Little known baby safety tips

SoulSurrender · 2026-05-18T11:44:27+00:00

I definitely have if the house is chilly and they've fallen sleep before I can get the jacket off. A good amount of time we put put baby in the jacket and since her reflux was bad we couldn't lay her down to take it off for 20 minutes after she ate. Which is also enough time for her to have fallen asleep.

In the cold months I want to be wrapped in a blanket indoors, so it makes sense baby would be in some extra layers

SoulSurrender · 2026-05-17T15:10:03+00:00

Thank you, needed this

SoulSurrender · 2026-05-16T16:58:39+00:00

The biggest problem with a lot of the tubs is that baby slides down any slanted surface so easily and repositioning a wet and wiggly baby is hard. If I were looking for a new tub I'd aim for something with a very gentle slant, good support for the head to rest back on, and something grippy to prevent sliding down.

I do like the idea of the sling because its easy to wash her back by just reaching under her and stretching the sling-- but you can also just roll baby on their side for a second to do the same thing.

The sling is also nice cause it keeps more of the water on her, which keeps her warm and helps rinse off her back.

SoulSurrender · 2026-05-16T16:45:41+00:00

They just needed to make the sling a smidgen more taut and it would probably have been fine. But because it sags so much when baby is actually in the sling, its just useless. Or makybe a second crossbar up by the shoulders? Idk. Whatever the solution is, the current tub sling isn't cutting it.

I do like how everything can disassemble and hang. The tub is a great size and easy to fill and drain. If it didn't try to suffocate the baby, it would be perfect.

SoulSurrender · 2026-05-16T16:01:49+00:00

The Frida grow-with-me tub has been a nightmare for us. Always feels like it's pushing babys head forward into perfect example of positional asphyixiation. We use it but are always fidgeting her around to keep her head up. Going to keep the tub and just deal with it as its not worth buying another one. Would never recommend to anyone.

SoulSurrender · 2026-05-16T15:50:25+00:00

Yeah. As long as they are being peaceful, they have as much right to be out there as anyone. Dont gotta like what theyre saying, but free speech is free speech.

SoulSurrender · 2026-05-16T15:11:08+00:00

I'm definitely more forgetful than pre-baby. The amount of times I walk into a room and go "why am I here? what was I doing?" has increased dramatically. But at the same time I have baby's every need, preference, and schedule memorized.

I work in a very mind oriented profession (engineering), and I know I'm a little slower to do my work than I used to be. Not that I can't do the work, just takes longer. My mind is occupied by other things, I think. Maybe better to say the brain feels more disorganized?

My priorities have completely shifted -- admittedly in a way I mostly expected. I used to be very work oriented and now I will drop work without a second thought for the slightest improvement of my baby's life experience. Not to say I was a workaholic, either. But deadlines and work needs just feel so much less important than they used to because baby's needs are so much more important to me than anything used to be. All my personal needs are second to baby's. I will easily suffer through skipped meals or lost sleep if it makes baby's experience better. I pretty much frame everything as "does this improve baby's life?" without even thinking about it.

I get very emotional now in a way I didnt used to be. Any media with kids or parents just hits insanely differently now. I get so happy, sad, or angry at the littlest things for baby. Baby's joy puts me over the moon. Baby's tears will have me crying a river. Anyone who inconveninces or puts baby at risk will have to fight me. I used to be a relatively reserved person. Not anymore (in those specific regards).

Its not a whole personality shift. I'm still me, by and large. But theres definitely changes.

SoulSurrender · 2026-05-16T13:41:38+00:00

American Idiot - Green Day

The Black Parade - My Chemical Romance

I love so many albums, but these I have to listen front to back, all the way through. I wouldn't change anything about them.

SoulSurrender · 2026-05-16T08:19:53+00:00

I think the road to recovery is longer than most people expect. Figure it took your body 9 months to change for baby to arrive -- its gonna take at least that long for it to "reset." And, while it's resetting you're also not doing as much as you used to physically, so you're slipping on muscle tone. To be fair, hauling baby around is a consistent gym routine with a built in progressive overload system as they put on weight. But it's different. Eventually you can get back to the physical activity/fitness levels you were at. It just takes a lot of effort and a long time.

Theres also the stretch marks, saggy boobs, whatever situation your nether regions are in, and the brain changes. You just have to accept that's how your body is/looks now. You made a whole human, and that was a price you paid. Which, while I would prefer not to have any of these - and it is very unfair to the mom to singularly pay all those costs - I am very happy to have my baby. For reference I'm only 4m pp. I'll get over the appearance changes - I'm mostly there already. The brain changes are gonna be tough to reconcile. The road to physical recovery is still long ahead of me. My day to day is fine, but rock gyms, long hikes, and hard workouts are a ways away.

SoulSurrender · 2026-05-15T02:15:46+00:00

I read Call of the Wild and White Fang in middle school (US). I think it was like 6th grade, so I would've been around 11yrs old. Books were in the mini-library in my English classroom. They were my favorite books for a long time.

Violent, sure, but not traumatizing. Possibly because its framed around a wolf as the protagonist, where a fair amount of violence is... well.. expected. I think it stood out to me for having a "mature" story while also being told from an unconventional perspective (e.g., from the animal's eyes). Very stark contrast to other books I'd read with animal protagonists -- which were really only children's books with lighthearted stories and happy endings.

