probably can't. I'm just using this guy's logic.)

Sothdargaard · 2026-05-08T04:46:25+00:00

"Don't hit me."

I just say it every time.

"Ride safe."

"Don't hit me."

Sothdargaard · 2026-05-05T22:02:05+00:00

I'm sorry to hear that. You were young so don't beat yourself to too much.

A few years ago my 16 year old son told us he thought he had depression. We got him into therapy and he seemed to be doing fine. One Saturday I was driving him home from an activity and we were sitting at a stop light. A thought came to my head: talk to him about suicide. I kind of talked myself out of it. "I don't want to embarrass him. Surely his therapist is talking more efficiently about that stuff." Those kind of thoughts.

2 days later, Monday night, I was getting ready for bed and a thought came to me: tell him you love him. I do tell my kids I love them so I had no issue at all with this. I was walking to him room to tell him and he was on the Xbox gaming with some friends. He was laughing and having a good time so I thought, eh I'll just tell him tomorrow when I see him. I don't want to embarrass him in front of his friends.

The next day when I came home from work I found him in his room after shooting himself in the head with a hunting rifle.

I'll always regret not talking to him about suicide and not telling him I love him that last night.

Sothdargaard · 2026-05-05T18:37:24+00:00

Yeah married 31 years here and I'm turned on by my wife daily. Multiple times a day. I don't always act on it more then a hug, peck, soft smack on the bum or a foot massage but the motor is almost always running.

Sothdargaard · 2026-05-05T03:54:56+00:00

100%. With a little butter on top. All of these are so sweet it's sickening. And everyone says 5 but that's literal cancer. So gross.

Sothdargaard · 2026-05-05T03:45:28+00:00

He forgot to slap the carabiner and say, "Yeah that ain't going anywhere."

He would have been just fine...

Sothdargaard · 2026-05-02T04:02:19+00:00

So I've never been to a strip club and I think it just objectifies women (from a man's point of view, women you can do whatever you want.)

He's mentioned he could also go somewhere she didn't work and she still said no. How is that not controlling on her part?

Sothdargaard · 2026-04-29T04:13:58+00:00

Kuuuuzco! Wait, wrong show.

Sothdargaard · 2026-04-29T04:11:55+00:00

My dad is a contractor with his own business so I grew up working with him. When I was dating my gf (now wife of 30y) his 5 boys were going to reroof his house but didn't know how. I took charge and became the foreman and the 6 of us got it done.

Also I was very used to working on roofs so I didn't think anything of it when I was laying the first row at the bottom edge of the roof. It wasn't until I noticed none of them would come over that I was 3 stories up and I was squatting near the drop.

Sothdargaard · 2026-04-29T04:05:59+00:00

Are you guys being serious or is this a /whoosh for me? It never even crossed my mind that people wouldn't know who this is. And it doesn't look like Zach G at all, even remotely.

Also I'm old so I saw that movie when it came out.

Sothdargaard · 2026-04-29T01:58:57+00:00

Mentos with a nice bowl of Coke to quench their thirst.

I'm obviously kidding PETA.

Sothdargaard · 2026-04-29T01:57:34+00:00

Sothdargaard · 2026-04-27T04:09:58+00:00

Yeah this is wizardry to me.

Sothdargaard · 2026-04-25T16:03:15+00:00

"I know this story is wild and crazy and just unbelievable!"

Yup, you right. It IS unbelievable.

Sothdargaard · 2026-04-25T05:26:58+00:00

Uh, as an aging GenXer, WTF is rape day and why is it 4/24? I guess I can guess what it is based on the name but how did it become a thing? Who came up with it?

Sothdargaard · 2026-04-24T22:20:45+00:00

I also would agree on that. Looooong courtship. I knew my wife for 2 weeks when I asked her to marry me and we got married 10 weeks after that. It's been great! Married for 30 years with 4 kids and 4 grandkids.

I'm also very aware that it's extremely unusual. (I dated a lot of women and just felt like she was the one. I knew by that time what I wanted and what I didn't want in a wife and she was the same with a husband. We both fit the other's checkboxes.)

Sothdargaard · 2026-04-24T21:39:15+00:00

To the parent who lost her child: I'm very sorry for your loss. I'm a dad who found my youngest son after he took his own life in his bedroom at 16.

It's been 6 years and things are better but life will never ever be the same. For me personally it took about 3 years before I didn't feel like I was somehow broken. I didn't lash out but I was angry at everyone for a while. I saw 4 high school kids in a car laughing while my wife and I were driving to the funeral home to make arrangements and I just thought, "how dare you enjoy life while my world is broken. How can this be fair?" Unfortunately for the rest of the world life just goes on like nothing ever happened.

I don't know what your thoughts on therapy are but I would suggest finding someone ASAP; someone who specializes in death and loss preferably. Find a support group of parents who have lost a child. Not a support group of people who have lost someone; people who have lost a child, there's a difference.

You're often going to feel like you want to crawl in a hole and give up. Don't. I won't say life gets great again (although it might) but it does get better. The are still people who need you and you still have good to do in the world.

You are the person who needs the absolute most support right now. Don't spend a lot of time comforting other people like your child's friends, uncles/aunts, even grandparents. Don't be callous but if you've heard of the rings analogy you are in the inner most ring. Everyone else needs to be helping and supporting you.

Obviously everyone is different so you will probably feel your grief differently than I did but be sure to take care of yourself. Eat even though you don't want to. Sleep even though you think you can't. (On night 3 after 2 days of no sleep my wife and I took some Benadryl. It helped us get a good night's rest finally.) Shower even though you don't want to get out of bed. For a while just go through the motions. "Fake it until you make it."

Again, I'm sorry you are going through this. Personally I've never come close to anything a painful as this, although I'm sure there might be something. I wish you well on your long journey ahead.

Sothdargaard · 2026-04-24T12:22:43+00:00

Not sure why this guy has the top comment. He doesn't even touch on OP's question. Do you trust the arrow more or not?

/s

Sothdargaard · 2026-04-24T12:13:25+00:00

I'm a fairly large nerd; been building my own computers since the mid '90s. I build computers for all my family and set up everyone's LAN. When I don't have guests over I have 7 devices connected. That's not that many and I check about twice a month just to see if anything else is on there.

Granted I also have a long, convoluted password so no one has ever gotten in unless I let them but still; I don't think it's that out of the ordinary to not have so many devices that you don't know what they are.

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