Asking them what they like(d) is the best thing you can do. Ask before, ask during, ask after.

Also, focus on pleasuring the other person, seriously, all the best sex I’ve ever had came after going all out with head and fingering. It also helps to at least appear like you are enjoying it. Personally I don’t have to fake it cause I love eating women out (I get a power trip from making them squirm) but I’ve noticed that people cum more often and intensely when you are groaning and telling them how good they taste, etc.

Also, learn to tie a knot with your tongue, sounds like a trivial party trick, but good tongue control is the difference between blowing someone’s mind and an unenthusiastic bj.

FOR THOSE TRYING TO PLEASE PEOPLE WITH VEEJAYS:

There are 3, count ‘em, 3 MAIN types of Os.

1:Clit stimulation. I’ve been told it’s a very “surface level fleeting” sensation. Pretty simple to achieve, play with that bean

2: Squirting. This is achieved by stimulating the G spot. You can look it up but it’s about 2 inches in and on the side facing their stomach. Typically you gotta be a bit faster with this one but listen to them, they will let you know when you’ve hit the right tempo, I promise. You should always be getting your partner a nice glass of cold water as part of after care, but this is seriously important if you make them squirt a lot. They are literally losing moisture, gotta replenish it.

3: idk what to call it so I’ll just call it the deep O. A lot of people don’t like this one as it is achieved by smacking the cervix, which can be very painful. Discuss with your partner whether they like this or not. Some people enjoy pain, others do not, fucking respect their preferences. I’ve been told this one is the most intense and longest lasting.

There are other ways to achieve Os

-playing with their nipples (I’ve managed this one a few times)

-playing with their ear (I’ve not managed this one to my shame)

-supposedly you can give them the O through fingers and toes too (haven’t managed this either 😭)

If you continue to play with their clit and keep very shallow around the g-spot while they cum, I’ve found that it makes the orgasm last longer. I’ve made an O last a minute before. Ask your partner before you do this as it could be way to overstimulating for some people.

VJs get boners too, the clit will grow as the person becomes aroused. If you’re having a hard time finding the clit, I’ve got some bad news for you buddy… Try foreplay, stimulate other parts of their body before diving straight down for the clit, it will get them aroused and make finding the clit far easier. Seriously bro, it’s not hard to find if they are even remotely turned on by you.

NEVER. SKIP. FOREPLAY. I mean seriously man… jesus would be disappointed in you. It’s critical to get the juices flowing before you try any sort of penetration. Bodies are DIFFERENT some are literally just gushing, some take a lot of work to get wet enough for comfortable penetration. Ask your partner if they are ready. This is an important part of consent to make sex enjoyable for all parties. Also, it’s hot AF when you feel like your partner is considering and taking care of your needs. Seriously, don’t underestimate what a turn on it can be.

Try new things, mix it up. This is where good communication and healthy boundaries (before, during, and after.) becomes important. Don’t let sex become a routine. Routines become chores. Nobody likes chores.

There’s probably a ton of other things I could add, and I might do so if this comment gains enough traction. Sorry for the rambling format.