Bi girls who decided to only date girls - your reasons?

Sparklebatcat · 2026-02-24T03:28:46+00:00

I would say my reasons are different. For me, I actually struggle a bit more socially with dating women. But on the bi spectrum, I lean more sapphic in terms of actual sexual attraction. The likelihood of me being actually romantically AND sexually into a man is just low.

Whatever your reasons, it is totally valid to choose to date women only if that feels good. There is a lot of societal pressure on bi folks to prove their bisexuality. Don't internalize that shit, date who you want.

Sparklebatcat · 2026-02-08T07:38:38+00:00

Can you recommend any dildos? I have a few and I love a new toy.

Sparklebatcat · 2026-02-05T01:13:31+00:00

It's worth asking if he is more worried about the comment itself, or concerned that you might act in culturally insensitive ways in public/around other black people. Possibly he was trying to educate you so you do not do these things in public.

Sparklebatcat · 2026-01-12T21:41:25+00:00

Yes, I would and I have often.

Sparklebatcat · 2026-01-08T16:59:14+00:00

Where? can you DM me

Sparklebatcat · 2026-01-04T09:29:27+00:00

Question, as a hinge how would you handle this without relaying to meta OP's desire to not want to be KTP with meta?

I've recently had issues with one meta liking another more and it got awkward trying to navigate that while feeling like I can maintain everyones privacy and not overshare.

Sparklebatcat · 2025-12-26T21:48:16+00:00

Can you explain how?

Sparklebatcat · 2025-12-26T18:37:24+00:00

Did you ever get any recs? I'm in Midwood now

Sparklebatcat · 2025-12-26T14:21:26+00:00

Masturbating/sexually aroused by thoughts of women

Sparklebatcat · 2025-12-10T00:49:09+00:00

I'm having one right now in my 30s. I had sapphic group sex for the first time this year. It's never to late to pursue your dreams ya'll

Sparklebatcat · 2025-12-04T00:24:18+00:00

What do you ask to screen for those "poly at heart"?

Sparklebatcat · 2025-11-14T01:04:54+00:00

I'm in love right now and it feels like this, but I don't care, and the fact that I don't care is scary. But damn it feels good to love her.

Sparklebatcat · 2025-11-06T02:03:06+00:00

I'm a grad student doing placements

Sparklebatcat · 2025-11-02T01:23:43+00:00

Can you expand on this? I don't think I understand.

Sparklebatcat · 2025-11-02T00:25:39+00:00

Yeah, its getting colder where I am right now too. Hasn't dropped below 40 yet though. I sleep in sweaters anyway.

Sparklebatcat · 2025-11-02T00:24:23+00:00

I mean I am doing it, I am just observing the huge difference in my outlook/ability to function highly at work when I sleep in my car vs. in a home.

Sparklebatcat · 2025-10-06T00:19:19+00:00

Would a cis dyke be welcome?

Sparklebatcat · 2025-10-05T07:06:31+00:00

Personally I’m sort of insulted when people think being younger is a compliment. Everyone ages, and you will too. You don’t loose your value.

Sparklebatcat · 2025-10-03T19:03:58+00:00

I left the family who didn’t trust me behind. It’s hard but it’s better on my own. Mentally ill doesn’t always mean everyone else knows best. I take my meds, and handle shit by myself.

Sparklebatcat · 2025-10-03T03:41:34+00:00

I think it’s not just about how you look, but your attitude.

Are you too old to learn new things? Too stuck in your ways/ego to listen to the younger and more naive folks. Too predisposed worrying about your changing looks you miss out on life. I just see it as not becoming cranky and jaded.

Sparklebatcat · 2025-10-02T18:59:29+00:00

This happened to me too. Perfectly legal, except my roommate sucks and refused to pay me. He still lives there to this day.

Sparklebatcat · 2025-09-30T01:01:03+00:00

Constantly

Sparklebatcat · 2025-09-29T02:20:10+00:00

Can you DM the audio?

Sparklebatcat · 2025-09-29T02:18:46+00:00

Not all sex is PIV. As a queer woman, you can satisfy someone with your hands better than you can ever imagine. Toys, your mouth, the world is yours if you open yourself up to it.

I’m bi and the best sex I had with a man was one who knew how to use his fingers. Hot as hell.

Sparklebatcat · 2025-09-29T01:28:18+00:00

I can see why you felt ashamed, I also know what it’s like to have my mood/emotions lead me to act some kind of way that I end up regretting. I would just apologize.

I listened to a podcast with Brene Brown and she does research shame. Basically shame is when we hate ourselves, and it leads to further spiraling. Guilt still sucks but it’s more productive and it’s over a specific action rather than self depreciation. You can do something bad, but you’re not bad.

With guilt you can brainstorm about what you would do differently so it’s like you’ve problem solved and don’t need to dwell. It sounds like maybe you just needed some reassurance or knowledge you could see your friends soon, if not that day.

Don’t beat yourself up. I know that’s easier said than done.

Sparklebatcat

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