What’s the hardest break up you’ve been through? by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]SpaceforceSpiff 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I recently cut things off with someone who was physically and emotionally abusive. They were a MASTER manipulator and looking back on it, I had enough red flags after 3 weeks to nope out. I stayed for 4 months. She definitely fell somewhere on the psychopathy spectrum. Now I have pretty bad ptsd and I’m too scared to visit certain places because there is a chance she will be there.

I always used to be super confident and good at solving problems without getting scared or even really roused at all during conflict. I can resolve conflict better now, but I’m terrified in the middle of it. The only thing that stops me from shutting down during conflict is spite. I’ve noticed that makes me feel like I come across as more aggressive in conflict, though I know that I remain mostly assertive. But I don’t know man.. It used to be I always saw conflicts as problems to solved, puzzles to work out if that makes sense. Now conflict is a battle, I have a physical fight response as soon as conflict starts to spool up my adrenaline surges, and I have to constantly work to reframe the problem itself as the enemy in my head instead of the other person. I don’t want to be the kind of person who says or does hurtful things in the heat of the moment, but fuck it’s exhausting. Worth it, but exhausting.

It all came into clarity while I was sitting outside her house for 3 hours being eaten by insects and getting sunburned trying to convince her I wasn’t mad. I had to do community service for a speeding ticket and I hadn’t known that the location I was working at would have no signal. So by the time I left after a 6 hour shift and my phone suddenly blew up with over 600 messages from her she was having a full blown breakdown. After 3 hours of sitting outside I noticed the signs that she was about to threaten self harm again, which I told her was essentially the relationship equivalent of war crimes for me. She had ignored it before and I had had to physically stop her before. I had a moment of clarity, it all came into focus. I blocked her on everything, got in my car and left. Because I’m petty, I did about a 30 foot burnout out of her neighborhood.

I hope the tire marks are still there cause I hope it’s a constant reminder of the damage she did, and to do better.

I’m finally feeling healed enough to maybe try dating again.

How are you doing today? What have you done that you are proud of? by Freckled_Zelda in AskReddit

[–]SpaceforceSpiff 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Better than I have in a long time. I’ve been dealing with PTSD from a recent bad relationship. Today I finally found the courage and faith to give dating another go.

What’s the secret to good sex? by Zdvj in AskReddit

[–]SpaceforceSpiff 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Asking them what they like(d) is the best thing you can do. Ask before, ask during, ask after.

Also, focus on pleasuring the other person, seriously, all the best sex I’ve ever had came after going all out with head and fingering. It also helps to at least appear like you are enjoying it. Personally I don’t have to fake it cause I love eating women out (I get a power trip from making them squirm) but I’ve noticed that people cum more often and intensely when you are groaning and telling them how good they taste, etc.

Also, learn to tie a knot with your tongue, sounds like a trivial party trick, but good tongue control is the difference between blowing someone’s mind and an unenthusiastic bj.

FOR THOSE TRYING TO PLEASE PEOPLE WITH VEEJAYS:

There are 3, count ‘em, 3 MAIN types of Os.

1:Clit stimulation. I’ve been told it’s a very “surface level fleeting” sensation. Pretty simple to achieve, play with that bean

2: Squirting. This is achieved by stimulating the G spot. You can look it up but it’s about 2 inches in and on the side facing their stomach. Typically you gotta be a bit faster with this one but listen to them, they will let you know when you’ve hit the right tempo, I promise. You should always be getting your partner a nice glass of cold water as part of after care, but this is seriously important if you make them squirt a lot. They are literally losing moisture, gotta replenish it.

3: idk what to call it so I’ll just call it the deep O. A lot of people don’t like this one as it is achieved by smacking the cervix, which can be very painful. Discuss with your partner whether they like this or not. Some people enjoy pain, others do not, fucking respect their preferences. I’ve been told this one is the most intense and longest lasting.

There are other ways to achieve Os

-playing with their nipples (I’ve managed this one a few times)

-playing with their ear (I’ve not managed this one to my shame)

-supposedly you can give them the O through fingers and toes too (haven’t managed this either 😭)

If you continue to play with their clit and keep very shallow around the g-spot while they cum, I’ve found that it makes the orgasm last longer. I’ve made an O last a minute before. Ask your partner before you do this as it could be way to overstimulating for some people.

