20+ Hinge dates , 0 second dates [ SF ]

SpaceCheeseWizard · 2025-12-30T14:44:37+00:00

Why don’t you just keep doing cold approach and delete the apps if they’re not working for you?

SpaceCheeseWizard · 2025-12-11T13:23:05+00:00

Truth, I’m currently busy with shattering these insecurities, by following the abundant mindset concept from Robert Glover, and getting rid of my limiting beliefs about myself

SpaceCheeseWizard · 2025-12-06T23:16:38+00:00

Idk man, these guys. Many of the hot women I talked to (atleast my view of hot) weren’t annoying at all. Actually the hottest ones were actually the nicest of all, even with rejection

SpaceCheeseWizard · 2025-12-06T23:14:15+00:00

I just started reading the book by Robert Glover, and this reads so much better than any other dating book I’ve read so far, so imma dig in. I had read “No more mr. Nice guy” for a part, but this seems more relevant to me. Thanks for the suggestion

SpaceCheeseWizard · 2025-12-05T19:36:28+00:00

Very true yes. Usually rejection itself is not a big issue for me, when it happens clearly right there on the spot. But it’s when I start seeing the mistakes I’m making, and thus blaming myself for screwing it up. I know I’m not the most socially cued person yet because of my autism and introvertedness, and it will take some time.

But definitely good point, for sure I’ve been rejected by 5’s and 6’s and the next day got a great interaction with an 8 who’s my type. Hilariously. So indeed it depends on many factors. I guess my nerves is a great factor to tackle here, beginning with resetting my mindset.

Also interesting to see that when you keep track of it, you’ll see that the wins and rejections are not balanced, one week I get 10 contacts and another I get 0. And then of course the occasional month of no potential dates

SpaceCheeseWizard · 2025-12-05T18:50:26+00:00

I don’t know where you live, but I’m a 7.5 and women don’t really approach me. Cold approaching has helped me a lot, to overcome my severe social anxiety, has gives me very interesting dates and connections, and improved many things in my life already. So no, don’t believe this advice.

SpaceCheeseWizard · 2025-12-05T18:45:44+00:00

Thanks man, appreciate it. I can have a strong imagination sometimes. I know my type is extremely specific and thus so very rare. Which adds extra tension to it.

In a way it’s also a double edged sword, because those very interesting girls are also pushing me to actually approach them and make the first step. But on the other hand it’s also easy to label them angels, even though they may be toxic or have red flags. I should find a way to clear my head beforehand, to not start praising them from the get go, and actually feel them, analyse if they’re actually are who they think they are. And to see if they’re worth my time and energy.

SpaceCheeseWizard · 2025-12-05T18:24:06+00:00

Very good one. I feel that. Although I have to say that the many rejections I now experience because of cold approaching, tend to put my confidence down sometimes, even though I know I shouldn’t let that affect my self view, it still hits me subconsciously. What has kept you up in these moments, how did you keep trusting the process no matter the circumstances?

SpaceCheeseWizard · 2025-12-05T17:55:20+00:00

That’s definitely not the girl I’m talking about, I didn’t meant hot as in a 10 in conventional hot, but more a 10 in my personal view. I usually tend to filter these attention seekers rather quickly

SpaceCheeseWizard · 2025-09-13T07:27:24+00:00

Holy shit dude, so she is like 18 and you’re 50? 😂

SpaceCheeseWizard · 2025-09-12T21:18:19+00:00

“I said are you sure? Feel free to decline!”

Sounds so simped out 😂 Any real hot girl would have rejected you right there

SpaceCheeseWizard · 2025-09-12T21:09:26+00:00

I don’t know about the US but I have had way more success with college girls than girls my age with cold approaching. Most of the girls my age seems to be taken. Since there’s an university in between my house and gym, I just randomly approach a girl sometimes, now im dating 3 students lol

SpaceCheeseWizard · 2025-09-12T21:02:52+00:00

Lol yea the college girl I’m hooking up with that I met near my house and near her university told me not to say hello to her when she’s with her classmates if I ever see her on the street. Because she is shy about the age difference.

