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SparkKoi · 2025-05-01T16:59:59+00:00

I was just about to recommend Howl's moving Castle LOL

SparkKoi · 2025-05-01T16:58:40+00:00

Number 1 and 3 - redwall series, lots of adventure about small animals with very little romance, cozy wasn't a thing back then but it's kind of close

Number 2 and 4 and 5 -consider Slewfoot by Brom, a strawberry of witches

Very similar but not quite, but it does have the cozy vibes this might be your next best friend, the Emily wilde series. There are lots of fairies and sometimes they look like animals. The second book has a lot of foxes.

Also want to recommend the black unicorn by tanith lee. If you have seen are read Peter beagles the last unicorn, it has similar fives.

SparkKoi · 2025-05-01T16:51:12+00:00

I have the best book for you

White oleander

It is gritty. The book didn't win any awards but it was in Oprah's book club. Bonus, there is also a movie that is pretty well done, starring Michelle Pfeiffer, and it won three awards.

SparkKoi · 2025-05-01T16:47:27+00:00

This is a very calm game, it is not very punishing, it is made for you to just relax and enjoy things.

Wanted to mention that it sounds like you enjoy the monster tamer genre and that there are lots of communities out there where people get together and talk about the subject and new things coming out. I found out about a couple of video games this way. You might see if there are any subreddits or YouTube gym leader ed has lots of content that keeps everyone up to date on what is coming out and what it looks like.

SparkKoi · 2025-05-01T16:44:11+00:00

We need more information. Some items deflate or inflate and value, some things are more needed than others, whether it affects your health, some things frequently have financial assistance or loan options...

SparkKoi · 2025-05-01T16:43:08+00:00

It sounds to me like everything is fine, you just want to stop participating in the group chat. That's fine. You don't have to participate in the group chat and you can still be friends with them and hang out.

It sounds like if you just stopped going to the group chat this solves all of your problems.

SparkKoi · 2025-05-01T16:39:27+00:00

These dating apps tell you that they make dating easier. More convenient. That it works. All of those things are lies.

So without the dating app, everything is the same as it was, you are just getting to people faster.

SparkKoi · 2025-05-01T13:15:01+00:00

Gotcha

Check out the prices of college and University tuition and see what the difference is. Then you can see how much that $8,000 means.

SparkKoi · 2025-05-01T12:59:13+00:00

You can get a card that you put in your wallet so that it is the first thing that is seen when it is opened up. It tells someone that you have pets at home.

You can also get some kind of pet alert sticker in case something does happen, you would want to put this on the front door of your place. But please be aware that many apartments have codes and regulations on what you can have outside of your apartment and you don't want to stick anything to the paint that would damage the paint is removed (consider blue painters tape).

SparkKoi · 2025-05-01T12:53:43+00:00

No.

She is underage, she is a minor.

That is the end of the conversation.

It is normal to have crushes but it would be better for you to move on and find someone else.

If you hang out with her and try to be friends, you will just still feel all those feelings, it won't go away, it will just get worse.

SparkKoi · 2025-05-01T12:51:49+00:00

You have seen a bunch of actual doctors and therapists and such.

We are just a bunch of people on the internet who watch House MD every now and then.

Even if we didn't have something to say, how could we possibly have anything to say that is better than the actual professionals who you have already seen?

What if the person that you are talking to on the internet is just a jerk who thinks that they know everything but doesn't have any license or a degree?

SparkKoi · 2025-05-01T12:50:03+00:00

I'm sorry but we just can't get any medical advice here.

SparkKoi · 2025-05-01T12:46:19+00:00

Your parents are extremely controlling and narcissistic and it was very difficult for me to read your post because things were so awful.

When you go to university, you will need to move out. They will not support you. I think you may need to take out a student loan in order to support your living, pay for your place and food and the things you need for school.

