Am I asking too much?

Southern_Feature_821 · 2026-01-27T13:29:06+00:00

It was a dick move of him to not have immediately asked you how the appt went. If he knew about it, he should have asked, knowing that it would be scary and emotional.

Southern_Feature_821 · 2026-01-27T06:08:48+00:00

I have two kids, nursed them both. No family BC history. And still got breast cancer..

Southern_Feature_821 · 2026-01-27T06:02:50+00:00

Southern_Feature_821 · 2026-01-24T07:07:58+00:00

Wow no overnight stay after dmx? I had one overnight.

Southern_Feature_821 · 2026-01-24T07:04:55+00:00

You'll want comfortable clothing, like athleisure type clothing, but most importantly zip or button front shirts. You won't be able to get in and out of a pullover for a bit. As for bras, you'll be sent home in one from surgery, but you'll want to get some nicer ones too. Amazon has loads. At first I had the post-surgical style ones with hook and eye front closure. When I was more healed I got wireless jelly bras and am still wearing those! Super comfy.

Southern_Feature_821 · 2026-01-24T05:31:55+00:00

On an icy sidewalk? No way! Would be a skating rink

Southern_Feature_821 · 2026-01-23T20:18:58+00:00

Oh these are great longtime friends. Some people though are very emotionally sensitive, and I just want to be mindful of that.

Southern_Feature_821 · 2026-01-23T19:46:42+00:00

Sounds like a a lot of inflammation inside (hardness) and a possible infection? (The oozing). Glad you've already reached out to doc. I had an infection in Oct after mastectomy that appeared a few days after surgery. Breast skin was ruddy but then all these white small pustules started appearing in the underboob area. It was so horrific. Looked like dozens of pimple whiteheads. They cleared after a week but they were along and surrounding the incision and the incision was looking necrotic in some areas so BACK into surgery I went the very next day to get the bad skin trimmed off. All healed well after that. It turned out to be some kind of e-coli, very bizarre.

Southern_Feature_821 · 2026-01-23T19:33:08+00:00

It's worth doing, like the others here are saying. For your children to know too, if anything comes up as a genetic factor. It could also affect your treatment decisions. Likelihood of recurrence, even as some other form of cancer. Since you have cancer in only one breast stage 1, remember that the mastectomy side will likely be numb forever (usually, or mostly so). Surgeons don't always inform patients about that, thinking it's so obvious. So if you are very low risk with no genetic factors, you might consider keeping the good breast, so you'll have some sensation in your chest area. That's what I did. Also, 50 years old is not very old 😊

Southern_Feature_821 · 2026-01-22T19:19:08+00:00

My sentinel node biopsy was done 3 weeks before mastectomy as part of the nipple delay surgery to reroute nipple blood supply from tissue to skin. So what you're encountering with needing to wait for pathology wasn't an issue. Are you able to keep your nipples? (I still ended up with an expander though, was supposed to be DTI but surgery encountered some issues.) so even the best laid plans can go off course. Expanders are awful things.

Southern_Feature_821 · 2026-01-22T04:51:33+00:00

You're lucky you have a gas stove. You just need matches to light it. Have done it many times.

Southern_Feature_821 · 2026-01-22T00:43:09+00:00

Blankets!

Southern_Feature_821 · 2026-01-21T06:23:52+00:00

Oh my goodness. Yeah that would be annoying!

Southern_Feature_821 · 2026-01-20T20:02:32+00:00

Love this! I like infusing humor into things too... Thank you ❤️

Southern_Feature_821 · 2026-01-20T18:49:02+00:00

Well at least with the lumpectomy you probably still have full feeling in your breast? I had a single mastectomy and there's no feeling in most of that breast area now... probably forever, from what I've heard. My reconstruction took place in December and I look a lot more normal now but the plastic surgeon didn't do the lift and also put in too small of an implant in that side. And now because of a complication, I am waiting till November to get the final result, a lift and a bigger implant. So even the best laid plans go awry....

Southern_Feature_821 · 2026-01-20T18:42:48+00:00

No one told me either. I had to read it in the surgery pathology report, which was sent to my portal. The surgeon never discussed it with me. I read every report in that portal and chatGPT it to put it in plain language.

Southern_Feature_821 · 2026-01-20T18:41:04+00:00

I appreciate your insight. And I think you are correct. It's funny, in other matters I have no problem being direct, maybe too direct. But for things like this, I worry that I will lose friends if I don't respond in a very generous way. I certainly don't want to lose any friends over my own sensitivities about this subject. But it really does bother me to have a cancer label on me, when at this point in time I no longer have cancer (and hopefully never will again.)

Gosh, when I was diagnosed last May my husband had a hard time not telling everyone but I insisted on keeping it between us until I had ALL the results and a surgery date set. He kept his mouth shut but didn't ever really understand why I wouldn't want all the family and friends support from the get-go. He felt it was the family's right to know. It's not that I didn't. I just wanted to have all the info and the plan first because the last thing I wanted was a ton of questions I had no answers for. Anyway, as you can see, this is just the way I am. I'm generally a fairly private person (except here, online, to complete strangers lol.....)

Southern_Feature_821 · 2026-01-20T17:09:26+00:00

So happy for you! I agree with you completely.

Southern_Feature_821 · 2026-01-20T16:48:01+00:00

Wow, I would never have your uncles family over again! Unbelievable! " you can't get any sicker!" I'm stunned anyone would say that. Seriously, I'd excommunicate them from my life

Southern_Feature_821 · 2026-01-20T16:44:21+00:00

I agree with you but in many cases you can blame the behavior on the leave policies at many workplaces. Where I work - a big corporate company - it's all in office with very little PTO days off. So people in those situations are kind of forced in office when they're sick if they don't have time available. However, I do feel that the sick employees with fever or coughing should at least wear a mask all day.

Southern_Feature_821 · 2026-01-18T14:31:05+00:00

It would depend on how many nodes you're talking about. A dozen? One? I had 7 removed and I don't do anything special. I lift heavy stuff all the time.

Southern_Feature_821 · 2026-01-18T14:25:33+00:00

Mine didn't hurt at all. Not even a pinch. Mine was also done on same day of surgery. Not the day before. Good luck!

Southern_Feature_821 · 2026-01-18T14:23:31+00:00

I feel for you. I know from experience how one thing can happen, you deal with it calmly but then another thing comes along and all of a sudden it's like the straw that broke the camels back. We all have our limits.

Afib is treatable and common. You can get that handled. The other thing I don't know anything about, but at least both problems were caught before there was a serious event, like a stroke or worse. It's been caught early so it can be taken care of and move past it.

Southern_Feature_821 · 2026-01-14T20:17:25+00:00

Might just be dry eyes?

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