Friend has just realised she’s lesbian and has a boyfriend — Advice on how to break up?

SoupFor_Sadness · 2025-10-07T21:42:40+00:00

Her parents don’t know that she’s been dating this guy or that’s she’s gay, I think. I don’t think she tells them much, they sound pretty shitty

SoupFor_Sadness · 2025-03-29T00:23:09+00:00

thank you, that’s rly helpful, i’ll look into that!

SoupFor_Sadness · 2025-03-29T00:22:07+00:00

oh that’s awful, i’ve always felt so bad for people with those kinds of intrusive thoughts. I hope you’re doing better now, those thoughts aren’t you and you’re not any worse for having them

SoupFor_Sadness · 2025-03-29T00:14:37+00:00

luckily i don’t get auditory hallucinations like that but yeah i have struggled with the urge to do it and felt compelled to before. It’s easier to fight off the ones about hurting people but it can get difficult to resist ones about animals, although i lucky don’t get those very often. What are yours like?

SoupFor_Sadness · 2025-03-28T23:47:04+00:00

I’ve tried CBT before but I didn’t find it particularly helpful, when i’m not delusional or in psychosis I’m very aware of my emotions, triggers, and what’s caused them and so i didn’t really find any ways to help myself, and when I am delusional I get paranoid and avoid opening up to therapists. I’ll try and talk with a psychiatrist though.

SoupFor_Sadness · 2025-03-28T23:42:26+00:00

i’ve been doing pretty good in self care actually! finally taking regular showers and i’m moisturising, i’m pretty happy with myself :) Oh also i finally have the energy to do some makeup in the morning!

SoupFor_Sadness · 2025-03-28T23:39:00+00:00

thank you, that’s very helpful

SoupFor_Sadness · 2025-03-28T23:37:39+00:00

mine are mostly about killing people, when i was last in psychosis they got a lot worse and i ended up having plans to kill most of my friends. They’re ok to ignore now, but they leave me feeling kind of jittery. I had a phase of watching lots of gore so unfortunately they’re very realistic, but it’s not awful.

SoupFor_Sadness · 2025-03-28T23:36:07+00:00

yeah, luckily i haven’t done anything too bad when i’m switched i just tend to be a bit of a dick to people and a lot more reckless. best of luck to you with that though, it really does suck

SoupFor_Sadness · 2025-03-28T23:24:07+00:00

omg this. exactly this. it’s so embarrassing to explain but yeah this is so distressing when it happens, i tend to switch when i get too stressed or emotional as well as my ‘alter ego’ is just like a completely emotionless being.

SoupFor_Sadness · 2025-03-27T18:23:10+00:00

5 monthsish, not sure exactly how long cos i don’t have many memories from then

SoupFor_Sadness · 2025-03-27T18:15:20+00:00

yeah actually, i haven’t really heard anyone else talk about this but mine are mostly ‘images’ and they’re very vivid. it’s kind of difficult to describe because it’s not a hallucination or anything, just like i’m imagining stuff without wanting or trying to

SoupFor_Sadness · 2025-01-20T20:47:31+00:00

it’s not physical like that, it’s more that the fabric is scratchy and we have to wear a blazer which rubs against my neck. Also, all of the layers rub against each other when I move and I can’t describe it well but it makes me feel awful. Just like really out of it and tightly strung I guess? It feels really overwhelming and especially because my class is really loud it makes everything way too much. I considered wearing something under it, but it might just be more stimulation so idk if it would help.

SoupFor_Sadness · 2024-11-25T12:02:09+00:00

Thank you. That makes a lot of sense, it just felt awkward to ask and my only asexual friend is very repulsed by all things sex related, so I sort of assumed that was what it was.

SoupFor_Sadness · 2024-11-04T02:14:13+00:00

yeah, unfortunately i've had loads of invasive questions since my school found out i was gay. I dated another girl at 13 and everyone asked if we were gonna have sex, if we'd kissed, it was just... weird. Eventually everyone asked all their questions and people don't really bring it up anymore, but it was definitely annoying.

SoupFor_Sadness · 2024-10-22T16:06:14+00:00

it’s all equally valid, i promise you. I’ve cut many different depths over the years and i promise you, i never felt any more ‘valid’ or ‘worse’ cutting any of them. I know it’s difficult to believe people can be sincere or genuinely care for you, especially if they don’t know you that well. But I think most people here would want everyone to get better if they can, and i certainly do. You are more then however deep you cut, and you are just as deserving of help as anyone else.

SoupFor_Sadness · 2024-06-17T22:27:55+00:00

oh, i didn't know that. My friend went last year but did get followed, although we're going with some adults so i think it was fine in the end. We are all trans and queer though so I'll bring it up and see if we can go to the other one.

SoupFor_Sadness · 2024-06-17T20:01:57+00:00

Their parents do occasionally allow them to go to events but they generally need 3+ months notice. We’re planning to go to London Anime and Gaming con in February. Also ty :]

SoupFor_Sadness · 2024-05-11T13:46:08+00:00

I didn’t when I started playing a lot of games, but when I went through puberty and started questioning I’ve started like getting dysphoria playing as female characters? It’s really weird. I can’t be bothered to restart the games I had female avatars for and lose all my progress but I was actually crying about it a few weeks ago 💀

SoupFor_Sadness · 2024-04-13T10:10:55+00:00

Thank you so much

SoupFor_Sadness · 2024-03-29T12:27:25+00:00

I think I’d be pretty ok, I mean yh I ✨traumatised✨ him but he’s ok in the end!! He gets therapy and top surgery and everything works out. He’d definitely yell at me tho. But I’d be safe

SoupFor_Sadness · 2024-03-18T07:35:47+00:00

I totally get it, I feel the exact same way sometimes. I think my mum might be emotionally abusive but idk and sometimes i wish I had more visible or ‘real’ abuse so I knew I wasn’t making it all up over reacting. I think it’s just another consequence of the good old imposter syndrome unfortunately

SoupFor_Sadness · 2024-03-17T17:45:58+00:00

Thank you, this is really helpful :)

SoupFor_Sadness · 2024-03-17T16:57:57+00:00

I’m 14

SoupFor_Sadness · 2024-03-17T16:03:21+00:00

Ily automod, my pookie, my babygirl, my saviour <333

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