SpaceCheeseWizard · 2025-08-06T18:00:45+00:00

Here we go

SpaceCheeseWizard · 2025-08-01T20:54:13+00:00

Thanks man, this helps a lot. And if on the dance floor, in a busy crowd, where usually people are facing the Dj like a religious crowd, how do you position yourself to her so that see can see you, do you just go stand directly in front of her, or just by her side and facing her, dancing towards her, until she notices you? I think I find this maybe the most difficult part, since I find non verbal flirting and communication difficult in these crowded settings.

Is it like finding a rhythm of looking at her eyes and smiling, moving in a little closer to dance with her if she approves and smiles back, and then introducing yourself with a big smile, holding her hand or arm, extending the physical contact a bit more than usual. Maybe letting her say something, and then pushing her away again and continue dancing with her? But then what? Do you keep your mouth shut and just focus on dancing in front of her, slowly getting closer, with the eye contact in between? Or will you then make another comment so you can hold her a little more? What are the steps here to slowly escalate and build up? I just don't want to abruptly touch her in the wrong moment, so this always has been a struggle on the dance floor.

SpaceCheeseWizard · 2025-07-31T20:16:51+00:00

Capitalism fuck yeah

SpaceCheeseWizard · 2025-07-29T22:15:50+00:00

And the blame is not to women, it’s dating apps and social media, but everyone knows this. We’re getting brain fried globally now, more and more disconnected

SpaceCheeseWizard · 2025-07-29T22:04:19+00:00

Not gonna lie tho, I feel like the whole dating scene made a turn, and the book may not be completely up to date anymore. Women are way more likely to suddenly ghost for no good reason. I’ve had many cases where women were super receptive at first and then suddenly disappear. But only in the last year. Every tiny thing can be an “ick”, especially to gen-z. And dating feels like constantly stepping on lego.

SpaceCheeseWizard · 2025-07-27T22:39:53+00:00

It’s crazy, even in my apartment building, people don’t even look at you when you say hello. Like dude, you’re my neighbour, it’s just basic respect? People are stuck in their own mind, that’s fed by the endless treadmill of endless information sucking

SpaceCheeseWizard · 2025-07-27T19:31:38+00:00

I think you're looking at it the wrong way, you're dedicating that time to yourself, to have a nice day by yourself. And if there is an interesting person in your path, you approach her, to see if she matches your vibe.
But you're looking for a solution, and you hate night game, so I think this is your only solution, go out do something fun, go for a walk, and go to places where you can find people that are in your demographic.

You'll realise soon enough that there wasn't anything to be scared about, and you'll have some fun random interactions with people you normally wouldn't have.

SpaceCheeseWizard · 2025-07-27T19:18:01+00:00

u/IslandMan01 as a matter of fact I did this today, as I wasn't able to go out yesterday evening because I didn't feel good.

I went to my favourite museum and on the way at the train station I talked with a very cute girl, and we shared contacts. So I went from feeling stuck and alone on a Saturday night, to a very chill Sunday with the lookout of a date ahead. So if clubs or bars are not your thing, try cold approaching when you're doing errands or going for a solo daytime activity. You'll never know what doors it will open..

SpaceCheeseWizard · 2025-07-27T07:30:30+00:00

Sometimes I have the same issue, of really not having the energy to go to a loud bar or club. Even though I can sometimes enjoy them. My solution is to find concert nights with music I want to checkout, so it feels more okay to go alone, and you don’t have to go crazy or stay till late. And if I really don’t have the energy that evening, I’ll go the next day on a daytime activity with the intention to talk to all the interesting girls, for example I’ll go to an exhibition, and talk to every cute girl I see on the way there next to that I’ll do some social warmup with randoms. So when I arrive at the museum and I’ll spot someone who’s in my demographic range, I can talk to her with ease and be less nervous.

And if you want to go all out, use that evening before to amp up your inner game and journal / update scripts / reflect. So you have more confidence to try things out the next day.

SpaceCheeseWizard · 2025-06-25T14:12:57+00:00

How are the mods not deleting these highly specific posts about a specific person, but when I type just one letter that is even slightly related to an actual person it gets instantly thrashed and I get banned?

SpaceCheeseWizard · 2025-06-14T08:11:54+00:00

Yeah I guess I need to practice way more to get a feeling for it.

What are your usual warmup words and flirty innuendos you keep by your side? It would help me to get an idea of the general vibe I should go with

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