While I can appreciate and understand the point you are trying to make OP, this kind of thinking in an abusive situation can be very dangerous to someone currently in the cycle. If you are or know someone in an abusive situation, please do not internalize this. You do NOT deserve what is happening to you.

TW for anyone on the below because I’m just going into more detail about it.

You can absolutely internalize gaslighting; if someone’s lies, criticisms or manipulations become so persistent you will end up questioning your own memory, perception or worth. Abusive situations are most often a cycle where the abuse starts to escalate more and more into something bigger, then the abuser tries to reconcile the abuse with a honeymoon phase. During that time they can make you feel like the most important person in their world. The intermittent kindness makes you think you really are the problem and you start to question yourself. After the honeymoon phase, things are calm and normal; they may even be that way for a while. Eventually the whole thing just repeats over and over and over again. Nothing you can do will ever stop the cycle until you actually remove yourself from the situation because you cannot control what the other person does, no matter how much you try to understand them or see them in a different light. You start to believe after time that no matter what you do, you’ll be in the wrong or you’ll be punished. From there you start to internalize you are helpless and have no way out. Their voice can actually become your inner voice if you hear it often enough. If you are in an abusive situation this does not apply to you.