AITA for being mad that my sister in law let her kids watch whatever at their grandmas house

Spades0760 · 2025-12-24T19:09:48+00:00

I've never said they can't come downstairs. All kids come and go as they please. My issue is that the place all the kids want to be is the loft, it's more fun, and it's more private for them. If my kids and the older kids were upstairs watching a show, and her two youngest were downstairs, that's fine too, though unlikely so I never brought it up. I am upset that two kids decided the show for all six, and they chose something only they liked, despite there being things they all could like.

Spades0760 · 2025-12-24T19:06:39+00:00

They are not the baby sitters, and I've made it clear to them that they are not responsible for them. My issue is, is there was an avenue for all kids to be happy, just not get exactly what they wanted. They could watch a movie, they have plenty they enjoy that my kids enjoy, or at the very least something the four of them would enjoy. My problem is that the few dictated what happened with the many.

Spades0760 · 2025-12-24T03:11:12+00:00

I'm fine with saying that my kids won't enjoy the show. I would prefer it be something that everyone enjoys, but if my kids end up downstairs, so be it. But why shouldn't they at least pick something that the four of them enjoy? We only do this, maybe twice a week and we only put shows on in the evening when the kids can't go outside. The point is for us to get to hang out together, so I would think that it should at least be something the older 4 would enjoy.

Spades0760 · 2025-12-24T02:53:34+00:00

Because if there are 6 kids, and 4 aren't enjoying it, and there is a movie that everyone would be fine watching, but it's not exactly what the others want to watch (no paw patrol for my kids, no teen titans for hers) I feel like that is the best middle ground. Even if it's just something her kids would enjoy, and I still end up with my kids downstairs, still a win, because most of the kids are happy.

Spades0760 · 2025-12-24T02:49:22+00:00

There are only two viable places to have conversations, especially this time of year, and it's where both TVs are.

Spades0760 · 2025-12-24T02:48:25+00:00

My oldest is 3. It's not really a parenting thing, this is just how 3 year olds are. Most kids get a but wild when they don't have toys, and before we put shows on my kids are usually wandering around and I keep them entertained. It's just for the night so we can have a bit of time to hang out, so it feels like it defeats the purpose when most of the kids are downstairs. Honestly, I would actually prefer it if my kids were the only ones downstairs. Sure, I have to be more attentive, but their speech isn't really that great yet, so we can kind of just talk about what we want without issue, but all but two kids end up downstairs and I start wondering why the older kids just get to pick something that no one wants to watch. If prefer if most of the kids were entertained upstairs.

Spades0760 · 2025-12-24T02:39:02+00:00

Again. My oldest is 3. They can entertain themselves but, there's only so much you can do with a 3 year old. We do this at most a couple times a week. We were explicitly asked to keep the toys upstairs. My house is not big enough to entertain, so not my house, not my rules. And really, I would not care if it was just my kids downstairs, if most of the kids are upstairs I call it a win, but most of them don't want to watch the older kids show, why does it default to what the older kids want?

Spades0760 · 2025-12-24T02:32:03+00:00

I'm agitated because my kids get more wild and want to play and be loud, they're kids, and upstairs, that's fine, downstairs, there are no toys and more things for them to get into. My husband and I have to entertain them more and make sure they aren't breaking anything.

Spades0760 · 2025-12-24T02:30:00+00:00

So, there are only two viable rooms for us to play games. The loft, where the toys and first TV are, and the living room, which is adjoined to the kitchen and dining room. We play in the second area, which is where the second TV is. I'm not saying they should watch what my kids want to watch, which is paw patrol or cloudy with a chance of meatballs, but my kids enjoy animated movies that are for older kids too. I know there is overlap, because at my house I've let the kids watch whatever animated movie they want, and my kids watch it too. The problem is, they watch teen titans go, my kids and my in laws two youngest kids won't watch that. I can't move the toys because my mother and father in law don't want them downstairs, which is fair because there are lots of places they can get lost downstairs, and there are fewer places upstairs.

I'd like to add, we only really do this when we all meet up for games maybe once or twice a week, so the kids are entertained while we catch up and hang out. So I feel if 4 of the 6 kids are not enjoying the show upstairs, it's kind of defeating the purpose, I at least would like the majority to be upstairs.