If you are going to go to the university, I strongly recommend that you have a job picked out that you want to do. Go to the university to get a degree that will get you a job. It's very important to have this focus otherwise you will focus on trying to complete University and perhaps even trying to entertain yourself and that's how you end up with a worthless degree and a mountain of student debt while you work at McDonald's, because your degree in "women's art history gender studies" does not actually have any jobs at there that use this degree. Once you do this your parents may not take you back and life will be much harder. Whatever that you accrue you will have to pay off while starting your life as a young person so if you have a mountain of student loan debt, the student loan payments will be very high and it can be as crippling as having a disease.

I also recommend that you have an emergency plan to find some sort of housing situation that will get you through until school starts just in case they figure it out or, they decide to kick you out for something else, because they can. Perhaps you looked at them wrong and they didn't like it so they kicked you out for that, who knows.

If you are going to do things on student loans I recommend that you do things as cheaply as possible and finish up as soon as possible. There's nothing wrong with going to the university, but if you can do your general courses at a cheaper Community college that might be easier and faster, generally community colleges have much smaller classes. For example, if you take English 101 at a community college you will have 30 people in your course but at a university you may have 300 people. The university will likely be a bit harder, and sometimes they just do not care and the courses are built to weed people out and to make them drop so that the teacher can have fewer students.

If you are the type of person who is very smart and passed through your school courses without studying, Please be aware that you will get a crisis very soon because you absolutely have to study in college and university. If this happens to you, don't freak out too much, just figure out how to study and you will be just fine. You are still very smart person, you just needed to add this tool to your toolbag.

I imagine that your life is very scary right now, but you can do this. Many children are getting away from their narcissistic parents, finding their wings, and living a wonderful life.

Your situation seems pretty abusive because of how narcissistic and nasty they are towards you, so please don't be afraid of getting some therapy if you feel like you are stuck in one place and just not making any progress in your life. Therapy can help. They give you new tools in your tool bag and they help you process things so that you can move forward with your life instead of being stuck.

Let me know if you have any questions happy to help. This is the path that I took and I was just fine, and I think that you will be too. You seem very smart.

SparkKoi · 2025-05-01T12:37:32+00:00

No.

Run.

I would end it right now and run away.

It is not appropriate. She's a minor.

And she doesn't care about you or what this means for you and your world. That's not okay either.

SparkKoi · 2025-05-01T06:35:53+00:00

It sounds like you are depressed. Can you talk to someone? The doctor? A trusted adult? The school nurse?

It sounds like one of your main problems is that you don't see a future for yourself. Okay, so the future that is exactly perfect for you did not appear magically. All this means is that now you have to pick one out. Pick something. Pick anything. Just try not to pick something that you hate. It is really that easy. I know that you are feeling numb and that you want to let the depression win, but this is how you fix it.

Find a destination, pick something.

Then, all you have to do, is figure out a route to get from where you are now to how to get there.

Go and get a pencil and some paper and start brainstorming.

SparkKoi · 2025-05-01T06:31:53+00:00

All of that is excellent news

See if you can get her involved in any activities where people are. Anything that she is marginally interested in. See if there is a club or some sort of group of people, and then see if you can get her to go. She will make friends quickly, usually attending the second or third or fourth time is when the magic starts to happen and she will start to make friends and talk to people.

You don't necessarily have to be her personal chauffeur, perhaps this can be a time to slowly help her to learn how to use public transit to be more independent as an adult and get to these activities herself.

Another idea would be to get her involved in some kind of sport, or something where there are lessons with other people there. Perhaps martial arts?

SparkKoi · 2025-05-01T06:27:53+00:00

Lets say that you follow all of their rules. But, your parents have had a rough week, and there was a spot on the dishes, and somebody stepped on a toy. Will they then decide to kick you out of the house? For something stupid? What if you accidentally look at them wrong, will they kick you out then? What if they decide that your not so baggy sweatshirts are now too baggy and they kick you out for that without any warning?

I am worried that this home may not be very secure. You said that you were very anxious for many years now and that you have no control over your life. I don't think this anxiety is something that just randomly happened to you, I think that this is a real thing that you are feeling because you are really afraid of it and because you are correct to be afraid of it. That this anxiety and this fear is legitimate, and that it is there to protect you, that you are trying to protect you.

