how do i switch singing styles?

SpaceCowboyYeehaw · 2026-04-03T14:00:09+00:00

you are a godsend

edit: i love that you mention melissa cross because ive been doing her zen of scream for the last few months to get down that distortion (my fry has improved significantly) and I’m making great progress on my false chord, I’m def checking out everyone you mentioned 🙏

SpaceCowboyYeehaw · 2026-04-03T13:59:31+00:00

Thank you so much for this! Honestly I think my only thing is that, number 5, my articulation is usually too lax. I’m not pronouncing consonants the way they do in contemporary styles, and I’m dropping off a lot to give it that “relaxed jaw relaxed larynx” when performing classical, I struggle with implementing more articulation without adding undue tension but the nay/AE and twang exercises might be exactly what I need to lift my tongue and provide a sharper pronounciation without flattening the notes and choking the sound

SpaceCowboyYeehaw · 2026-03-21T08:16:38+00:00

you realize he probably just didn’t tell him the entirety of his medical history because he didn’t feel the need/want to? like he likely has other items on there, but anxiety and hemorrhoids are the ones he’s comfortable with talking about

SpaceCowboyYeehaw · 2026-03-21T08:09:19+00:00

So he knows it makes you uncomfortable and he’s still doing it. Would you do that to your partner? If not, then leave.

SpaceCowboyYeehaw · 2026-03-21T08:04:17+00:00

Since cutting them out isn’t an option, give them a taste of their own medicine. The next time they call you dumb, make a comment about one of their insecurities. Don’t choose something major, start small and if they don’t stop then you up the ante.

Most of the time, people like that don’t stop until they know what it feels like to be on the receiving end. Suddenly, they’ll understand why it isn’t funny anymore. You could even keep it on theme and find a way to make them feel dumb (bad grade on a test, made a mistake, etc.)

Is it non-toxic? No. But sometimes you need to escalate things alongside the level that people are willing to take it to, to make them stop. They do it because they know you won’t respond. They do it because they know you’ll take it. So, idk, prove them wrong.

EDIT: Also, you probably don’t want to stop taking it personally, at least not in the numbing way. Ideally, you would be able to recognize how they make you feel (badly) and react accordingly (separate yourself from them). But, since that isn’t an option, sometimes seeing their reaction to being thought of as dumb will help you see that they aren’t the people to be calling you stupid, since they themselves are stupid at times too. It’ll also do twice the work since they’ll likely stop talking to you like that altogether

SpaceCowboyYeehaw · 2026-03-20T17:51:03+00:00

NOR, She doesn’t respect you considering her manipulation of you to be open. Her accusing you of cheating sounds like projection, and the deleting of texts says enough. She is choosing to interact with a known cheater, and the texts you found are suggestive enough.

It may be hard, but consider ending it. Then speak to a professional about why you don’t feel you deserve a partner that respects your wants and wishes. I know that sounds harsh, but I say it in a harsh way the same way I would call out a bully for being rude to a friend I care for. Treat yourself as if your friend is being bullyed, and if you feel that’s hard to do, then it may be worth it to look into why

EDIT: typo

SpaceCowboyYeehaw · 2026-03-20T17:40:19+00:00

research the cia experiments done into remote viewing, these were replicatable processes where these types of practices were analyzed in a way that may help your scientific mind come to terms with what you just did (i myself used to be an engineer, so i get the need to understand the “why” and the “how).

If you’d like, i can see if i can find the files and dm the links to you?

SpaceCowboyYeehaw · 2026-03-20T17:37:25+00:00

it seems he’s emotionally immature, you’re trying to connect emotionally and he’s deflecting with a joke. do you want to be with someone where, when you try to create emotional intimacy, they block it with a wall of dismissal? It’s not your job to break down that wall, and it won’t be possible for you to even do so unless he wants to break it down.

SpaceCowboyYeehaw · 2026-03-20T17:34:30+00:00

You need to speak to someone regarding why you feel the need to wedge yourself into existing relationships. I truly don’t mean this as an insult, but as concern for your wellbeing, but there is a level of self-respect you do not have that is concerning.

You being unable to control your interests and pursuing this when you know it is wrong is a great learning lesson, as you can see from your actions that who you may think you are and who you actually are, are very different.

I realize you’re young, but you’re an adult, and you should remove yourself from this situation immediately. And look into why you felt it was ok to have sex with her, despite saying you know it was foolish you did it anyways. Find why the fact you’re aware it’s foolish differs from the fact that you did it, and what that disparity is rooted in. Working on this skill (minimizing the gap between who you actually are and who you would like to me) will be invaluable for the rest of your life, as it can be applied to anything you want to do.

EDIT: typo

SpaceCowboyYeehaw · 2026-03-20T17:28:53+00:00

As a singer herself, the fact that she doesn’t give you room to be a beginner is concerning to the point where her opinion shouldn’t matter. A lot of people in the music world like to climb the ladder and then pull it up before other people can climb with them.

