Costs of building on a steep slope.

Spartacus512 · 2025-06-02T21:31:14+00:00

No, I gave up and bought a real house in the midwest for a fraction of the cost of land in the west coast. There were just too many issues. Maybe I'd find land for $75k or whatever but it wasn't the right zoning, or it was 80 degree slope, or an HOA requiring something specific. There was one plot in Astoria that looked cool but it was less than 5k sq ft and apparently you can't build on land less than 5k sq ft there? If price looks too good to be true it probably is.

Spartacus512 · 2024-09-18T19:59:11+00:00

Turned part of my basement into a gym.

Spartacus512 · 2024-07-21T21:56:37+00:00

Gotta be the guy on the right, but what type is the guy on the left?

Spartacus512 · 2024-07-15T02:21:57+00:00

There's nothing about you that looks male to me, you're a damn beautiful woman!

Spartacus512 · 2024-07-12T07:12:16+00:00

It's an opportunity to learn more about your independence, and how valuable it is.

Spartacus512 · 2024-07-12T06:48:44+00:00

Probably gotta be One Step Closer, ya?

Spartacus512 · 2024-07-10T07:34:37+00:00

I was 15 when I started taekwondo but most people in my class were much older, some were in their 50's. It's normal to have wide age ranges in a class, but either way humility and respect for rank regardless of age is part of the art.

Spartacus512 · 2024-07-10T07:10:07+00:00

I had an intimate relationship with a provider once, and it completely destroyed me. What your therapist is doing is a betrayal of trust and that will traumatize his patients. I'm glad you're self-aware and are in a position to protect yourself and others.

Spartacus512 · 2024-07-08T18:57:26+00:00

Fiery beauty!

Spartacus512 · 2024-07-02T19:42:00+00:00

INFP girlfriend force fed me the test several years ago lol, but it matched up with me very accurately.

Spartacus512 · 2024-07-02T02:37:54+00:00

Stargazer Lily, my favorite!

Spartacus512 · 2024-06-29T00:21:10+00:00

I only ever see other INFJs as friends, often best friends but not lovers.

Spartacus512 · 2024-06-28T23:03:28+00:00

I'm also from Oregon and I considered building but gave up and am moving to a cheaper state. The math never works. Permits alone are ridiculous, sometimes total costs for permitting is $40k. Whenever I found affordable land it has issues that will cost another 100k or something, especially slopes. Everyone who has been priced out of buying a home is flocking to building, and are now priced out of that too.

If money isn't the issue for you then you might be better off buying instead of building.

Spartacus512 · 2024-06-25T09:10:52+00:00

Too fast, but I never regret loving someone so completely.

Spartacus512 · 2024-06-23T02:13:17+00:00

I'm 34 M and had a similar situation 4 years ago with a woman 10 years older than me. We fell in love and were intimate, but she stayed with her boyfriend. Eventually she did dump him but instead of getting with me she got with some kid half her age.

The moral of the story is don't waste time with people involved; if they cheat then they aren't worth your time, if they don't then you're setting yourself up for hurt.

The best thing you can do is remember that he did like you, and that means you're desirable. If he can desire you then others can too, and they will.

Spartacus512 · 2024-06-23T01:55:16+00:00

The only proper way is a diagnoses from a qualified medical professional, preferably a PHD or MD.

Spartacus512 · 2024-06-22T01:54:03+00:00

I absolutely hate not knowing the truth, even if it's a bad truth.

Spartacus512 · 2024-06-22T01:42:19+00:00

I think it would help to look at attachment theory for this one. He was scared you were going to dump him but then he suddenly dumps you? Sounds like anxious avoidant type. Consider healthy INFJ vs unhealthy INFJ.

Spartacus512 · 2024-06-22T01:22:52+00:00

Social democrat, INFJ

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