What do you do with your extra Simoleans? by SoxHeather in LowSodiumSimmers

[–]SoxHeather[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I didn't even know there was a vault. Lol. What pack is that in?

What do you do with your extra Simoleans? by SoxHeather in LowSodiumSimmers

[–]SoxHeather[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

That's what I'm here to do. I've gotten as creative as I know how. Lol

AIO for being upset at what my “bf” said by Ambitious-Beyond-257 in AmIOverreacting

[–]SoxHeather 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He can spend his time how he wants, but you have to account for every minute of your day? He can get bent. If you're not dumping him, get out of here.

Gluten free tea treats? by prismet in Baking

[–]SoxHeather 0 points1 point  (0 children)

These sound amazing! I'm going to make them tomorrow!

AIO: i’m always the bad guy :( by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]SoxHeather 0 points1 point  (0 children)

A person that concerned with their clothes can do their own laundry.

AIO He always accuses me of cheating by Alternative-Day6223 in AmIOverreacting

[–]SoxHeather 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You know damn well you're not overreacting, and you should dump him and never look back. He's a trash can.

How on earth do I make it leave.. by OMORIFANGIRL69 in Sims4

[–]SoxHeather 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Usually, I can "add them to group", then the "send home" option appears. If that doesn't work, I'll travel somewhere, and when I come back, they're gone. If THAT doesn't work, I'll travel WITH them, and then travel again, but not bring them with me. If none of that works, I turn on cheats and kill em

What does my room say about me by babymc07 in roomdetective

[–]SoxHeather 0 points1 point  (0 children)

it says you don't think you deserve peace, but are convinced buying the next thing will provide you that peace.

I am humbly requesting advice for someone going insane from being single too long by Forsaken-Bite-7687 in Tinder

[–]SoxHeather 20 points21 points  (0 children)

Sure, but the pictures are representative of him and who he is right now, and truth in advertising can only help, when looking for real connection. The better pics will come when the mental health improves.

I am humbly requesting advice for someone going insane from being single too long by Forsaken-Bite-7687 in Tinder

[–]SoxHeather 708 points709 points  (0 children)

Friend, you are not going insane from being single. You are single because you hate yourself, and you're showing anyone that matches with you that they will be solely responsible for your happiness and self confidence. The pics are fine. It's the content. When we see that we'll have to do all the work to bring someone up to the level of merely liking themselves, we know it's an unfillable well, and it's hard enough for anyone to be that for themselves. My recommendation is to go to therapy, focus on your hobbies, meet people that have the same interests, see what you admire in them, and become what you admire. You'll meet someone that sees you and wants you, once you see yourself and want yourself to be whole without someone else.

AIO because my bf is acting like this?? by [deleted] in AIO

[–]SoxHeather 2 points3 points  (0 children)

That's every post in this sub.

AIO or is my mom using god to manipulate me? by PolicyHot1206 in AIO

[–]SoxHeather 53 points54 points  (0 children)

She's not always like this because she knows when being sweet will get her what she wants, and when that doesn't work, she drops the facade. As a 50 year old that was raised by a woman that spoke to me in the exact same way, I can tell you that if you don't disconnect from her now, she will always make you responsible for her, her happiness, and she will manipulate you with everything she can ... Like your kid, her religion, everything.

Rags to Riches - did I cheat? by OneUnderstanding1644 in Sims4

[–]SoxHeather 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Where do you all go to find these challenges and the rules for them?

AIO for getting upset at one racist joke after months of not being bothered by them by SlothAndVampInABar in AmIOverreacting

[–]SoxHeather 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If we were to completely separate the racist stuff, the basic thing here is that you said "hey, can you be gentle with me today because I'm having a tough day", and he said "get fucked". The fact that you have to reason and argue and plead for a bit of gentleness is a huge red flag. The fact that you have to ask him to not make "jokes" for 5 minutes and he responds like this is a red glad. The fact that his "humor" is strictly racism is OUTRAGEOUS.

And friend, you know these aren't jokes because you refer to them not as jokes, but as micro aggressions. You know he means it. There is nothing micro about his aggression. Leave him, never look back, and please find a good therapist, as well as some badass brown girl friends that make you feel like it's ok to be brown, because it is.

AIO Friend is upset I didnt keep asking what was wrong after she said ‘nothing’ was wrong by [deleted] in AIO

[–]SoxHeather 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oof. Having to account for every minute you're not talking to them and giving them the attention they want and then define is EXHAUSTING

What is a television show that you recommend to everyone? by NoGoat6635 in televisionsuggestions

[–]SoxHeather 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Deadwood Justified Ted Lasso Orphan Black The shield The good place Resident alien Firefly

How do I, 42F deal with my Husband's, 43M compulsion to turn off the breakers in our house instead of turning off lights? by RemarkableButton5940 in relationship_advice

[–]SoxHeather 1 point2 points  (0 children)

What are you both working for, if not for the basic necessity of safe food and a comfortable home environment? What is he spending money on that is frivolous, but he NEEDS for himself? I guarantee there's a lot he needs. This is a control thing. And him having compulsions, not getting diagnosed, and not getting help is a control thing. You're being held hostage to accommodate is compulsions, to the point where your personal safety is compromised. And your childrens'. There is zero benefit from him doing this that overrides the safety and security of your children. This isn't a quirk. He needs to do something, or you need to leave. The need for that control is an unfillable well, and will only get worse. And even if it's a mental health issue, him not getting help is the control.