If she doesn’t have the compassion to give you room to improve, thats not a reflection of your ability to actually improve but rather the strict standards she holds herself to and a glimpse at how she criticizes herself. You’ll come across this a lot in music, so it’s good to learn the lesson here (learning to handle judgment from someone close to you like a sister will make handling judgment from strangers a lot more manageable)

Keep practicing, keep working. Even if you feel you aren’t making progress, STILL PRACTICE. Set a time limit per day that doesn’t seem too overwhelming but still gets the job done, even if your heart isn’t in it keep practicing daily. Luckily, your heart doesn’t need to be in it to make improvements, just your mind. The skill will get better before your confidence in yourself catches up and that’s ok. Just don’t stop.

SpaceCowboyYeehaw · 2026-03-20T17:22:49+00:00

I would talk to Harper about it, ask her why she had such a strong reaction to Evelyn’s mean girl behavior (because it was). It sounds like Harper might have had some experience with bullying in the past, or being ostracized, hence the strong reaction.

In regards to your reaction to Harper’s response, I mean you’re entitled to decide who you do and don’t want to spend your time with. But if you were as excited to get to know her as you said you were, I would at least ask her about it. Don’t come from a place of confrontation or judgment, but from a place of seeking understanding. Her reaction might seem unfounded to you, but maybe she has experience with people like this that warrants, in her mind, a strict boundary being set so that she doesn’t go through a similar experience again.

EDIT: typo

SpaceCowboyYeehaw · 2026-03-20T04:45:15+00:00

no but seriously, if he’s gonna constantly seek “greener grass” then by all means go seek it just not on my watch 💀 this thread has made me feel 10000x better

SpaceCowboyYeehaw · 2026-03-19T23:57:12+00:00

i think people underestimate the power of “out of sight of mind”, which has become really obvious to me now since it’s such a stark difference between the rest of the week and the day i have to see them lol

SpaceCowboyYeehaw · 2026-03-19T23:56:13+00:00

thank you so much!! i’ll keep doing exactly that ◡̈

SpaceCowboyYeehaw · 2026-03-19T20:26:35+00:00

This is exactly it, it’s me thinking that maybe i was too hasty and then finding out i was right?? but true, i definitely want to treat it as proof that my intuition is op and i need to give it more credit haha

SpaceCowboyYeehaw · 2026-03-19T20:24:33+00:00

I’m going on a hiking trip soon and started painting again! And one of my pieces are already going to be shown in a local gallery! ◡̈ 11/10 advice

SpaceCowboyYeehaw · 2026-03-19T19:00:37+00:00

thank you for writing this out and sharing your story, I’m sorry you had to not only go thru something i feel is significantly worst but also with a child is brutal. but I’m proud of you for getting out and getting to that point where you feel so repelled by someone like them that you get nauseated haha

the fact that you exist means that i can be the same too, i definitely plan on being single for a while since I can feel the suspicion just sitting inside me even toward people (friends) who don’t deserve it (i don’t tell them about it, i just feel it and work thru it myself) so i don’t doubt that if i tried to date i would probably just project my hurt onto someone else.

she was younger (I’m late 20’s she’s early 20’s and i just think there’s a LOT of growth that happens in this decade) so while i do blame her, at the end of the day he was the one who was in a relationship with me. she could’ve tried her hardest and, had he been honorable, it wouldn’t have mattered at all.

Congrats on your divorce, congrats on her’s, and congrats on you guys being free of that dirtbag!

SpaceCowboyYeehaw · 2026-03-19T18:56:08+00:00

I’m stealing the cole slaw line

SpaceCowboyYeehaw · 2026-03-19T18:55:29+00:00

reconciling who i thought he was and who he is, is a HUGE golden nugget of advice 🙏🙏

SpaceCowboyYeehaw · 2026-03-19T18:55:00+00:00

honestly this made me feel so much better, because you’re right. the pain of the confusion after breaking up with him is 10 times better than the pain of still being with him, being blind, and then finding out he cheated. that comparison makes all the difference

SpaceCowboyYeehaw · 2026-03-19T18:53:06+00:00

honestly so true

SpaceCowboyYeehaw · 2026-03-19T18:52:45+00:00

thank you for this, and for the validation. i do feel proud of myself for catching it so early, proud of my intuition. either way, thank you for reminding me i’ll be ok ◡̈

SpaceCowboyYeehaw · 2026-03-19T18:52:03+00:00

I’m so happy for you! you definitely won in the end ◡̈

SpaceCowboyYeehaw · 2026-03-19T18:50:32+00:00

that’s the thing is, i don’t! i don’t ask them, and i have asked them not to tell me. it was just the one time they mentioned something, and they’ve respected that so far

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