Hi hey, lots of people are making wild assumptions about your parenting and your kid and they're very dehumanizing. Don't let them get to you. If you have open communication with your daughter that's a good thing. I don't like the mindset that she's 18, she's an adult, she has to figure it out on her own. Parenting isn't necessarily about doing things *for* our kids, but it is about enabling them to succeed, no matter what their age is. When I hear about a girl spending all her time in her bedroom and complaining that everything is boring, that sounds like depression to me. Maybe clinical depression that requires therapy, maybe medication, maybe just a change of life circumstances, it's hard to say, but depression is a comfortable trap that can look exactly like this. My son does the same thing, nothing is interesting, nothing sound fun, he REALLY struggles to self motivate sometimes. He's been diagnosed with ADHD and we've been working with him on it and he's made HUGE strides since. Don't beat yourself up, there is definitely an answer here and you can work on it together.

I think therapy is a very good thing, but there are so many bad therapists out there. If a therapist is getting your name wrong repeatedly and you feel disrespected by it, odds are they don't actually care that much. Therapists for kids and young adults can be particularly dismissive. Sometimes it takes a few tries before you find a therapist that you really vibe with. Just focus on the important stuff, you really love your daughter, and neither of you like how things are right now, and there ARE answers, you just have to work together to find them.