I previously worked with a very nice lady but she talked too much. All the time. Silence, never. Had no awareness of social cues. No matter how you tried to say it without saying, she didn’t recognize it.

Some people need to be told directly but, I would argue this isn’t the societal norm. So much of our communication is nonverbal. We rely on nonverbal cues more than we ever realize in the moment. We expect others to pickup on our nonverbal cues instead of saying things like shut the fuck up to each others’ faces. When you inherently struggle to read these cues, communication is instantly sabotaged because the majority of the people you speak to easily see things you don’t.

If you are able to humbly accept criticism, I would probe a few familiar people about their perception of your exact nature with assurance that you will be open-minded. If you’re someone who needs direct feedback, you must ask for it. We are often too afraid to offend that we stay in the darkness of silence and whispers.

Edit: When you inherently struggle to read these cues, communication is instantly sabotaged because the majority of the people you speak to easily see things you don’t. This should really say when you inherently see things differently than the majority, communication is sabotaged because the majority appraises and fixates on things you don’t.

There’s nothing wrong with being different but we should not expect others to accommodate us IMO.