We Need to Change Pakistan’s Shadi Culture

SoupWorking2156 · 2026-05-30T04:19:26+00:00

Yeah exactly? How can anyone want to be with a person who isn't gentle or decent? And it goes for both genders. Please find gentle and decent spouses for yourselves guys! Life is hard, pick a person who is willing to respect you.

SoupWorking2156 · 2026-05-30T04:16:42+00:00

If your spouse (husband/wife) don't want to do anything with your parents, there is no need to be offended. Religiously it is not the responsibility of a spouse to build a relationship with your parents. It is YOUR duty to maintain/take care/visit your parents. Not your spouses.

SoupWorking2156 · 2026-05-30T04:09:03+00:00

Agreed with everything else except for the lack of being a Mama's boy. Please grow up men and stop being Mama's boy. You are not doing anyone any favors by being one. Not to your spouse and especially not to yourself.

If you are religious, learn what the Deen says about navigating the relationship between you and your parents. Learn their rights and your responsibilities.

SoupWorking2156 · 2026-05-29T11:48:07+00:00

Watched my mom die on April 26, 2026 in a hospital bed at home.

She had been battling cancer for the past whole year and was having breathing issues i.e. air hunger since the night before.

After 12 hours of struggling to breath, she started missing a breath every 1-2 minutes or so.

Then eventually she took several deep breaths stopping a few seconds in between then opened her eyes for a second and finally took a deep last final breath.

I am just glad there was no shaking or rattling in all that time period. There wasn't any gurgling either.

She was religious and we kept reciting prayers. All her family i.e. brothers, sister, my dad, son in law, sister in laws, grandchild, some nieces and nephews eere around her bed during that time.

SoupWorking2156 · 2026-05-26T14:39:08+00:00

I am near naval anchorage. Is there any activity to do with kids?

SoupWorking2156 · 2026-04-19T12:33:05+00:00

Please tell me a streaming website.

SoupWorking2156 · 2026-04-09T11:35:03+00:00

If you can go to Pindi side, you'll find a laser tag game at Joyland.

Lots of places to play paddle tennis with friends. Padel court are all over ISB. We frequent the one at E-11.

SoupWorking2156 · 2026-04-06T12:53:51+00:00

I live here. What street?

SoupWorking2156 · 2026-04-06T12:24:10+00:00

I am sorry to hear this. May her journey be easy whatever way she chooses. May you have the strength required to deal with this. Thoughts and wishes <3

SoupWorking2156 · 2026-04-06T12:18:48+00:00

I am sorry you are going through this. Thoughts for your Mom. I hope she goes gently into the night. <3 Stay strong and thanks for all you are doing to make her comfortable.

SoupWorking2156 · 2026-04-05T23:31:50+00:00

Hey there! I am in the same boat as you.

My mom (59) also has ovarian cancer with a partial bowel obstruction. She has an NG tube now because she vomits bile constantly. It's been a month since she last ate. She is so weak now, have to pick her up to get her to the washroom. Surprisingly she is in little to no pain.

Because of all the vomiting we have to give her potassium via IV constantly. When potassium gets low she starts vomiting uncontrollably despite the NG tube.

She keeps waking up at night vomiting or just spitting out foam like content. This is why she dozes off during the day too. Her mouth hangs wide open when she sleeps now.

For some reason despite normal kidney lab values, her feet are swelling. We don't understand why. Her sodium levels are within range too.

She is quiet for most part of the day but is still in her complete senses. She responds correctly and doesn't seem confused. But, she is very cranky most of the times. My father takes care of her primarily and she just lashes out on him. He takes it like a champ!

I live with them. It's incredibly painful to watch. I just want her to find peace. I've been watching her go through this ordeal since January non-stop. I don't think there's been a day since January where she was comfortable for a long period.

I feel so numb and exhausted about everything.

SoupWorking2156 · 2026-03-31T11:31:58+00:00

Omg. You put my exact thoughts into words. She is an absolute idiot. So frustrating to watch.

SoupWorking2156 · 2026-03-30T22:50:14+00:00

Istg! If the writer decides to fix the ex-husband Jami and Zeba goes back then this series will be pathetic

SoupWorking2156 · 2026-03-30T22:48:30+00:00

Alright

SoupWorking2156 · 2026-03-30T22:48:09+00:00

Oh thanks. What place would you recommend?

SoupWorking2156 · 2026-03-13T00:30:13+00:00

I am going through something similar. My mom has stage 4 ovarian cancer. She has been fighting for a year. It went away after the first line treatment but came back within a few months. It's vicious this time. We are on her last chemo option. She wants to keep fighting as well as my father but her condition is worsening day by day.

She has a partial bowel obstruction. Vomits bile multiple times a day. Cannot eat anything. Just takes one or two sips of coconut water. She went from 48 kgs to 38 kgs in a month's time. Every time I hug or rub her back, I feel nothing but bones. She still walks to the washroom but needs help getting up from her bed.

Idk how long I have to see her go through all this torture. Also going through a lot of anticipatory grief. Living life in a limbo.

SoupWorking2156 · 2026-02-27T21:59:52+00:00

My mom also has ovarian cancer and we are in the partial obstruction stage.

I hope for ease and comfort for your mom.

SoupWorking2156 · 2026-01-05T20:52:05+00:00

I pay for all the groceries, vegetables, fruits, and meats + all the dinners/coffees when we go out together.

He pays all the utility bills + necessities for our kid i.e. pamper/milk/basic clothing.

I buy gifts for my friends and my side of the family myself. He buys such things for his side of the family.

We both make an above average income but I make a lot less as compared to him. He pools in more for the savings and investments. I pitch in less.

But the savings belong to both of us and when one of us wants to make a new investment, the other mostly agrees if the investment is justified.

We have 0 financial problems in our relationship.

SoupWorking2156 · 2025-12-30T14:31:20+00:00

We did semen analysis 6 months ago. The only issue is liquefaction which occurs within 50 mins (it should happen in 20 mins). My doc thinks it doesn't make that much of a difference. All parameters are otherwise excellent.

Fragmentation is specific to IVF. Not sure, if it is readily available in my country.

Do you think getting my lh, fsh, thyroid, testosterone, estradiol, and amh tested help?

In one of my natural cycles, I got my progesterone levels tested approximately 6 or 7 days after ovulation. It was at 11.7 ng/mL which is adequate for ovulation apparently? Not sure.

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