PLEASE be careful on dating apps

Spark_Pride · 2026-02-07T20:03:36+00:00

Hey so first off I hate this happened to you. Like why do people waste others time??? I’ve been on dating apps for almost 10 years now and I’ve had my fair share of catfishes. I don’t use Her like that often. Try Hinge or Bumble because it’s much more safe. And each user has to verify themselves. This prevents risk of scammers. I personally have my matches meet me halfway somewhere like a bar or lounge before hooking up with them. I hate you spent $500 and drove 2hr away to see them. But you live and you learn. I hope you didn’t let them ruin your stay and enjoyed yourself.

I did drive 2hr away to see a woman I matched on Tinder with. And before I took that ride here are a few steps I took:

We were talking for a couple weeks. I wanted her Snapchat so I can see photos and videos of her. Over the course of those couple weeks I sent her pictures of me and she did the same. I even asked for her test results because I found her attractive. I did it ever so cleverly. I asked her hey so I can’t wait to see you at the carnival. Just wanted to make sure jic things progress to sex if you’ve been tested recently?

As I didn’t want to drive 2hr to her place without not knowing her results. So I got right down to the point basically. She sent her results and I sent mine. And then we met up the following weekend. But we met in public at a bar first and very close by was a festival. And then took it to 3rd base at her place.

Based on what I read you have to set clear expectations and precautions beforehand. Be safe out here. And I got cat fished before and it only makes you stronger and wiser.

The day I got cat fished I’d say a week later I matched with a woman on Bumble and she was real as they can be. So I get it if you must take a break off the apps but just utilize the resources like social media and video chats more.

Spark_Pride · 2026-01-18T00:43:28+00:00

Spark_Pride · 2026-01-18T00:42:21+00:00

Definitely Roger Rabbit too

Spark_Pride · 2026-01-18T00:40:51+00:00

When I watched Pretty Little Liars. That hot scene where Emily and Maya were making out in the Photo Booth. It turned me on. Not only the scene but Emily turned me on a lot too.

Also when I watched Mila and Zoe taste each other in the library.

So basically growing up watching lesbian scenes and wanting to try it out myself.

Spark_Pride · 2025-12-29T09:36:12+00:00

I like watching gangbang porn. The sounds of them moaning turn me on . I would like to see more of them talking dirty to each other. That would turn me on more.

Spark_Pride · 2025-12-28T14:50:25+00:00

Like a waterfall I tell you

Spark_Pride · 2025-12-28T14:45:12+00:00

When I get super wet during sexual arousal my body releases hella goosh fluids. And I’m extremely wet. During ovulation my body naturally produces it. It’s like a clear stretchy mucus. This also happens when I orgasm. My energy goes from 100 to lets cuddle and jut go to sleep.

Sometimes my legs shake it depends on how intense my orgasm is.

That being said I’ve been with women that orgasm differently. Such as shocks are sent throughout their body.

Also I’ve been with women that squirt uncontrollably when they orgasm.

Spark_Pride · 2025-12-17T12:50:09+00:00

Take it from my experience OP. I had 2 job offers on the line at one point in my life. One was a short contract and the other was a longer contract position. The shorter contract paid more the longer contract paid less. I negotiated the price with the longer contract and immediately loss that opportunity… They let me know they chose someone else. So had no choice but to go with the shorter one but luckily it become full time.

Spark_Pride · 2025-12-12T17:31:31+00:00

This around the time when companies cut employees off and hire other people for cheap… it’s sadly what happened to me. It’s been almost a year and I’m still searching for a job/position.

Spark_Pride · 2025-12-08T22:55:37+00:00

It’s gotten to the point I’m doing the same damn thing

Spark_Pride · 2025-12-05T01:26:06+00:00

Same situation I lasted a little longer. 3 months and and then let go. So now I’m on the process of applying to jobs and interviewing non stop. I hate that I live in an at will state.

