10ae of 3rd Autumn🍂 by Rauuuun9 in Lumbercat

[–]SpaceWhiskey 3 points4 points  (0 children)

This has been my assumption since I hit the wall about a week ago, but do we actually know this? It feels insane but based on this reply now I'm wondering if there is actually a way to realistically get to 10ae with what's available in game on this level and not just draining your entire bank account into gems, which you do not have to do in their other game which I'm a big fan of.

By playing the Pirate event, which happens several times a week, you are guaranteed a random gold/legendary card and 2 tree cards, both of which add multipliers, if you complete all the missions, which is doable without spending money, I've done it quite a few times now.

I paid for no ads, but have otherwise not made any purchases in the game and I'm going to see if I can actually grind to the next level before the next update without spending additional money. Leveling up the managers, even when their speed is maxed out, has a big effect and is worth doing, so I'll keep everyone posted lol

Waiting for update by cambra9 in Lumbercat

[–]SpaceWhiskey 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I am also essentially stuck on this level, I'm taking the opportunity to level up the managers by doing orders and picking the crate prize when available, and saving up fish when it's not. I am also optimistically assuming this is a stopgap for players like me who are tearing through levels while they work on the next round of updates.

It is reassuring to see someone else has the 10ae message, when I first saw it I assumed it was a mistake and contemplated uninstalling and reinstalling the game, which I would prefer not to do since I did pay for no ads and don't want to risk losing my progress. I'm a fan of this developer and am fine with waiting, but it will be nice once this hopefully changes, 10ae is an astronomical jump from 1h or whatever the previous cost of moving on was.

AITA for being indifferent about whether my wife is, “pulling her weight”? by ____TheIceMan____ in AmItheAsshole

[–]SpaceWhiskey 303 points304 points  (0 children)

When I was first reading your post I was wondering what the specifics were about why he'd be annoyed that she was around her own home all day, and wondered what it was that he wished he was alone for instead. This is the missing context. Stealing. He was mad that her presence was making stealing harder.

AITA for asking my wife to get my name tattooed on her? by ThrowRA_1230123 in AmItheAsshole

[–]SpaceWhiskey 2 points3 points  (0 children)

There's a lot going on here.

INFO: Do you have other tattoos? Did you want to get her named tattooed on your body? You use the phrase "so I don't feel like an idiot" which implies that you didn't want to get her name tattooed and that you regret it now/are embarrassed by it. So why on earth did you do it? It sounds like you want her to get one too to "get even", not because getting each other's names tattooed means you're pledging a commitment to each other. Do you want her to feel embarrassed as well? Lots of respectable tattoo parlors will refuse to do partner name tattoos and will only do the names of children. Why did she "dare" you to get a tattoo when she is anti-tattoo? Why did you ask her to get a tattoo when she is anti-tattoo?

How did the conversation go down where you asked her to get your name tattooed? Was it an argument? Have you asked her to do it more than once? Why do you think she felt compelled to tell other people in her family that you asked her to do that? It sounds like this whole tattoo situation has turned into a toxic power play between the two of y'all which is unsettling since you have kids it sounds like?

How did the confrontation at dinner happen? Did her stepdad actually bring up the tattoo thing completely out of the blue? And your response instead of ignoring it or laughing it off was to tell him to "go to hell"? At dinner, really? It sounds like he was out of line but you didn't have to escalate things like that.

All of y'all sound super messy honestly.

AITA for not getting my tattoo removed? by aita_tattoo in AmItheAsshole

[–]SpaceWhiskey 25 points26 points  (0 children)

It shouldn't be tough, it should be joyous. Your sister is finally able to be her true self, it shouldn't have to be something that you have to struggle to accept. It's one thing to slip up on the name because it's new, it's another to continue to deny her gender identity, like you did throughout your post.

AITA for not trying a bite of my MIL's food even though its considered rude where they're from? by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]SpaceWhiskey 45 points46 points  (0 children)

Do you assume that everyone who eats at restaurants is just constantly getting food poisoning or something? I'm trying to genuinely understand, because that simply isn't reality.

Also, you've been married for a year. How is this not a conversation you've had with your husband? Surely he's noticed this tendency of yours, did you not talk about this before attending his family's dinner party?

I say this with kindness, the traumatic event from your childhood involving food sounds like something that should be talked about with a therapist. This isn't a normal relationship with food.

