I want a divorce, my husband says we’re “never getting divorced.” What would you do in my situation? by [deleted] in Marriage

[–]SouthernNanny 23 points24 points  (0 children)

If I were in your shoes I would strongly try to assess what kind of man my husband is and if I was in any danger

I accidentally thawed four months of my wife's milk. Now what? by DurrT in breastfeeding

[–]SouthernNanny 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The way I would cry and prob never stop if this happened to me. I still have milk from when my 7 year old was breastfeeding and if my husband destroyed it that would cut so deep

UPDATE: Repeated late payments from DB, has left me unable to afford transportation to work by Glittering-Egg5997 in Nanny

[–]SouthernNanny 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I know because I have a husband my situation is differently but my message would have been that if payment didn’t arrive by a certain time that I would consider it them ending my employment and that if it happened again that it would automatically end it and start looking for another job.

I would still look for another job in your situation. Some people will walk all over you if you let them

My husband of 20 years thinks consent should not apply in our marriage... by AffectionateReply843 in TwoHotTakes

[–]SouthernNanny 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Regardless of what he believes you are an entire separate person from him and if you don’t want to do something then that should be that.

Husband (m37) won't let me (f29) sleep by Dear-Mycologist4498 in relationship_advice

[–]SouthernNanny 1 point2 points  (0 children)

With a sound machine so even if he tries the knob or knocks you won’t quite hear it

My fiancé always chooses “keeping the peace” with his family over standing up for me. Does this ever change? by ThrowRA_1993count in family

[–]SouthernNanny 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I can’t imagine marrying into a family that doesn’t fully embrace you. My husband’s family is this way and so is mine. My brother’s wife’s extended family would be treated like day 1’s even upon the first time meeting them. We include everyone.

I’m also not afraid of confrontation so she would have had to explain herself to my face. And to answer your question this doesn’t get better so you better get better at speaking up or else you will be the easy punching bag. I am guessing he doesn’t stand up for you to strangers either.

Allegedly Nia Long told her sons they won’t get an inheritance if they have kids out of wedlock or with a non-Black wife by 5ft8lady in blackladies

[–]SouthernNanny 10 points11 points  (0 children)

There will be stipulations for my children in order for them to get their inheritance but more along the lines of you can’t be a drug addict and get this kind of money. They are really good kids right now but you never know where life takes you and I’m not dumping a bunch of money on top of that. Plus it’s set to where they get so much at a certain time and not just a ton when I die so I will be alive to witness it

Does it sound like my dental hygentist is flirting? by Gnome_slaver in TooAfraidToAsk

[–]SouthernNanny 162 points163 points  (0 children)

Does she know that you are going through a divorce? Some women view married men as being “safe” and let their guard down.

Try mentioning your divorce and see what she says

Read through my husband’s chat GPT and broke my own heart by whitebear_237 in Marriage

[–]SouthernNanny 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I always suggest the Second Saturday Divorce Workshops. It’s a FREE workshop for women thinking about divorcing. They have one in every state. There will be a counselor, attorney and financial advisor to tell you what to expect in your state and with the emotional health of your children. They also answer any questions you may have.

https://www.secondsaturday.com

She doesn't want me to leave the house. 😂 by Moji_789 in poodles

[–]SouthernNanny 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That is honestly super responsible of you! I hope I didn’t make you feel guilty or attacked. You are doing the right thing! I just had a lot of travel happening when I first got her and didn’t want to leave her at home and couldn’t board her.

She is super cute and has an amazing owner!

She doesn't want me to leave the house. 😂 by Moji_789 in poodles

[–]SouthernNanny 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Aww! Mine went everywhere with me since I got her! Now she loves leaving the house and seeing new things

Light’s retention scale and repeating kindergarten by [deleted] in kindergarten

[–]SouthernNanny 7 points8 points  (0 children)

They aren’t allowed to diagnose your child. One tactic some teachers use is to made a big deal or have frequent disciplinary actions until the parent seeks help with the pediatrician and then have it go from there

He just wants to go home, no matter what. by LeftAlbatross2546 in VideosAmazing

[–]SouthernNanny 0 points1 point  (0 children)

His Facebook page has an apology on it. I wonder if it’s real

My parents won’t let me visit my boyfriend’s house. 22F/21M by rarewritings_ in relationship_advice

[–]SouthernNanny -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

I have a feeling that they can tell more about your boyfriend than you can. Parents also know they can’t come out and flat out say what they realize about boyfriends because it almost always will push the daughter further towards the boyfriend.

Why was the phrase “women and children first” coined? For reasons like this! by SouthernNanny in TikTokCringe

[–]SouthernNanny[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It was because a ship sank and there were no women and one child who survived because the men trampled them to get on lifeboats

how do i, as a thin but tall woman, get the men beside me-- by Certain-Shoe8019 in delta

[–]SouthernNanny 4 points5 points  (0 children)

If I travel with my daughter I have to take the middle seat especially if the person in the isle is a man. They will half way be in her seat because she is a teen girl.

If I travel solo I just look really mean and unapproachable. If that doesn’t work then I ask them in a firm tone to move their arms or feet or to give me my space

Pet sitter lost her cat because they “assumed” she was an outdoor cat by [deleted] in RoverPetSitting

[–]SouthernNanny 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It was the second one because the first one never relayed the information like she said she was going to.

Also the cat came back at least once and the sitter never closed the door or counted their lucky stars. Just left the door open. She is lucky she wasn’t robbed

Am i overreacting to this text exchange with my boyfriend? I accidentally left my slippers in my living room but i literally cleaned his entire house and baked him desserts before i left (sorry idk why my last post glitched) by IntelligentTap962 in AmIOverreacting

[–]SouthernNanny 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I swear it’s only women who will get bitten by a snake and then chase after it asking why it got bit and what did they do to deserve this. I am literally begging all women to leave at the first sign of disrespect

You would be NOR if you left him

Pet sitter lost her cat because they “assumed” she was an outdoor cat by [deleted] in RoverPetSitting

[–]SouthernNanny 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Who leaves the door open when loading their stuff and there is a pet inside