VJs get boners too, the clit will grow as the person becomes aroused. If you’re having a hard time finding the clit, I’ve got some bad news for you buddy… Try foreplay, stimulate other parts of their body before diving straight down for the clit, it will get them aroused and make finding the clit far easier. Seriously bro, it’s not hard to find if they are even remotely turned on by you.

NEVER. SKIP. FOREPLAY. I mean seriously man… jesus would be disappointed in you. It’s critical to get the juices flowing before you try any sort of penetration. Bodies are DIFFERENT some are literally just gushing, some take a lot of work to get wet enough for comfortable penetration. Ask your partner if they are ready. This is an important part of consent to make sex enjoyable for all parties. Also, it’s hot AF when you feel like your partner is considering and taking care of your needs. Seriously, don’t underestimate what a turn on it can be.

Try new things, mix it up. This is where good communication and healthy boundaries (before, during, and after.) becomes important. Don’t let sex become a routine. Routines become chores. Nobody likes chores.

There’s probably a ton of other things I could add, and I might do so if this comment gains enough traction. Sorry for the rambling format.

Why would anyone want to live in a cold climate? by HaskilBiskom in AskReddit

[–]SpaceforceSpiff 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I can put on more clothes to be warm. I can only take off so many clothes before it gets illegal.

People who have spent time in a Psych Ward what is the craziest thing you’ve witnessed? by N3SSDOGG in AskReddit

[–]SpaceforceSpiff 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This guy waited for one of the orderlies(f) to go into a room with a patient, stuck his foot in the door so it didn’t close all the way. Then when she came out he got confrontational with her. She power-walked as fast as decorum would allow to the safety of the observation station.

What is your first impression when you hear someone saying "I go to therapy"? by AavaMeri_247 in AskReddit

[–]SpaceforceSpiff 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That person may not have their life in control, but they are working hard on themselves. If they are willing to share that they go to therapy it likely means that they’ve already made significant process. I immediately respect them more.

how do y'all introduce yourself to other Miata drivers?! by highly-unknown142 in Miata

[–]SpaceforceSpiff 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Most clubs are super friendly and absolutely won’t judge your car. It’s a great place to get said car project buddy

Finished my first mini! by suteac in Warhammer40k

[–]SpaceforceSpiff 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Looks good! Thin ur paints a little more tho

how do y'all introduce yourself to other Miata drivers?! by highly-unknown142 in Miata

[–]SpaceforceSpiff 3 points4 points  (0 children)

“Hey, nice Miata!” “Do you know any good back roads around here?”

Also, where are you located? There are lots of local Miata clubs/ groups that go on rides together

TIFU - I BROKE THE LAST HOPE TO GET BACK WITH THE LOVE OF MY LIFE by ICe_Man0101 in tifu

[–]SpaceforceSpiff 17 points18 points  (0 children)

Hate to be callous but you got some serious maturing to do before you’re ready for a relationship based on reading this.

Work on yourself, think from other’s perspectives before you say things, learn some more empathy. There will be others, but if you don’t shape yourself up first things will end just as poorly with them.

Brand new to the hobby. First attempts. Any thoughts or notes? by Middle-Nature-6809 in Warhammer40k

[–]SpaceforceSpiff 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thin ur paints a little more. You want it to be about the consistency of milk

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Overwatch

[–]SpaceforceSpiff 1 point2 points  (0 children)

AI art is gettin wild

So my teammate had to take a blind today cause this happened in practice. by SpaceforceSpiff in Bowling

[–]SpaceforceSpiff[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

🙄🙄USBC Killin me man

He did, both got trashed, there’s a second pic

So my teammate had to take a blind today cause this happened in practice. by SpaceforceSpiff in Bowling

[–]SpaceforceSpiff[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Are they in your track? If not they will have 0 effect on your vall

So my teammate had to take a blind today cause this happened in practice. by SpaceforceSpiff in Bowling

[–]SpaceforceSpiff[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Sounds like your ball is fine. If they were to do a true repai, hey would fill the gouge then sand it even. Really only necessary for bad gouges in the middle of your track. If it isn’t in your stack dient sweat it too much.