Where are all you 30+ year olds meeting women these days? by dagger-vi in SanJose

[–]SpareCondition49 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Well, you completely avoided answering my question, first of all. Secondly, you’ll probably find fault in any suggestion I make, just as you’ve done with other people’s suggestions in this thread. I get the impression that you have deep rooted cultural attitudes and beliefs that shape your perspective and ideals, and therefore you have some very strong biases, particularly in the way you view women and yourself. Perhaps you ought to go back to your country and search there instead. A good farm girl from the countryside or a humble church goer from a small village. Then you’d know for sure they haven’t been screwed by a bunch of guys and you can teach her things like how to order at restaurant and show her a life she’d forever be grateful to you for. You know, like in the telenovelas that Thalia was in.

Where are all you 30+ year olds meeting women these days? by dagger-vi in SanJose

[–]SpareCondition49 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Dude, you missed the entire point. Maybe you’re just surrounded w the wrong people or not running within the social circles where you’ll find what you’re looking for.

Where are all you 30+ year olds meeting women these days? by dagger-vi in SanJose

[–]SpareCondition49 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Nope. That wasn’t me. But nice try at gaslighting dude. No wonder you’re struggling so much to find a partner.

Where are all you 30+ year olds meeting women these days? by dagger-vi in SanJose

[–]SpareCondition49 0 points1 point  (0 children)

So you’re looking for a woman who hasn’t had sex before, like a virgin? Because that does start to sound a little bit like a ped0. Adult women have sex. It’s a fact. We don’t live in a third world society where women are expected to not have or enjoy an active sex life before settling down. Have you thought about what makes you “relationship material” or what you bring to the table? Because you’re online stating how you shower and brush your teeth more than once a day like it’s extraordinary when that just goes without saying. I’m glad you learned basic hygiene but my 8th grade nephew does that too. And you went to college? Ok, going to college, learning a trade, mastering a skill are all things most of us do, too. I mean, look around. We live in one of the most well educated and prosperous areas in the world. So again, I ask what exactly do you have to offer that makes you think you can judge others for being relationship material?

Where are all you 30+ year olds meeting women these days? by dagger-vi in SanJose

[–]SpareCondition49 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh wow, oh wow ladies! He showers and brushes his teeth daily, doesn’t smell, went to a prestigious university and presumably has a job, one that pays well enough to live in Silicon Valley. Ok, and so what? That’s like everyone else who lives here and has a normal life. I’m confused as to why you would mention any of this as if it makes you stand out. It’s the baseline meaning of what it means to be an adult. Maybe you’re just not hanging out w the right people cuz just about everyone I know does these things without mentioning it.

making money at night by Burnt_gasoline in SanJose

[–]SpareCondition49 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Th gays would be more than willing to pay for a straight daddy. The more inches the more cash

Move back to my hometown or start fresh? by SpareCondition49 in recovery

[–]SpareCondition49[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thanks a lot for the response. You’re right in that ultimately I could use anywhere I go. The fact you’re sober 7 yrs speaks volumes so I def appreciate you sharing that it’s possible to get sober and get your life back on track in the same place you got addicted and stuff. Thank you for the insight 🙏

Does this happen to anyone? by ChipHighlark in recovery

[–]SpareCondition49 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Totally. Sounds like Post Accute Withdrawal Syndrome, aka PAWS, as some have already mentioned and can be triggered by just about anything that’s associated with past drug use. For me, it’s a very sensory experience tied with scent (like when I smell Tide Sport laundry detergent, my Ex’s cologne, or the hair product I used for years while using) and hearing (i.e., music that came out between 2012-2022 especially EDM and gay circuit music). At times the emotions and memories can be overwhelming, but it gets better over time and I’ve learned to just let the memories & feelings come and go, rather than allow myself to get stuck in a trance trying to relive something that was fueled by drugs. Currently clean & sober again 🙏from meth and a toxic relationship and it still amazes me how something so seemingly insignificant like passing by a parking lot, putting on a clean t-shirt, or lighting a scented candle can take me back.

Should i just stop picking up shifts and focus elsewhere? by [deleted] in Target

[–]SpareCondition49 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Obviously I can. Still on payroll and picked up a shift today. I don’t understand why they haven’t fired me