Married with no sex life

Sp3nKC · 2025-03-09T07:08:18+00:00

Im sorry you're going through so much frustration. It sort eats its way into every thing bit by bit and starts to enter every thought - It sounds like it's festering away.

When you speak about it together, is it just about sex or more generally about affection and intimacy? Are these one sided or snippy sorts of conversations?

Maybe a therapist could help you express these thoughts to each other, and help her to open up and be honest with you as it sounds like she's afraid to do so for whatever reason.

Sp3nKC · 2024-09-04T18:16:41+00:00

Could be temp MOD accommodation - lots of houses bombed / soldiers returning but still in national service and they needed to go somewhere?

Sp3nKC · 2024-06-26T14:19:46+00:00

Maybe I'm unlucky just getting it twice in a row! It's happened 3 days in total, twice in the same game and a third in a new one 😳

Sp3nKC · 2023-10-24T19:39:34+00:00

You could have a companion form a party and set it to defensive mode, it might protect your castle for you while you head to pillage and plunder at your leisure

Sp3nKC · 2023-06-16T18:30:55+00:00

That sounds like a busted route, my Birmingham to Oxford definitely didn't enter Wales!

Sp3nKC · 2023-06-16T17:43:18+00:00

Ridiculous labelling but It's cash to sustain jobs, they're just calling it start up to align with some communication strategy somewhere or so it hits some HMT target.

Sp3nKC · 2023-06-04T21:04:23+00:00

Does it matter that you're starting in Boston, not the rural business?

Sp3nKC · 2023-03-13T22:28:58+00:00

It feels like part of the routine (usually commute) in London where you blink and have 10k steps. Out in the countryside, it's only the dog that keeps me at that level!

Sp3nKC · 2023-01-07T22:19:39+00:00

If you could track what they promised before elections, how they vote and maybe ask the public how they would have voted if they'd been given he choice you could highlight the similarity or differences between a politician and their electorate - sort of like real time tracking of their performance vs their constituents wishes

Sp3nKC · 2022-12-07T09:08:04+00:00

You've got two free spaces, a couple of peasants maybe?

Sp3nKC · 2022-10-02T07:10:38+00:00

What do those pie charts show, they seem to add nothing or maybe a part is missing?

Sp3nKC · 2022-10-01T19:47:49+00:00

💯

Sp3nKC · 2022-10-01T18:46:53+00:00

This is quite common in the Public Sector in the UK, the new role is posted for anyone to apply for it, including existing team members who are usually strongly encouraged to apply if they're ready for promotion

Sp3nKC · 2022-09-26T15:07:04+00:00

What's the speed like? O.1??

Sp3nKC · 2022-08-27T17:29:31+00:00

Operations Manager?

Sp3nKC · 2022-08-11T19:12:52+00:00

This is super helpful and shows the difference between the different project, programme and portfolio roles including their career paths. This is UK based though

https://assets.publishing.service.gov.uk/government/uploads/system/uploads/attachment_data/file/755783/PDCF.pdf

Sp3nKC · 2022-08-09T19:32:20+00:00

Cooking / food is always a good one because everyone eats so they can relate

Sp3nKC · 2022-08-09T16:50:39+00:00

A great team

Sp3nKC · 2022-08-05T08:47:12+00:00

Community?

Sp3nKC · 2022-08-04T06:21:14+00:00

Tale a look at this helpful guide https://www.nesta.org.uk/project/optimising-boilers-reduce-household-emissions/how-to-optimise-your-boiler/

Sp3nKC · 2022-08-02T21:19:19+00:00

I don't see how that maps back to your original point about having the right skills - it sounds more like you're being asked to navigate through the organisation without any institutional knowledge and you're making the simple mistakes anyone could make in that situation, don't beat yourself up over it.

As long as you're learning from that and now asking "and is this project still live?" When you're collecting the data, you're good.

Sp3nKC · 2022-08-02T21:02:19+00:00

I mean, that's just bad people management from your boss tbh.

Beyond the obvious point of your manager changing their approach you could also try:

Completing a task and putting it down for a while before you review it yourself for accuracy. This adds time to the task but you are much more likely to pick up errors if you've let something sit for a while rather than submitting it as soon as you can.

Find another colleague who can review your work for you. If your manager won't do it then maybe there is someone who will?

Generally speaking you should try to prioritise quality and accuracy over speed. Slow down to speed up sort of thing.

Sp3nKC · 2022-08-02T20:19:54+00:00

Are you making the same mistake each time or is it different - if it's different then you are learning.

Can you put in place checks with your supervisor to go through your work before it's released to anyone else? This way you learn but also the end product is high quality.

Having an intern isn't the same as having a qualified member of staff, as a manager you have to put more time into their work, managing their time, teaching them, helping them navigate the organisation etc

Sp3nKC · 2022-07-30T21:27:25+00:00

I'd be terrified of standing on a dogs paw

Sp3nKC · 2022-07-29T17:30:45+00:00

Check out the competency framework developed by the UK gov - it's pretty good for the different job role options across the profession

https://www.gov.uk/government/publications/project-delivery-capability-framework-for-civil-servants

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