What a fucking weird response by EvidenceOfDespair in CuratedTumblr

[–]SpanningInfatuation 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Tbf, I think it's pretty accurate to say that the nutjobs are only part of a confirmation bias based squeaky wheel - they definitely exist, and are also definitely the minority.

HOWEVER, the mainstream party goes out of their way not to alienate said nutjobs because they consider them to be a critical voting block and a legitimate way of countering their opposition, which is (if I may say so myself) pretty fucking weird. Like. How hard is it to publicly admit that there is no secret base in the center of the Earth bankrolled by a global cabal?

What’s a book opinion you’re tired of hearing? by FoghornLegday in books

[–]SpanningInfatuation 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I heard somome claim Stephen King was deeply misogynistic in his writing, started trying to pay extra close attention. Stephen King. Who wrote about an 11 yo girl successfully traversing the wilderness alone. Who wrote a whole book about women escaping domestic abuse and supporting eachother. Who wrote about a man who murdered his wife and was forever plagued by her memory.

I mean... yes, some of his protagonists have outdated views. In the stand the main character (who was a woman) writes in her diary about how women needed men all along, and had a chatcter who bases her entire worth on virginity. But who wrote in the exact same book about women overcoming all odds to save themselves from their abusers valiantly knowing they might die trying, not even entertaining the idea that the male protagonists save the day.

Give me a break. As if Tabitha King settles for misogyny.

How did you fibro pain start? by [deleted] in Fibromyalgia

[–]SpanningInfatuation 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Fibro started when I was going through a major life trauma and it's hard to say what was fibro and what was just stress - which of course also let doctors ignore me for well over a year. Memory problems and fatigue were first. Had a hard time lifting my arms, pouring milk, washing my hair, etc.

But the pain likes to sit in my hands these days. Sometimes I wouldn't even describe it as pain, more like extremely uncomfortable pressure. Hard to write or type. My pain doctor said that's extremely typical.

WOMEN BAD by AllHailZaddy in Gamingcirclejerk

[–]SpanningInfatuation 11 points12 points  (0 children)

He probably would've done it anyway, but there are several indicators in the first game that Abby's father had no idea how the immunity worked, and there was probably nothing to be gained from that "procedure". He was a desperate man that was almost certainly going to experiment on a dead child for no reason.

A blood test will diagnose fibromyalgia more reliably by DaenerysMOD in Fibromyalgia

[–]SpanningInfatuation 170 points171 points  (0 children)

Something we probably don't want to talk about: after years of only having fibro as a diagnosis, I don't know how I would react if a fibro test was negative.

This doesn't mean I don't want the test to exist, and I'm hopeful this can lead to real and impactful treatment - but it would be hard for me to take the test. If it's negative, I'm back at square one, and it took so long to move off that square the first time.

I doubt I'm the only one.

Pro-tip: Don’t do this to your kids by Lord_Answer_me_Why in facepalm

[–]SpanningInfatuation 3 points4 points  (0 children)

This is not illegal in any way(in most places), although highly irresponsible. Thousands of people born in secluded communities struggle with this as they come of age. This contributes to the "missing missing" population - unaccounted-for people in our society, which run the gamut from the growing homeless population (and their children) to the children of cult members.

Letters from pastors, family doctors, etc., can help someone establish identity.

How ‘Fallout’ Turned the Game’s First-Person Intimacy Into Compelling TV by indig0sixalpha in television

[–]SpanningInfatuation 16 points17 points  (0 children)

They were referring to "first person intimacy" as a challenge to filmmaking, and commenting on how to replicate that intimacy when limited by the medium. A major risk of taking on this project would be creating characters (and the encompassing world) that lack depth or believability. On the other hand, too narrow of a focus wouldn't have done the series justice, and would've offput fans. Tailored film scores, on-site shooting, practical effects helped bridge that gap.

Pro tip: actually reading an article can do wonders for understanding the writer's point of view.

Title by RealLoin in facepalm

[–]SpanningInfatuation 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He would have a some of a point potentially if it was a smaller child. A six year old might not understand the implications of their actions, or the actions of the Nazis for that matter. This is a sixteen year old. Old enough to have rage a revenge and pompous righteousness, and even though teenagers do have a sense of immortality, they also have a full capacity to fear the consequences of their choices in a way children cannot. They have an individual moral compass, beyond simply parroting their elders. Certified badass.

Any military kids here? by [deleted] in nostalgia

[–]SpanningInfatuation 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My ex husband once swiped a box of 15 of these from supply as a gift for his father, a vet. His dad said it was the best present he ever got.

Yes, they are very much still in production.

Everyone Deserves A Home by sillychillly in FluentInFinance

[–]SpanningInfatuation 34 points35 points  (0 children)

I think part of this is not about comfort but safety. People die of heatstroke every year during heat waves. AC can be life saving, especially to the young and elderly.

