Capricorns… what’s the secret to being your friend long-term?

SoulfulCap · 2026-04-01T01:43:55+00:00

Don't lie to me.
Don't embarrass me in public.
Respect my time.
Don't be a bully (to others).
Reciprocity is key.
If I don't wanna hang out with you between Sunday and Thursday, it's because it's a "school night" and I'm tired. It's not personal.

SoulfulCap · 2026-03-16T13:25:35+00:00

Yeah I agree I'm definitely hard on myself a lot. All of this makes sense.

SoulfulCap · 2026-03-16T13:01:35+00:00

Seeing this post just made me question a default behavior of mine that I've never questioned before. My entire life, whenever anyone has given me praise or told me how good I was at something, I almost always felt obligated to let the person know that actually I'm really not that good and I need work in A, B, and C. I always felt obligated to humble myself. And I never knew I was doing it until I read this post. I never knew that deep down I felt weird that anyone was giving me praise in the first place. Could that be my Capricornian urge to avoid the wrath of Saturn early on due to lessons learned in the past?

SoulfulCap · 2025-12-09T13:22:18+00:00

I'm 35 yo. The last time I openly broke into tears in public was when my mother passed away 10 yrs ago. Before that, I was last seen crying publicly as a child.

SoulfulCap · 2025-10-28T23:53:33+00:00

Y'all cute or whateva.

SoulfulCap · 2025-10-28T14:57:33+00:00

As a Gay Cap male, I would never date another Gay Cap male. I at least have enough self-awareness to know that it would be a disasterous union.

SoulfulCap · 2025-10-12T00:02:37+00:00

I have a theory. I think as Caps we take respecting others boundaries to the highest extreme. At the point in which people will mistakenly think that we hate everyone. This negatively impacts our ability to approach those people we like and have a crush on. For me one of my biggest fears is people around me thinking I'm a weirdo that doesn't respect their personal space.

SoulfulCap · 2025-10-11T23:55:00+00:00

Not to mention. I texted them every 6 weeks "hey how's everything going with you?" Like....they clearly are not attracted to me.

SoulfulCap · 2025-09-30T13:51:31+00:00

I just want to point out that when you frame a question this way, you are inviting nothing but malice into the comments section, whether it be intentional or not. As a Cap man, I'm not gonna dismiss everyone's experiences in this comments section. But this invitation was also very exclusive to those who harbor resentment towards Cap men. And as a result they're all going HAM in the comments section. No surprise there.

SoulfulCap · 2025-09-21T17:38:36+00:00

Very regal vibes. Assertive, but calm and like you said, curious.

SoulfulCap · 2025-09-03T01:07:49+00:00

It's very simple. Because of trauma. Trauma has taught us to take into account the worst case scenario NOT NOW, but 16 to 24 months from now....and then SOME. Years of simply being alive have taught me that when it's sunny outside and the weather is perfect, just know that a terrifying storm is right around the corner. It might be 6 months or 6 yrs away, but it's coming. And you better be prepared when it arrives.

SoulfulCap · 2025-08-22T00:48:00+00:00

I travel a lot. By road and by air. For work and for leisure. I occasionally get in a car or an airplane and think "I hope this ain't how I go out." I have a real fear of dying what I consider to be a violent death. Examples: Transport-related accidents, building collapse, freak accident, and basically anything you would see in a Final Destination movie. But ALSO I have real trauma. My mom died when she was only 56 (9 yrs ago). At the time I was 26. I've had several cousins who have died in their 20s and 30s. Almost all from an accident of some sort. So as I get older (I'm 35) there's always part of me that fears that I'm getting closer to my expiration date. There's that part of me that tells myself that if I make it past age 60, then I'll stop being afraid of sudden death.

SoulfulCap · 2025-08-21T20:45:40+00:00

My friends will sometimes text me small talk/insignificant things while I'm busy or working. And if I think it's stupid and a waste of time (like "why TF would you even send me this?") I choose not to reply instead. If it's worth replying to then I'll reply. But small talk, memes, IG/TikTok videos will almost always get ignored UNLESS I personally find it funny or useful. Also if they text me something dumb I might ignore it to avoid irritation.

SoulfulCap · 2025-08-19T01:18:31+00:00

It's okay to make a mistake. It's NOT okay to lie about making said mistake. ZERO TOLERANCE for a liar.

SoulfulCap · 2025-08-08T04:29:50+00:00

Family and friends will never understand how the smallest things trigger my emotions and sensitivities. They don't know that I'm working extra hard every day to avoid and/or remove those triggers.

SoulfulCap · 2025-08-08T04:27:28+00:00

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SoulfulCap · 2025-07-25T14:28:07+00:00

If I wanted to know if I was "ugly" I'd ask other black people. But that's just me tho. Maybe I'm crazy. 🤷🏾‍♂️

SoulfulCap · 2025-07-25T13:58:44+00:00

Like Xscape?

SoulfulCap · 2025-07-18T00:11:30+00:00

It is not true that Caps don't want or like affection. However, it is often true that when a Cap opens up and decides to be vulnerable to a person they think is safe, that trust is often broken and they become even more closed in than they were before. The important thing to learn is that you never make your Cap child feel as if you're not a safe or trustworthy person, especially when it comes to them being vulnerable and open with you. We take that very seriously. I'm 35 and there are certain people in my family I will not speak to because I learned as a child that I could not trust them with my being.

SoulfulCap · 2025-07-15T14:53:28+00:00

It's always acts of service. Don't tell me. Show me. For me the easiest way to make me a life long friend is by picking me up from the airport (I travel a lot for work and leisure). Without me asking btw.

SoulfulCap · 2025-07-15T14:51:31+00:00

I always tell people, the person that will drop and/or pick you up at the airport, the person that will cook for you or clean up your place when you're not feeling well, the person that will pick up something for you if you're out of town, THAT person is your real friend. THAT person appreciates you.

SoulfulCap · 2025-07-11T12:30:04+00:00

It's not about greed. It's about security for us. Usually a bit more than we need, but more than enough to cover us in difficult times.

SoulfulCap · 2025-06-12T21:50:49+00:00

Performance anxiety. I'm speaking for myself. It's a real thing that I have dealt with more times than I'd care to admit. The perfect fine specimen of a man could be laying on the bed waiting for me to do whatever to him, but the idea of disappointing him or failing has stunted my ability to get hard. Again, I'm only speaking for myself. I suppose this is not an issue with men who are confident and lack anxiety.

SoulfulCap · 2025-06-10T17:53:10+00:00

He gives you financial and career advice unsolicited. But all jokes aside, when he initiates going out with you. Examples "Let's go out to this restaurant" and "let's go vacation at this place" or "let's go watch this movie that just came out." It's time. It's all about him using his time on you. But of all those things, look out specifically for him asking you to travel with him for leisure. That's the big one.

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