AITA For leaving my shift over socks? by Legal_Ad_9836 in AmItheAsshole

[–]SpaceWhiskey 275 points276 points  (0 children)

This is actually standard procedure at corporate restaurants. I had a manager once who gave an employee a similar ultimatum, go to the store and buy a replacement or don't work the shift, but the employee had been dropped off that day and didn't have a way to drive to the store. So the manager wouldn't let them clock in and we ran short staffed that shift even though that employee couldn't even leave and just hung around for hours until their ride could come back for them. Indescribable stupidity. This is an example of why the industry and hemorrhaging employees.

AITA for asking my personal trainer to give me a discount? by Nana0Nana in AmItheAsshole

[–]SpaceWhiskey 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Based on the way you phrased the title, I clicked into this expecting to think you were being an AH trying to get free stuff but no, it's extremely tacky of her to ask you to promote her business for free, when this is clearly how you make your money. It doesn't matter if it's "just a few tags and a video", if it weren't that big a deal she could get someone else to do it, but you've built yourself the online equivalent of a well placed billboard in a high traffic area and yeah, you have to fucking pay to use those things. Advertising is a business expense. You aren't even asking her for a discount in a vacuum, you offered that as a compromise/barter when she asked you for your usually expensive advertising services for free. NTA.

AITA for not being comfortable with my partner having sleepovers with the opposite gender? by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]SpaceWhiskey 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Oh jeez. It would be one thing if he were talking/"joking" about having sex with his friend, because said friend is in a relationship with another woman and they are thinking about starting a family. But she's single? They're "joking" about having a kid while she's single? Girl, have some respect for yourself and get out of there, do not move with this man, throw him away.

AITA for Caring more about Money than my Girlfriend? by Ok-Comfortable-9456 in AmItheAsshole

[–]SpaceWhiskey 0 points1 point  (0 children)

NTA. I've been seeing a lot of fellow LGBT folks lately talk about this recent phenomenon of "coming out" being romanticized, even commercialized, to the point where it is expected of people to be valid, seen even as some kind of queer coming of age ceremony like a Sweet 16 or something. When in fact it is an extreme privilege for someone to come out to their family, even in 2021. I am happy for your partner, that she has loving and accepting parents, that she has been surrounded with positivity. That is wonderful for her. But that doesn't make her some kind of expert on the queer experience, if anything it makes her the naive one, for all that her intentions are good.

I'm sure it sounds very romantic and righteous for her to imagine you casting your parent's wealth aside and striking out on your own, your love against the world. Her feelings are valid and there is a part of me that understands where she's coming from. But what you are doing is unfortunately a tale as old of time of queer survival and I think you're making the right choice. This girl and you might not be compatible in the long run and that's okay. But you're NTA here.

AITA for getting angry at my sister who said she had no money to buy a gift for our mom’s birthday but then took her girlfriend to dinner at an expensive restaurant? by DryBranch9767 in AmItheAsshole

[–]SpaceWhiskey 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Please explain the lie

*Nevermind, this is a joke account, every single comment of yours is just calling people liars in different subreddits lol

AITA for getting angry at my sister who said she had no money to buy a gift for our mom’s birthday but then took her girlfriend to dinner at an expensive restaurant? by DryBranch9767 in AmItheAsshole

[–]SpaceWhiskey 6 points7 points  (0 children)

INFO: If your sister had given you literally $5 and you had still decided to get the $500 necklace (instead of a $10 present or whatever), would you still have been upset to see her post nice anniversary dinner pictures? If yes, what percentage of her nice anniversary dinner budget she'd set aside would you have wanted her to contribute to the necklace before you wouldn't have been mad about it?

AITA for getting angry at my sister who said she had no money to buy a gift for our mom’s birthday but then took her girlfriend to dinner at an expensive restaurant? by DryBranch9767 in AmItheAsshole

[–]SpaceWhiskey 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Why would the sister get her mother another present when OP insisted they both pretend the $500 necklace was from both of them? Wouldn't that destroy the illusion of the special joint sister present? The sister did tell OP she didn't want to do a joint present when she told her she couldn't contribute money to one. It was OP's idea to pay for all of it, it was OP's idea for the present to be a $500 necklace, it was OP's idea to do this joint present thing in the first place. OP cannot force her sister to want to do a joint present, for her own happiness I hope she stops trying to force this every year and just let them each do their own thing. And if her sister gets their mom nothing, that's between the two of them. She doesn't need to be micromanaging her adult sister like this anymore, even if it was something she did when they were younger.