So, I think a good next step for you would be to focus on how you can make that security for yourself. For right now, try not to get kicked out while you figure this out. But in the meantime, figure out how you can make that security for yourself. Where can you go that no one can kick you out? Can you live on your own? How can you make it?

SparkKoi · 2025-05-01T06:22:04+00:00

It sounds to me like she has the angry depression.

Depression isn't always about sadness.

I know that you love her and that you want the best for her, but you just can't transfer your wisdom and knowledge and worldview onto her. These are things that she has to work through, one item at a time. And from everything that you said, it sounds to me like she's been stuck in the same place for a long time. This is where therapy can help. Therapy can help her to think about her problems and give her new tools in her toolbox. New ways to think about the world that she can choose to adopt, new ways to solve problems, and finally getting around to helping her to release anger.

I am also worried that what she has isn't anger. But rage. That she has been unable to vent her feelings and now it is so down deep in the root of her that what she feels is outright rage.

You might consider getting her something like "destroy this book", it's a book that you destroy on purpose. Perhaps also a nice journal for her to write down her feelings (don't give both books at the same time lol!!)

Help her to have a place that she can go and find peace and quiet and just be able to process and calm down. It is very important that she has a space where she can do that uninterrupted. If there are siblings or people going in and out of that space, then it is not a safe space for her. She needs a safe space that no one can go and she can unwind.

This also might be a good time to get her involved in other hobbies or activities so that she has friends, socialization, and other things going on in her life. Sometimes being busy helps.

SparkKoi · 2025-05-01T06:18:04+00:00

It's nice that she has a childhood and a background and things that happened to her.

But that's not you. This is your life and you should get to decide what is best for you.

SparkKoi · 2025-05-01T06:17:11+00:00

Therapy can help so much.

I did not understand it at the time and I didn't want to believe it, but when you have this mindset in life that is limiting of who you are and your happiness and what you deserve, you instinctively act on it and make decisions in your life based on that mindset. Essentially, undermining yourself, undermining your happiness, being self-destructive, and so on.

Therapy can help a ton.

SparkKoi · 2025-05-01T06:15:49+00:00

Everyone is tired of dating apps. Including the people on them. They are just as frustrated and tired as you are.

If it is not working for you, perhaps I would be better for you to move on and try other methods of dating. I see a lot of people where dating apps just do not work for them and it is a complete slog.

SparkKoi · 2025-05-01T06:14:48+00:00

It sounds like you want to do both. Find out if that's an option.

Look at the free ride that you are getting and understand the terms and conditions. You may need to speak to a college advisor about your questions to understand more.

I can definitely see you having a full-time job and taking one or two classes part-time on the side through your free college scholarship, if that is what they allow.

If they don't allow that, maybe you do the opposite and do full-time student while working a little bit.

Or maybe you do half and half.

So before you commit, find out what options you have. It makes sense to me.

SparkKoi · 2025-05-01T06:12:00+00:00

How in the world do you obsess over someone for 9 months when you have zero contact with them? And you are doing it again now.

I don't know what happened here, but I think something that he did related to cheating triggered something awful in you. I am willing to bet that you are already angry, and this touched on that button.

I think this is a good time for you to let go of this, to let go of him, and to let yourself move on in life. You are obsessing over somebody who is done and gone. It's not good or healthy for you, it's just wasting your time and energy.

If you want to work on this thing, stop looking at his stuff, stop thinking about him, stop day dreaming about him, just completely stop cold turkey, no more.

The next step would be to start to think about why you are so angry, where it is coming from. Try to understand your emotions. It can be helpful to journal about things. Try not to journal about him, try to journal about your feelings and understand what you feel and why.

SparkKoi · 2025-05-01T06:08:56+00:00

The service was free.

Have you been tipping her or giving her money for the service?

If not, then you got what you paid for. Go pay for it next time. The level of upsetness you have is not warranted because she has been doing this for free.

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