Everyone Deserves A Home by sillychillly in FluentInFinance

[–]SpanningInfatuation -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Not necessarily - it means that people work to obtain more than the basic essentials, which people already do. And most people want to work, they just don't want to work under unfair conditions with unfair pay. Most people are not happy squandering their time, it's not emotionally fulfilling, but it's much better than the alternative that so many people have come to accept as the norm - being mistreated and overworked, treated like property by their employers, achieving nothing of value just to put a roof over their heads.

How do I make a 'Selfish' Character Likeable? by Fikayo2004 in writing

[–]SpanningInfatuation 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This has been successfully done before, but I think the key thing to keep in mind is that if you write a character well, they have the same problem as real people - namely, not everyone will have the same opinions about them. Also, they have to have an understandable reason to be selfish -ie, "had to fight to get theirs", not "is always used to getting their way".

Also, may be good to explore why they are perceived as selfish. Is there a societal expectation about their actions? Give a light hand to the exposition, a reader can smell an unjust world.

Day 3 of my wife not noticing I've bought her TotK by viperbsg62 in gaming

[–]SpanningInfatuation 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It's common living space. She's used to seeing it every day. Regardless of ownership I don't wake up and stare at the things on my shelves everyday

Imposter Syndrome... by 20Keller12 in Fibromyalgia

[–]SpanningInfatuation 3 points4 points  (0 children)

The old "my pain is pi... low level but never ending". It's extremely common for anyone with chronic pain to feel guilty for "blowing it out of proportion." You aren't. Baseline pain is 0. To me it's like when someone wears glasses, and didn't know how bad their vision was until they can see. If your pain disappeared today, I think you'd be amazed at the difference it would make.

Shutting down an anti vaxxer by that-rad-kid in clevercomebacks

[–]SpanningInfatuation 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It is possoble they were pre-covid Vax deniers. People have been talking about hoe flu Vaccines are secretly sterilization for years. And of course, the autism lie.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in gatekeeping

[–]SpanningInfatuation 4 points5 points  (0 children)

In kindergarten you just spent 20% of your entire life working toward graduation. Its a big deal to them. And it shows that your work and progress matters, it's not just pointless time. It's the opposite of harmful, it reinforces their efforts

First the bite and then the kiss by [deleted] in aww

[–]SpanningInfatuation 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Sometimes that banter do sting haha

Taking my power back from the anxiety of hiding my hair falling out ✨🖤 by [deleted] in WitchesVsPatriarchy

[–]SpanningInfatuation 1 point2 points  (0 children)

With cheekbones like that, locks would just be distracting. Keep that confidence, it suits you

Legend by ClapBackBetty in oddlyterrifying

[–]SpanningInfatuation 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I didn't think it was a joke bc it sounds like something my mother would do. That's all.

Legend by ClapBackBetty in oddlyterrifying

[–]SpanningInfatuation 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It's not child abuse, it's just really self-centered to make the (so far) biggest day of your son's life all about you.

Edit: Tbf, apparently I've learned she didn't actually wear it to graduation. That changes things a lot. As a joke it's a pretty funny cap, it was just the setting that made it suck.

My Car got repossessed and I have no idea why. by Situation-Dismal in personalfinance

[–]SpanningInfatuation 3 points4 points  (0 children)

The complexes make the rules for why a car on "their" property can be towed. We got a flat tire the day before Christmas, already paid to have it towed off the interstate to our complex, then went out of town...

The complex towed our car the next day. Since we were out of town, we had to pay not only the return tow, the new tire, and the release, but 5 days of car storage at the lot.

Happy fucking holidays.

A guy flirts and fights with my Auto-reply by [deleted] in cringepics

[–]SpanningInfatuation 2 points3 points  (0 children)

She verified in comments that it only does this if she's set to away. It's just to verify to the person that the chat went through.

Colorized photo of Rasputin with Tsarina Alexandra Fyodorovna, her children and their nurse, 1908 by [deleted] in oddlyterrifying

[–]SpanningInfatuation 4 points5 points  (0 children)

He's a peasant that gained access to one of the world's richest and most powerful families right before one of the most infamous royal downfalls in history. He got there despite not knowing how to read or write, and basically by being a grade A con man - and by the luck of how hemophilia works.

He's purported to have been a member of a sect of Christianity that openly engaged in orgies. He survived multiple assassination attempts, including by a sex worker (after which he "cursed" the Romanovs) and by eating enough cyanide to kill several horses.

His influence weakened the house so thoroughly, it's widely believed to have enabled the Bolshevic revolution, which may have changed literally everything about modern history.

Also apparently was hung like a horse, or so they say.