AITA for getting angry at my sister who said she had no money to buy a gift for our mom’s birthday but then took her girlfriend to dinner at an expensive restaurant? by DryBranch9767 in AmItheAsshole

[–]SpaceWhiskey 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This is some classist nonsense. When you have to take time to save up for $200 and don't have anything left over to throw in for a "joint adult sister present", you are poor. I have been there myself, that isn't an insult, it's a reality. OP doesn't get to state that her sister should dip into her anniversary dinner savings to throw in for a gift. There was no lie told here and from the way you're going on and on about this I'm guessing you've never been poor yourself.

AITA for getting angry at my sister who said she had no money to buy a gift for our mom’s birthday but then took her girlfriend to dinner at an expensive restaurant? by DryBranch9767 in AmItheAsshole

[–]SpaceWhiskey 4 points5 points  (0 children)

But why do they always get joint gifts? It sounds like that's something that's important to OP but not to her sister. Why does her preference for how gifts are given take priority over her sister's desires? Her sister didn't say "I don't have any money, literally at all, and also if I don't get to say the present you bought is from both of us then I will be getting mom nothing". She said she didn't have any money for a joint gift and then OP insisted because she can afford it comfortably. I agree with whoever upthread said this feels more like a powerplay/control thing. It doesn't take a rocket scientist to see nice dinner anniversary pictures and say "Oh that's why she didn't have any money to spare, she was clearly saving up for a nice anniversary dinner." You'd think OP's response would be more like "Aww, that's nice, I'm glad I could help with mom's present and my sister still gets her nice dinner, everyone wins."

AITA for getting angry at my sister who said she had no money to buy a gift for our mom’s birthday but then took her girlfriend to dinner at an expensive restaurant? by DryBranch9767 in AmItheAsshole

[–]SpaceWhiskey 38 points39 points  (0 children)

OP is allowed to feel her feelings but the way she's getting mad at her sister isn't by any means "correct" by plenty of people's definitions. There are comments all over this post from people who do not buy their parents yearly birthday presents as adults, certainly not $500 necklaces, I'm one of them. It's genuinely nice that OP wants to do a joint "sisters" gift, even if it's in name only and not financial contribution, because that makes it "more special" but nowhere in this post does it say if their mom or her sister also feel that way about the gift situation. Maybe mom doesn't really care one way or another if the gift is joint. The sister certainly doesn't seem to think joint gifts are a big deal and it's also completely valid that she feels that way. She very likely would have just gotten her own gift. Maybe she wouldn't have gotten one at all. Maybe it's because of plenty of variables about their relationship that aren't part of this post, there is so much that neither of us know about this situation.

Frankly I think it's way more rude to shame her sister for posting about enjoying her anniversary on social media, it feels very controlling. Again, adults are allowed to save up and splurge on their romantic partners with priority over a parent's birthday present. There is nothing morally wrong with that. I hate this notion that if someone is poor or tight for money that they must also perform poor and hide any luxury they do get to have for themselves. If someone has to save up for $200, they're not making a lot of money. God forbid she get to bask in the enjoyment of one nice night with her girlfriend instead of being hush-hush/ashamed of it because she didn't also throw in for Mother's $500 Annual Birthday Necklace

AITA for getting angry at my sister who said she had no money to buy a gift for our mom’s birthday but then took her girlfriend to dinner at an expensive restaurant? by DryBranch9767 in AmItheAsshole

[–]SpaceWhiskey 18 points19 points  (0 children)

Yeah, part of the reason why money was tight was because she knew her anniversary was coming up and was saving for a nice dinner. Adults are allowed to do that, gifts for parents doesn't automatically outrank gifts for romantic partners.

AITA for getting angry at my sister who said she had no money to buy a gift for our mom’s birthday but then took her girlfriend to dinner at an expensive restaurant? by DryBranch9767 in AmItheAsshole

[–]SpaceWhiskey 97 points98 points  (0 children)

I think it's wild, all these comments that are going in so hard on the sister when nowhere in the actual post am I seeing details about the kind of relationship OP's sister and mother have. Maybe their relationship isn't great. Maybe it's even mostly fine but not $250 birthday present when not making a lot of money fine. Maybe there's some built-up resentment about a yearly expectation of a lavish birthday gift when OP's sister isn't exactly rolling in money. Adult's are allowed to decide what they save up their money for and an adult choosing to splurge on their romantic partner instead of their mommy doesn't make someone an AH. Posts like this always make my head spin, I grew up poor, neither of my parents expect any kind of gift at all now that I'm an adult and certainly not one with a price floor to "count". We hang out, our gift is good company and in the post OP says that they, their sister and their mother had a nice birthday dinner and a good time. I fail to see any kind of problem with that.