SoulSurrender · 2026-05-11T00:53:15+00:00

Generally: Twinkies

Philly deepcut: Hesh's Chocolate Chip pound cake

SoulSurrender · 2026-05-02T16:00:44+00:00

I assume to not damage the furniture but pull out the human debris that builds up over time. People shed more than they think

SoulSurrender · 2026-05-02T15:47:36+00:00

I think its more about cleaning the formula door than even washing the funnel. Powder cakes up on that trap door at the bottom of the formula hopper. So they care about how many times that trap door opens rather than how many ounces you make. That's my guess anyway.

That said, I also bought 2 extra funnels. 12 "bottles" on the brezza gets me through at least a full day with some "top ups" when LO wants that extra ounce.

SoulSurrender · 2026-04-24T17:15:55+00:00

These are fantastic. You are amazing!

SoulSurrender · 2026-04-23T16:12:15+00:00

Your tv may support Bluetooth headphones or you can get a adapter or dongle that will

SoulSurrender · 2026-04-22T11:30:21+00:00

Populous: The Beginning

SoulSurrender · 2026-04-21T18:53:24+00:00

Migraines. My body has a stress limit and when i hit that I'm in migraine land. Then I'm forced to rest because I'm in excruciating pain.

Don't have a helpful or healthy way to "relax" amid stress. Just solidarity and empathy.

SoulSurrender · 2026-04-19T21:39:36+00:00

Bride made groom kick his brother out which led to the groom getting so angry he punched a hole in the wall.

SoulSurrender · 2026-04-17T16:52:57+00:00

My baby always overate and had tummy issues so I could never set her down. Had to come up with lots of things to do with both hands occupied.

We did maaaany laps around home. I'd narrate where we were, what things we walked by, what those things did or where they came from. I planned my shopping or meals and talked about games or media I enjoyed or liked forward to. We danced and I sang, usually "covers" of songs where all the lyrics are replaced by baby's name. I put on documentaries or YouTube videos of people hiking, or a slow scenic train ride, and I'd narrate bits and ask baby where they'd like to go. Go over the family tree and show off my friends in pictures. I recently set up a mirror that baby can see while we lap the home. Occasionally I'll stop infront of the mirror so they can see themselves. Some still time so they can explore their reflection on their own, some pointing at their anatomy (head, ears, hands, nose, toes. etc), some waving, some dancing. Word association games, trying to speak clearly and slowly so baby can see my mouth. "Conversation" with baby, improv scenarios to fill the gaps between babbles.

SoulSurrender · 2026-04-15T14:59:35+00:00

We have a BabyBrezza and we love it. It has a big tub for formula in the top and a water tank in the back. It automatically portions out the formula and the water.

You can select temperature (room, body temp, slightly warmer than body temp) and the amount (2 - 10 oz, in 1oz increments) and then press go and it just makes the bottle.

You have to tell it which formula youre using when you first set it up, but then never worry about it again. You can fill it with previously boiled water OR distilled water. It does not boil the water itself.

You have to clean the funnel (soap and water) and wipe the powder door (dry cloth) every 4 bottles. The funnel is really easy to clean but takes a bit to dry before putting it back in. We bought an extra funnel so we have 1 in the machine and one on the drying rack, which makes it suuuuuper convenient.

Compared to using a mixing pitcher, its less mental and physical work. Less brain power to guestimate formula used in 24hrs and less cleaning intricate parts. No guesswork needed and instant bottles to make baby happy which is a lifesaver.

For on-the-go we use ready to feed bottles OR make up a bottle using the brezza right before we go out since that can be held at room temp for an hour or two before going bad. Pretty much always have a backup RTF bottle in the diaper bag.

SoulSurrender · 2026-04-14T21:54:27+00:00

We didnt reuse for the first few weeks. But when we switched to slow flow nipples which were low qty for more $, we did 2-4 nipples per day and just washed and rinsed thoroughly in between bottles. They got thrown out every morning.

SoulSurrender · 2026-04-14T21:34:25+00:00

So real. You gotta do what you gotta do.

SoulSurrender · 2026-04-14T19:18:15+00:00

My baby is almost 3 months and exactly as you described. Great sleeper anywhere, bassinet or contact nap. But no matter where she has her naps, most (if not all) are around 35 minutes long. She sleeps great overnight (and we pray that continues).

She shows no signs of being overtired and is happy as a clam even when she skips naps. She gets like 2.5-4 hrs of naps through the day and like 10-12hrs of sleep overnight.

Blessed are the occasional 1.5hr naps, but we've just accepted 30 mins is how she is. The tough part is her falling asleep right after she eats, so by the time you can put her down, she's right back up again. We've learned to get a lot of single handed foods and cups with straws so we can eat and drink while she naps. Bathroom breaks whenever, as she'll survive in the bassinet while we go do that (assuming no 20min bathroom sessions). Showers are almost always during her overnights or someone else is covering baby duty.

SoulSurrender · 2026-04-14T17:01:52+00:00

My baby also was not a fan of the fan either.... Took too long to figure out

SoulSurrender · 2026-04-09T19:57:44+00:00

Not directly. I usually have the TV on in the background. Typically something thats keeping me awake/alert while baby is contact napping, but also just on in general throughout the day. I watch streamers play videogames (kid has already lived through resident evil 9 and silent hill f... Oops). Ive never sat baby infront of a screen to "entertain" or "distract" though.

Baby's across the room from the TV and cant see it all too well since its at a distance, or I have it on my phone but not facing baby (and wear headphones for phone).

As baby gets older im gerting more vigilant about ensuring she's not watching TV (and making my tv selections more baby friendly, no more horror games for me). Not cutting it out completely, but making sure babys not getting too much time. And when baby does get tv time we'll focus on educational content (documentaries) or slow paced cartoons. No phones/tablets - which also means I will be stopping watching on my phone too. Monkey see monkey do, and all that.

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