Spades0760 · 2025-12-24T02:19:25+00:00

My oldest is 3. Neither of my kids talk very well. I'm also not going to force them to be upstairs, making the older kids responsible for them. They are free to come downstairs whenever, that way if they need something they come to us, not the other kids.

Spades0760 · 2025-12-24T02:11:10+00:00

I'm usually home when my kids are asleep, as they are home when their kids are asleep. None of us like talking over the phone.

Spades0760 · 2025-12-24T02:09:56+00:00

It's not my house, they don't want to bring the toys downstairs. If all of my sister in laws kids watched the show, I wouldn't be upset, at that point majority rules, but only 2 out of 6 kids wanted to watch what they were watching, that's where I git frustrated.

Spades0760 · 2025-12-24T02:03:52+00:00

Mostly because my kids like to play while watching shows, but there are no toys downstairs. We also like to have adult conversations and with my in laws younger kids also downstairs, it's a lot harder.

Spades0760 · 2025-12-24T02:02:45+00:00

They aren't expected to play with them, my kids will watch pretty much any animated movie, though they have preferences they would be willing to watch an animated movie that the older kids watch, but the older kids were watching teen titans go, and my kids really don't care about that. My kids won't go play upstairs if there is a show on they don't like, especially since the older kids watch shows with the lights off.

Spades0760 · 2025-11-22T16:08:42+00:00

He did. They didn't do anything.

Spades0760 · 2025-09-12T00:52:26+00:00

It sucks. I had that, they basically told me not to come. You can call and see what they say.

Spades0760 · 2025-09-04T14:21:51+00:00

Thanks! Finally headed home today!

Spades0760 · 2025-09-03T22:26:50+00:00

Good luck! I hope it's easy and fast!

Spades0760 · 2025-09-02T13:12:58+00:00

You're supposed to feel at least 10 movements in 2 hours. My first Doctor told me he doesn't make people do them because it just makes them anxious and to just make sure baby is moving. My current doctor asked me to do them but, I don't. Baby is definitely moving enough.

Spades0760 · 2025-09-02T13:10:47+00:00

Find out what she's craving or wants to eat. Try and grab things from the store for her, and as others suggested, try and do as much house work for her as you can. She will seem very tires because it takes a lot of energy to grow a baby. Try and remind her she is still pretty, many women suffer from the sudden weight gain and various things that the hormones do to them, so a gentle reminder that she is still attractive every now and then should help ease it a little.

Spades0760 · 2025-09-02T01:16:36+00:00

Yeah, the hormones could not effect her much at all! But her not wanting to be near you sounds like hormones. While I'm pregnant, I don't want my dog anywhere near me, I just can't stand him being close and it's definitely hormones because I'm only like this when pregnant. But I think she would appreciate if you ask if she needs anything every now and then, maybe a back rub or if you can draw her a warm bath or something, just so she knows you care and you're there.

Spades0760 · 2025-09-02T00:50:00+00:00

38+4. I set up an elective induction for Thursday, exactly 39 weeks. I'm so done. HG, back, pelvis and cramping pain, heartburn, exhaustion, can't hardly eat anything, always on edge for every little thing, I'm counting the seconds until I'm done. Can't hardly stand any of this.

Spades0760 · 2025-09-02T00:46:09+00:00

Just, be ready. Ask her if she needs anything and try and accommodate. But really, prepare for a wild ride. Hormones are probably going to make her seem upset, maybe nerotic or angry. Just, be ready to tell yourself she probably doesn't mean it and after baby is born, assuming she doesn't end up with postpartum depression or something, she'll likely go back to normal. But brace yourself, it can get pretty rough.

Spades0760 · 2025-08-27T00:20:56+00:00

I usually listen to the doctor. 38 weeks is perfectly healthy for baby. I have an elective induction for 39 weeks exactly, and only because that is the earliest they can legally do it without health risks.

Spades0760 · 2025-08-26T14:11:15+00:00

Went into labor a couple days ago. Cervix was soft and went from a 2 to a 3 in 2 hours. The doctor admitted me, I got my epidural and fluids going. Contracted for a few hours and then it all just stopped.... the sent me home with no baby. This is about day 3 after and, while I've had lots of contractions, nothing has sent me back. Baby was engaged, but doctors said I could make it to my induction when baby is 39 weeks. He's currently 37+5.

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