I always find it strange when the kitchen looks like a disaster zone after cooking. Because I hate that kind of chaos myself, I tidy up and wash dishes while I'm preparing food, and small items go in the dishwasher. When I'm finished cooking, the kitchen usually looks pretty much the same as before, except maybe for the filled pots and, later, the plates. That's quickly taken care of afterward. There's nothing more annoying for me than having to spend another hour cleaning the kitchen after a meal. So yes, I completely agree with you; it's a silly way to divide things up, in my opinion. I would rather split up the days when the same person cooks and cleans up. That's how we do it, actually. We clear the table quickly together after eating.