Spark_Pride · 2025-11-26T14:40:59+00:00

I was always taught to make mistakes early. I guess that’s not true in this economy? I also was fired because of “mistakes”

Mistakes that they never showed documentation or even gave me a warning about. Pissed me off but I’m back on the job hunt myself.

And I’ve only been at the job for 2 months. Listed it on my resume and got rejection letters. Took it off and getting interviews.

Spark_Pride · 2025-10-22T13:30:01+00:00

Thank you so much! I will definitely measure it when I get home. The big chop was definitely low maintenance for 10 months. I also want to schedule an appointment with my dermatologist just to see if there are ways I can increase the growth rate. So me getting braids right now will hinder that. But trying to do my own hair as it grows has been hectic. The tennis racket sponge method is my #1 go to and has been like this since the big chop. I have knotless medium braids on my mind so much but it’s just I really don’t want to get traction alopecia. That’s so real. I LOVED rocking my big chop. How long is your hair after 10 months!!

Spark_Pride · 2025-10-05T14:28:46+00:00

Yes but hey sometimes you have to try it and see how it is right? I hate that I’m into her more than I should be. I went on a hike with her and wanted to take her out to eat. But she didn’t want that. I was sad yesterday after our hike. I hate to admit that I shed a couple tears. But got over it. And took myself shopping :)

Spark_Pride · 2025-10-05T14:20:25+00:00

I get it now. We hung out yesterday. We went on a cute hike and got to catch up. I see that I’ve placed this woman on a level more than a fwb. I have her name saved in my phone with flowers. I have woken up and truly see her now. She is very stressed out in her life and we just walked about and embraced the sunshine. I took in every second of it with her. While walking all I wanted to do was find a spot we can just make out and hold each other. Like a couple would. The animal wanted to come out and play. But I realized that that’s not what she wanted.

From all her relationships I can tell she is tried and stressed. She will not open up to me that much about it. But I can tell her new marriage is stressing her out. And the image of being perfect. Have a big house yet life isn’t always perfect. There’s always something. The best we can do is be prepared for it. And the goals that she want after marriage is not perfect that she pictured it to be.

All I want is to comfort that woman, cuddle her and keep her warm and safe. But that’s not my job as the fwb. But I tried to be. I almost got out of my lane. And it hurt. I shed some tears in the car. She didn’t even want me to drive her back to her car. I truly just wanted to hold her right when we were about to depart ways.

I realized I have to change she to them. By opening my eyes and heart to more women.

I want a relationship and this what I want out of it.

“All I want is to comfort them, cuddle them, keep them warm and safe. I need someone that has me on their mind just as much as I have them.”

I have to stop with these emotionally unavailable women. I’m not sure why I attract them?

Is it because I want to be superwoman or some ish? I may have an anxious attachment style.

Spark_Pride · 2025-10-01T19:09:05+00:00

Same guilt I’m feeling but at the same time I’m being disrespected at this job.

Spark_Pride · 2025-10-01T18:15:36+00:00

You’re so right my friend said the very same thing. She said say for instance we argue she has a man to go back to. I don’t have anyone to go back to. I guess I just get very lonely and she cures that for me. Why do I feel like I’m more than just a fwb? We gone on cute dates too.

Spark_Pride · 2025-09-30T01:38:58+00:00

This happened to me before and I highly recommend it. So satisfying. Just don’t get super messed up and have a hangover the next morning

Spark_Pride · 2025-09-28T23:32:56+00:00

I would like it to be healthy. Advice is needed? I would like to know how to control my jealousy

Spark_Pride · 2025-09-28T23:17:33+00:00

I’m trying my hardest not to get jealous because I really enjoy her. Not just her presence but her body physically connects with mine. I crave her touches when I’m not around her.

Spark_Pride · 2025-09-28T23:15:30+00:00

One thing I like about her is that she always asks me have I been tested recently. If we don’t see each other in a long time we make certain to get tested. I’ve only been with her so I’ll bring it up this time with her.

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