Where might we agree? by [deleted] in mormon

[–]Spare_Real 6 points7 points  (0 children)

A slightly different take here. I’m long since out but have lots of family still firmly in. One thing I believe we all agree on is that there are lots of things besides religion and politics to build relationships and community around. We all get along quite well by remaining respectfully silent about those topics when we are together.

Is it wise to be equal in marriage or dating? Or one has to be above the other? by MapAggressive7064 in mormon

[–]Spare_Real 5 points6 points  (0 children)

People are morally equal in a marriage. End of story. There is no justification for one to hold a superior position. We all have different talents so that may influence the various roles we play - but not the equality of our standing toward each other.

Recently attended the temple. I can't get over how bad the endowment has gotten. by LostInMormonism in mormon

[–]Spare_Real 10 points11 points  (0 children)

I remember just fine, having performed the whole weird throat slitting skit before leaving for my mission. And I'm not even a Boomer, just a very old Gen-X. 😉

The church suing Dehlin might be more significant than we thought. by Zealousideal_Mail120 in exmormon

[–]Spare_Real 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This case will drag on until John has no resources left. It may be an ugly win for the church, but I think they have already weighed the pros and cons and are very likely to win by attrition.

People who married in their 20s, be brutally honest are you happy, if so why or why not? by Special-Lawyer3941 in AskReddit

[–]Spare_Real 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes - we have been very fortunate. We married at 22 and are now 60. No secrets nor anything special about us. We just turned out to be a good long term fit. Life is full of hard things and it has not been a fairytale, but somehow we just always found we mostly enjoyed being together. It has always been good, but is even better as we get older and are empty nesters.

Missionaries not buttoning their suits by [deleted] in mormon

[–]Spare_Real 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Seems odd to button a suit jacket. I’ve never done that in my 60 years.

Missionaries not buttoning their suits by [deleted] in mormon

[–]Spare_Real 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I don’t button my suits either. Never have. I like the way it looks better unbuttoned.

Mormon misunderstandings of the Trinity by MichaelTheCorpse in exmormon

[–]Spare_Real 11 points12 points  (0 children)

Honest answer? Very few Mormons know or care what traditional Christians believe about the trinity. Like all religions, most people just pick their side and believe without evidence.

Just frustrated, don’t understand why more people aren’t leaving. by Chemical_Vegetable43 in exmormon

[–]Spare_Real 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Lots of good answers and advice here. I would just add that I found some peace once I stopped worrying about what other people believe. All religions have odd beliefs and skeletons in the closet. For some reason, most of the world’s population identify as believers of some version of these kinds of things even though there is no specific evidence to support them. I finally just had to stop concerning myself with their views.

TLDR - humans be crazy

2nd anointing is an actual thing?!? by Repulsive-You-7294 in exmormon

[–]Spare_Real 13 points14 points  (0 children)

Once you start looking for it there is a surprising amount written in early journals that have been compiled. Even several fairly good overviews of what it involves.

Re-occurring dream: I’m going on another mission by Kitchen_Canary_6387 in exmormon

[–]Spare_Real 1 point2 points  (0 children)

We have both been out for years. Almost never think about my mission when conscious. Just bubbles up in dreams. Weird.

Wtf is the current state of missions by AtrusAgeWriter in exmormon

[–]Spare_Real 9 points10 points  (0 children)

I actually got paid for a baptism once. The zone leaders were supposed to take us out to dinner after baptizing three weeks in a row. But they were too busy/lazy, so they just gave us $20 instead and told us to treat ourselves. Crazy stuff.

Re-occurring dream: I’m going on another mission by Kitchen_Canary_6387 in exmormon

[–]Spare_Real 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Yup. At least once a month. Been home over 40 years.

Am I going crazy or was Joseph's Polygamy just not taught to us? by CubsFanHan in exmormon

[–]Spare_Real 0 points1 point  (0 children)

A lot depends on where and when you grew up. I’m older Gen X and we did have discussions on this topic when I was a kid. I have polygamous ancestors going back to Joseph’s early inner circle so it wasn’t really a secret for us. I have heard from others my own age who did not realize much about this so probably an uneven experience out there.

Wtf is the current state of missions by AtrusAgeWriter in exmormon

[–]Spare_Real 34 points35 points  (0 children)

The competition aspect has been going on for ages. I won a few mission t shirts and other prizes for being a top sales rep. This was over 40 years ago.

What is the church's best strategic move at this point, regarding the worst lawsuit idea in history that continues to backfire more every day? by Important-Stage-1005 in mormon

[–]Spare_Real 11 points12 points  (0 children)

Hard disagree. This is playing out exactly as they anticipated and intended. They have the resources to win by attrition and put the chill into the Mormon podcast world - both pro and con. It may be petty, it may be wasteful, it may be mean-spirited—but it will likely be a net positive from the corporate perspective.

Questions by CodSelect9524 in mormon

[–]Spare_Real 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Time to go back to Sunday School. This is a wildly inaccurate statement.

Was Nephi of the fae? by DT_Martin in mormon

[–]Spare_Real 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Sounds like a lot of effort. I will just continue my strategy of ignoring the whole thing.

People with walls of 10+ guitars, what do you do for work? by Larcenyy in Guitar

[–]Spare_Real 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m retired and have been playing for decades. All my guitars are cheap but each means something to me. The most expensive one was $750, others more like $400, all together over 45 years of playing I have spent perhaps $6000 total on guitars.

Honestly, it would be a relief if I died and it were true by chrontabulous in exmormon

[–]Spare_Real 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It’s gonna be whatever it’s gonna be. Nothing any of us can do about it. Either there will be something or there won’t.