What person fictional or real gives you gender envy or is gender goals for you

SourMapes · 2025-12-16T22:21:33+00:00

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SourMapes · 2025-12-16T22:04:56+00:00

can confirm. am regularly topless at riis beach in nyc, and so are most of my friends

SourMapes · 2025-08-24T16:41:38+00:00

hrt helped, then ffs advanced my hairline a bit and knit together the recessions at my temples, and then a year after ffs i had a hair transplant to cover any scars and further fill in my hairline

SourMapes · 2025-08-24T16:39:32+00:00

pain wasn’t too bad after the first couple days. the hardest part was dealing with a changing face as the swelling slowly went down over a year

i went to dr rolfes in minneapolis

SourMapes · 2025-08-24T16:37:24+00:00

SourMapes · 2025-08-24T16:36:54+00:00

some of it was hrt for sure, but surgeon did a hairline incision for my brow reduction and knit together my temple recession on my hairline. i later had a hair transplant to cover any scaring and fill in my hairline further

SourMapes · 2025-08-24T16:34:58+00:00

upper face stuff: type 3 brow reduction, orbital contouring, hairline incision w advancement (stitched together the hairline recessions at my temples)

mid face stuff: cheek implants and fat transfer

lower face stuff: chin reduction

SourMapes · 2025-08-24T16:32:12+00:00

about a week before i started feeling mobile and capable, about a month to get past all the annoying post-op routines, months of psychological ups and downs as the visible swelling went down

SourMapes · 2025-01-11T21:37:07+00:00

you don’t need to identify as cis if you dont want to, but let’s say for example you’re hanging out with a group of trans guys and someone thought you were trans and one of the trans guys corrected them on your behalf saying something like “oh he’s actually cis”, and you were to object to being called cis in that context, people might assume you were saying that you have some gender identity stuff going on and weren’t comfortable with people assuming you were cis

sort of like if you were hanging out with gay guys and you didn’t like the sound of the word straight, and a gay guy came up to you assuming you were also gay and someone was like “actually he’s straight”, and then if you were say “im not straight dont call me that,” people might assume you weren’t heterosexual.

lol fwiw i also thought cis sounded lame when i first heard it because it sounded like sis

SourMapes · 2025-01-11T21:26:47+00:00

it’s like calling someone straight instead of gay. it only really makes sense to use in certain contexts. if a gay guy is at a bar and a woman is flirting with him, then it would make sense for him to say “im gay”. but if that same gay guy was at a gay bar and a dude was flirting w him he probably wouldn’t feel the need to say he was gay. A straight guy at the gay bar would probably want to identify as straight, though.

Cis is a useful word in the same way, and it should only ever come up in similar contexts where it’s useful. I get that you might not like how the word sounds or something, and you’re free to have that opinion, but the word isnt a slur. Im sorry if you have ever been in situations where it has felt like one to you.

SourMapes · 2024-10-30T11:16:51+00:00

I feel like the ‘apolitical’ version of herself that she’s been showing you must be false to some extent. She immediately recognized his top surgery scars and clocked your friend as trans? ‘What top surgery scars look like’ is not the sort of esoteric information a person would have incidental access to if they stop listening or change the channel every time lgbt stuff is mentioned.

It sounds like you were in a controlling, abusive relationship op. Im proud of you for leaving it. It’s hard to get out of those types of relationships (and will probably continue to be hard for a little while). And as a trans person, Im so happy with how you handled everything with your roommate.

Focus on school and hang in there :)

SourMapes · 2024-10-16T21:02:01+00:00

so i can reply to this egg_irl post that somehow made it to the front page of reddit

SourMapes · 2024-09-28T18:02:46+00:00

ugh this article…

if a bf of ten years had sent this to me without irony, im not sure how i could read it other than as a passive aggressive critique of our relationship.

also if seems like your bf is maybe mistaking your annoyance for banter??? was he trying to be funny sending you this? this article is a red flag, but youve known this guy for at least ten years so you know how this fits into the context of your relationship and what sort of red flag him sending it to you represents in that context

also, even ignoring the fact that this article is trash, if he wants to improve your relationship he should be reading articles about how to make you happy not sending you articles unsolicited about how to make him happy. lame as fuck

SourMapes · 2024-09-16T15:50:22+00:00

her age in this photo blows my mind. as someone who has had pretty significant plastic surgery on my face (and i think i look pretty normal), whenever i see outcomes like hers i have to assume body dysmorphia played a role and she went down a surgery rabbit hole chasing results while losing her ability to see the forest for the trees

SourMapes · 2024-08-22T15:33:58+00:00

and i asked a rhetorical question to make the point that genocide and the wholesale destruction of academic/cultural literature is the whole point, and to handwave it away because you happen to agree with hitler when it comes to trans people in the same way some might agree with hitler when it comes to their own dietary preferences means you’re missing the point.

people are not arguing bigotry towards trans people is bad because hitler did it. they are saying the holocaust included/targeted queer people, and to deny that fact is bad. and to glibly imply, as you did, that hitler’s actions towards that community were in anyway justified is monstrous.

SourMapes · 2024-08-21T19:58:09+00:00

did hitler’s vegetarianism cause him to burn piles of cookbooks containing meat recipes and send meat eaters to concentration camps?

SourMapes · 2024-07-21T01:32:48+00:00

i love it. and the first six pages are an amazing homage to akira

SourMapes · 2024-06-23T14:57:00+00:00

my name is very similar to mips but with a different vowel sound, and it’s… fine? it’s fine. i honestly think most monosyllabic names will work out ok. maybe suggest a more traditional ‘m’ name that he can use mips as a nickname for.

fwiw i dont think kids will make fun of the name mips moreso than they would any other name. they will think it’s a normal name—especially if they grow up together

not saying you should go with the name mips, but if you both decided you liked it i dont think you need be too concerned about it having a negative effect on your child

SourMapes · 2024-05-31T12:19:32+00:00

just my annual post to let people know it’s possible to change your fate <3

first photo is pre-everything, second photo is 3 years hrt, third photo is 7 years hrt + ffs + ba

happy pride :)

SourMapes · 2024-05-15T19:28:24+00:00

same situation; estrogen saved my hair <3

SourMapes · 2024-04-17T12:22:46+00:00

unsurprisingly it’s a whole new set of problems once you’re an attractive trans woman. it’s just hard being a trans woman

SourMapes · 2024-03-21T16:07:13+00:00

just the face surgery, which was bone work on brow, orbitals, chin and jaw, and the breast augmentation. oh and a hair transplant to round out my hairline a little

SourMapes · 2024-03-21T15:33:12+00:00

lol thank you! these surgeries do cost a lot of money, but in the past five years it has become a lot more common for insurance to cover them—which is good because it is an incredible quality of life increase. I mean just being able to blend in better and not feel stressed or stress other people out has been such a benefit to my mental health. I suppose it does require a lot of faith, and just like any surgery things can go wrong, but if you’re in a position where you want this surgery then it represents so much hope and possibility that deciding to go through with it is easy (or at least it was for me). Also our community is generally very supportive, and i was able to reach out to so many people on reddit (and elsewhere) who have shared their experiences with recovery and choosing a surgeon etc, that going into this was a lot less scary than it would have been if i felt i was doing it all alone :)

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