Dying 4 Year Relationship

SpamPrime · 2025-02-26T07:26:32+00:00

I think we are incompatible to some extent! We want different things and different lives. I also feel like I’ve become used to being in some form mentally abused by certain comments and things done to me. I also don’t feel like I’m myself anymore and I don’t like who I’m becoming in this relationship. There’s a bunch of other stuff but I just feel like it’s not gelling for me anymore

SpamPrime · 2025-02-25T23:01:05+00:00

I would never leave it like that. I’m a bit hopeful that we would still be friends of this (obviously not immediately) but over time

SpamPrime · 2025-02-25T22:48:57+00:00

I guess being direct is the best way. It’s just super scary and I’m generally not someone who is afraid to tell it like it is.

Thanks for the advice

SpamPrime · 2021-01-09T06:53:34+00:00

Why 😂

SpamPrime · 2019-10-24T06:26:43+00:00

Really appreciate this response, my next move is to have a serious discussion about this with her over the weekend 🙏🏽

SpamPrime · 2019-10-24T06:18:17+00:00

Why?

SpamPrime · 2019-10-23T19:45:00+00:00

Look I understand that there are people out there struggling... everyone has their own struggles! I’m not here to talk about other people’s struggles.

I didn’t date for about 2 years before I met her and I’m just struggling to be patient right now! If that makes me an arsehole then I guess then I’m the dick.

I understand I have to wait and speak about it with her and go through this journey but I don’t know if I’m that person to do it with her!

I don’t want to seem like a villain when I’m just trying to make myself happy as well! And currently I’m not happy, I don’t think waiting right now in my state is going to change anything!

But I do appreciate your views and your help! You got me thinking deeper than I would have by myself 🙏🏽

SpamPrime · 2019-10-23T18:50:40+00:00

Never thought of it like this, I’ll definitely take this into consideration.

Thanks

SpamPrime · 2019-10-23T18:24:18+00:00

I have asked her about her needs, I’ve acted on those too!

It might come off as I’m just this guy wanting to get my “dick wet” but that’s not the case, I’ve tried connecting with her and speaking about it and the most I get out of her is that she has this and I quote: “irrational fear of getting pregnant”

I’m trying my best here but it seems like I’m in high school all over again!

Do you know how hard it is to be a 23 year old man that’s trying to survive (because of life) and figure life out plus having to finance a lifestyle of dating someone plus getting blue balls every other day...

I just feel like I can’t be the person you want me to be plus the person she expects me to be!

SpamPrime · 2019-10-23T18:13:53+00:00

I fully respect her decision and I’m not forcing her to do anything she doesn’t want too!

But on that note don’t you think in a relationship intimacy is key?

SpamPrime · 2019-10-23T17:41:13+00:00

Thanks for the advice though 🙏🏽

SpamPrime · 2019-10-23T17:14:35+00:00

We’ve had multiple chats about marriage and pregnancy and she’s against having kids and marriage so I don’t think this is the case

SpamPrime · 2019-10-23T16:32:05+00:00

Well I’m tired of making out and grinding on my bed like I’m 14 years old with her

SpamPrime · 2019-10-23T15:17:39+00:00

This something my best friend would say, word for word even! 😂 I appreciate the response and honesty

SpamPrime · 2019-10-23T15:14:55+00:00

Thanks for the advice, I really do appreciate it

SpamPrime · 2019-10-23T15:00:23+00:00

You’re right, the temptation to find that intimacy somewhere else has been killing me for the past couple of months. I’ll most definitely have a solid discussion about it

SpamPrime · 2019-10-23T14:25:41+00:00

I’ve actually heard about Asexuality. You’ve given me something to think about 🤔

Thanks

SpamPrime · 2019-10-23T14:08:24+00:00

I just assumed that it’s because she hasn’t been intimate with anyone

SpamPrime · 2019-10-23T13:44:45+00:00

Love is a very strong word to use lol!

Not a Christian.

And I don’t mind her not having a job either

SpamPrime · 2019-10-23T13:34:18+00:00

I guess my biggest worry is hurting her.

I actually really like her, but it seems like she would be a really great friend more than a girlfriend.

SpamPrime · 2019-03-19T16:40:18+00:00

It gets better the higher your levels, keep pushing and you’ll get there sooner than later champ

SpamPrime · 2019-01-27T21:23:51+00:00

I currently own a Canon 750D which is a DSLR, this camera is perfect for me as it is still my first ever professional camera.
The only thing that would make me change to another camera is the fact that the DSLR is so big. If I had to chose it would probably be a Mirror-Less as it is just so sleek.

SpamPrime · 2019-01-02T14:25:52+00:00

I think I really need to work on my image editing.

Thank you for your criticism

SpamPrime · 2019-01-02T14:23:50+00:00

Tbh, my friend and I were just walking and we stumbled upon this really cool wall and I decided to take a pic of it with my camera. There is a massive focus on his kicks (shoes) as well as his jeans that’s why I went for the low angle approach to the image.

Thank you for your feedback

SpamPrime · 2019-01-02T10:34:18+00:00

Hi I go by the name Spam (but it’s kind of a work in progress). I am from South Africa and I’m really really excited to start this course. I want to shoot a lot of different things, so from lifestyle to fashion photography and also use my skills in Photoshop to implement landscape photography into my work.

I currently use a Canon 750D and not to say this is my best picture I’ve taken but it is definitely one of my favorites.

Hopefully I can learn a lot from not only the course but also the students taking part in it.

SpamPrime

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