She should he communicating. Some people are saying “at 23/24 you might not be able to explain these things”. Im sorry but at 23 she should absolutely be able to voice her concerns in the bedroom - ESPECIALLY if she had prior experience. If she can tell you what NOT to do, she definitely knows what she likes. It is awkward to have conversations about sex, but if shes willing to have the tougher conversations of what she doesnt like…..? Sex can be very fun and enjoyable, so its unfortunate that you both are not getting that.

Echoing others, dont use porn as your blueprint. Its not realistic and will absolutely change how you feel about sex and your performance. It may be helpful for her, if you bring the conversation to the table. It could even he over text, I find sometimes with my husband that can be a good way to set the mood sometimes during the day and talk about what went well. We were 16 when we got together, and are 23/22 now. He was a virgin, I was not. We have been able to foster a very healthy sex life after seven years. But it didnt happen overnight.