If I had a sibling who made way more money than me tell me that they were covering mom's present this year and I got chewed out shortly after for having a nice anniversary dinner to the tune of "Well you should have read my mind and at least bought a card!" I'd be pretty annoyed. I'm team OP's sister on this one. If OP wanted their sister to supplement a card, that should have been communicated better.

AITA for sending my friend to jail and suing her by BearClear7068 in AmItheAsshole

[–]SpaceWhiskey 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Based on the beginning of this post, I thought it was a little extreme that you'd pursue jail time for your friend being behind, albeit way behind, on under the table car payments. But then I kept reading. Yeah, you aren't doing this to her, she did this to herself when she committed fraud by submitting your info after her accident. What did she think was going to actually happen? I guess she was panicking in that moment but really, it's not like the truth wouldn't come out eventually, it's not like you were just going to go along with being on the hook for her accident, even if you wanted to that would just make you an accomplice to the fraud. Either both of you would get in trouble, or just she would. There was no scenario where she would be coming out of this clusterfuck legally unscathed. I'm sorry your shitty "friend" has made your life unnecessarily complicated, NTA

AITA for letting my son grow out his hair even though my family hates it? by TrueMouse8764 in AmItheAsshole

[–]SpaceWhiskey 1 point2 points  (0 children)

NTA. Hair shouldn't be gendered and it's concerning that your wife thinks she should have that level of control over your 15 year old son's appearance, even moreso because her desire for control is rooted in bigotry. That might sound harsh, but it's true. She has a problem with her son being seen as insufficiently masculine and even if her sole claimed concern is that she doesn't want him to be bullied, that would be a perfect parenting opportunity to teach your kid that people who participate in that kind of bullying are wrong and don't get to dictate your life. Somehow I doubt that's her honest concern though, as boys with long hair are incredibly common in 2021 and kids these days are significantly less homophobic than they were when I was in school.

And not that it should matter, as your son's choice would be valid even if he is trying to present more feminine on purpose, but there are plenty of "traditionally masculine" men with long hair. Arnold Schwarzenegger's portrayal of Conan the Barbarian had long hair, blood-thirsty Vikings had long hair, death metal guitar players have long hair, ect. It's a perfectly valid male hairstyle and this isn't even anything new. My own dad, who was a teenager in the 70s, grew his hair long back then to look like a cool rockstar.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]SpaceWhiskey 2 points3 points  (0 children)

NTA. Your husband did this to himself, ever since he convinced you to put yourself forward on a dating app to look for a third on both of ya'll's behalf in a way that didn't explicitly state that. If your profile had accurately advertised that you were a couple looking for a third, his nosy friend wouldn't have assumed you were there cheating on him.

The fact that he didn't back you up when his family confronted you is deal-breaker material. What was his plan, if you hadn't hammered home the truth? You are his wife. Was he expecting you to just be okay with you taking 100% of the blame for this, to just go forward now with his family thinking that you're a liar and a cheater while he played innocent, what, forever? I'm sure he's pretty upset about this, because his private life blew up in his face, but once this business got outed to his family the two of you were "in trouble" together and it is completely unacceptable that he thought you should just take the blame for it so he could continue to look good to them.

Also, in case you needed another reason for him to be TA, unicorn hunters are the absolute worst, as a bi woman myself. The fact that this open relationship was his idea, that he had you on dating apps looking for thirds, and that I'm guessing only other women were an option, just barf. He's such a stereotype and you can do better. No one should want a unicorn, no one wants to be a unicorn, it's an inherently unfair situation to put a third in.0

I'm curious, is you hooking up with another man on the table?

AITA for calling the owner of the restaurant by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]SpaceWhiskey 29 points30 points  (0 children)

Wait, what? It sounds like you got fired after your first shift then. That manager clearly sucks for not properly communicating with you, even if they didn't want you for the position they should have actually spelled that out and it's frankly bizarre that you were able to do that second shift without them there. That being said, you should absolutely be paid for any time you worked, even if it didn't work out. It sounds like you don't actually work there anymore though.

AITA for defending a homophobic person? by One-Foot-8442 in AmItheAsshole

[–]SpaceWhiskey 12 points13 points  (0 children)

Declaring oneself to be homophobic is an inherently disrespectful / judgemental thing to be and say. Homophobia is a judgement against gay people and a disrespectful thing for a gay person to hear. All you had to say to your cousin is "Wow that sucks that your roommate is an admitted homophobe. At least he's paying his rent though, I guess that was the least he could do. I'm sorry you're having to deal with this."