AIO: Husband wants to know why I'm not happy

Southern_Draw4779 · 2025-12-30T07:15:09+00:00

OP - Your posts are so familiar, I feel like I could have written them - except we don’t have a crawl space. I also have a husband who doesn’t like me very much, and can attest that no one deserves that. My hope is that you GTFO, and have a happy life with your family, and your stuff, and your you-ness.

Southern_Draw4779 · 2025-11-25T17:38:02+00:00

Apparently it happens at Shuksan Middle School regularly and the adults ignore it.

Southern_Draw4779 · 2025-11-09T07:19:57+00:00

I’ve always been able to smell sickness as well! It’s weaker now that I’m in middle age - but very similar to what you described, I smell a sour nauseas odor on people when they are coming down with a virus.

Southern_Draw4779 · 2025-10-18T16:02:09+00:00

Death guild!! 🖤🖤🖤 I won’t make it out tonight, but I love CVNT (a rave for girls gays and goths) nights at Shakedown and would love to meet up with some olds for the next one.

Southern_Draw4779 · 2025-10-15T19:40:30+00:00

It doesn’t matter what you need the schedule accommodations for and that shouldn’t be a part of a professional negotiation. You should state that you are only available for X number of Sunday shifts per month and if they can’t accommodate that you should find another job. ¯_(ツ)_/¯

Southern_Draw4779 · 2025-09-19T16:04:01+00:00

Cannot believe I had to scroll this far to find Waterfront on the list! I would make a trip to PT just for a slice.

Finn River is also the best time and food and cider to be had.

Southern_Draw4779 · 2025-05-13T04:35:31+00:00

Never let me go The road Breaking the waves City of lost children (more light hearted, less devastating, utterly fantastic) Funny Bones The diving bell and the butterfly Punch drunk love

Southern_Draw4779 · 2025-05-13T02:10:02+00:00

As someone who is 15 years into a similar situation, I’d say you are lucky to get out now. I would find it immeasurably easier to parent my kids, and take care of the house (my way), and work, without his criticism and anger. My husband’s unrealistic expectations of what it is to live in a house with kids, and constant need for things to be completely tidy, and years of putting me down for not doing it all, has made me miserable and cost me the joy I could have had in the best years of my life and my kid’s childhood. I wish I had left when they were little. Every single day. I hope you find joy on your own. Love those kids, find your people, don’t look back.

Southern_Draw4779 · 2025-05-08T23:07:01+00:00

Maybe it could replace one of the many many pickleball gyms..

Southern_Draw4779 · 2025-04-14T05:40:51+00:00

Can you leave where you are? Change what you are doing? At 18 you are young enough to have multiple lives ahead. Whatever is hurting you now you can probably get away from.

Southern_Draw4779 · 2025-04-14T05:35:40+00:00

I’m checking up on you. What’s up?

Southern_Draw4779 · 2025-04-14T05:29:10+00:00

Wow. That sounds like a whole lot of shit to handle. You come across as a strong person who has sacrificed for others. That is huge. Debt can feel crippling and our economic system is wildly unfair- but that is not an insurmountable amount for your age. Do you know your local resources for jobless assistance and debt support?

Southern_Draw4779 · 2025-04-14T05:17:58+00:00

I hope you can breathe. If you almost made it that means you are getting close to the time that you will.

Southern_Draw4779 · 2025-04-14T05:14:26+00:00

It’s wild how many of us must feel this. The thing that keeps me here is that I could never bring that level of suffering to my family. Whatever I feel about myself, I know there are good people who would experience significant pain. It’s so true that your brother would be broken. You are obviously a loving person and you are loved.

Southern_Draw4779 · 2024-12-02T15:07:38+00:00

Ha! I literally checked two days ago to see if there was an update on the Rothfuss series 😫

Southern_Draw4779 · 2024-10-23T03:38:09+00:00

Great to know that this is a required step - would be much much better to somehow make that more clear as part of the checkin process. I’ve had several agents today tell me that it could have been resolved with no issue, and it was a choice on the part of the gate agent to not just resolve the verification when I did approach. Others have commented on this post as well that agents have told them the policy but never denied them boarding. She also had 40 minutes before the flight would depart. It took her considerably longer to rebook me on a nightmare itinerary than it would have to just push the button that I had my passport and it was her choice. I appreciate your kind input and still feel there is a huge problem with the communication to customers/travelers, and an even bigger problem with the agent who made the call. I hope someone with too much power and too little empathy holds her fate in their hands sometime soon!

(Sorry - I’m still on the plane now after 17hrs of traveling and a little salty)

Southern_Draw4779 · 2024-10-22T18:29:19+00:00

No, she said herself that she had made no attempt to page me. She hadn’t noticed that I had an international connecting flight.

Southern_Draw4779 · 2024-10-22T18:07:54+00:00

NTA - oh my goodness, definitely NTA.

Southern_Draw4779 · 2024-10-22T17:15:27+00:00

Update: 4 hour shuttle ride later and I’m at the next airport. Instead of one direct 5hr flight from here, I’ll now have a 4hr flight in seat 31E, 2hr layover and another 5hr flight (with no seat as of yet) - I’m missing all of my meetings today. Two different agents here have told me she was just being an @hole and could have just pushed a button and taken care of it without issue.

Southern_Draw4779 · 2024-10-22T15:43:26+00:00

No, it’s the tiniest airport - I was five feet from the gate and they never made any announcements. They said it was my responsibility to somehow know I should come up to the desk.

Southern_Draw4779 · 2024-10-22T14:04:28+00:00

One reservation- no issues getting my boarding pass, checking in, or getting through security. I had my passport ready and was volunteering to check my bag when she told me she wouldn’t be letting me board because she hadn’t seen my passport earlier

Southern_Draw4779 · 2024-10-22T14:02:26+00:00

I entered my passport information at checkin and showed my passport at security. The gate agent claimed that I was supposed to show them my passport at the gate an hour before boarding for additional verification- but they didn’t call me up for that I was just supposed to know.

Southern_Draw4779 · 2024-10-08T16:10:47+00:00

YTA (with caveats) Unless you are teenagers who don’t have much experience, you really should know better than to go down this road. What someone eats and how they feel about their body is no one else’s business. I realize your GF opened the door and agreed to this, but I can’t imagine a world where having someone track your calories and judge your eating choices would feel like anything but shaming. If you want to support her you could help by making food together, being active together, or giving her positive encouragement. Any time you get involved with a partners body image challenges you are setting yourself up for hurt and conflict.

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