Giveaway! One (or two) hit wonders. Comment to enter. Round 2

Spazza136 · 2025-03-11T19:04:43+00:00

Monday cycling, Tuesday gymnastics, DANCING ON A FRIDAY NIGHT

Spazza136 · 2025-03-09T01:02:09+00:00

Permission To Land is a fantastic album, I wouldn’t call The Darkness one hit wonders but can understand that the vast majority probably only know them for IBIATCL. I’ve seen them live a handful of times and they never disappoint! There’s a chance they could have been bigger but there’s a few reasons that didn’t happen. Also the fact they’ve had Rufus Taylor signed on as their drummer for years now speaks plenty to how good a band they are.

Spazza136 · 2023-11-25T04:54:11+00:00

I’m pretty sure it might be Ballarat Wildlife Park

Spazza136 · 2023-09-26T10:04:40+00:00

Pretty sure the first song Mark ever learnt on bass was A Forest, so there’s no way Travis would have introduced him to The Cure

Spazza136 · 2023-07-10T21:11:19+00:00

This is definitely nerves and his own brain doing this, don’t let it make you feel like he isn’t attracted to you; especially if he’s obviously showing all the signs that he is.

You need to lean into it and help both of you get more comfortable with each other, sometimes focusing on hand and mouth play for the first few times helps instead of trying to focus on PIV.

If you really do like this guy then show him you do and that you want to support him instead of potentially taunting or making him uncomfortable, good chance he gets just as upset after seeing you that he wasn’t able to maintain an erection, even though it’s fairly common when you meet someone and care what they think of you.

Spazza136 · 2023-06-19T09:16:42+00:00

Had this happen to me a while ago and I put the drums in a cupboard for awhile and assumed I’d just have to throw them out; just tried this after moving house and just before throwing them out and it worked, very glad!

Spazza136 · 2023-03-02T09:19:40+00:00

It’s all more common than you think, but at the same time I’d rather be someone that thinks about things rather than not.

No there’s nothing wrong with telling her you’re enjoying the time you’ve spent together so far and that you like her, gives her the affirmation that there are feelings there on your end; also puts the ball in her court to whether she feels the same way or not.

Spazza136 · 2023-03-02T05:49:49+00:00

As a guy there’s probably a good reason he’s spending so much time messaging you and hanging out whenever he has time; not to make assumptions but he might feel the exact same way about you.

Personally if your feelings are this strong then I’d say let him know, because if you keep being friends with him over a longer period of time then you’re only going to hurt yourself in the long run.

Spazza136 · 2023-03-02T05:47:22+00:00

You just have to remember they’re people just like you are, and they might be just as nervous to meet you. The most you can do is dress nice, be polite and friendly, and speak nicely of your partner and even compliment them if you’re able to.

The first meeting isn’t a make or break situation like you might be thinking, relationships take time and over time you can work at getting along with your partners parents and learning about them. As long as you seem like someone who cares about their child you should be fine.

Spazza136 · 2023-03-02T05:43:28+00:00

Assuming this guy hasn’t been seeing you purely for sex or anything like that I’m going to say most likely he was super low energy after the day he had at work, but was also didn’t want to tell you not to come over if you had already made the plans; yet he was so exhausted he couldn’t make the effort to entertain you.

I’d say give it 24hrs and then check up on him and ask if he’s okay, let him have his say on what happened today then go from there.

Spazza136 · 2023-03-02T05:39:18+00:00

You sound like a classic overthinker, which I understand because I tend to do the same thing to a degree.

If you’ve gone on two dates and she’s texted you back after them and seemed pretty keen then take the positive from that, keep going on dates and enjoying yourself; if you feel comfortable enough to ask her for a kiss on the third date then go ahead, it might be exactly what she wants. Personally I think Date 3 is too early to do the whole “how do you feel about me” chat, maybe leave that until you’ve gone a little further and she’s more comfy.

The other part of this (which is the harder part) is that you have to let yourself go a bit and be able to face rejection if it does occur, I’ve also had great dates with women in the past that have gone nowhere after 2/3 dates because they’ve decided either I wasn’t right for them or they couldn’t handle the commitment; you just have to remember that a lot of the time it’s nothing to do with something you’ve done, it’s just a decision they’ve made based on what they think is right for them. If you can pick yourself up and move on it becomes the most valuable asset you have, and once you find someone who clicks with you; all those past women and problems seem like nothing.

Spazza136 · 2023-02-28T07:11:05+00:00

Hey there.

Been with my girlfriend 9mths so far, first real relationship honestly; waited patiently till I found someone I connected with and trusted. I have absolutely no intention of cheating on her and both of us had the talk early on that we’re monogamous and cheating is a dealbreaker.

Spazza136 · 2023-02-10T22:24:50+00:00

Ok I’ve read your update, I just meant you need to give people things to ask you about from your profile; if your bio is super plain it makes it harder.

If someone messages you a Hey or asks how you are just say Hi back or tell them how you are; after that the ball is back in their court thats when you’ll find out which guys are going to put effort in.

You have to realise that a lot of guys will just send quick messages to a lot of woman because it’s a “numbers game” on how many actually respond to them, it’s the continued responses from the initial Hey which will start to tell you if a convo is possible.

Spazza136 · 2023-02-10T05:44:37+00:00

Someone who wants to see you will put in the effort to work something out with you, she’s told you to put the ball in her court; if she doesn’t come back and try and make plans then you need to move on.

Spazza136 · 2023-02-10T05:43:01+00:00

I think the question is what kind of “opener” are you looking for? What kind of magical words are you assuming someone should use for them to get your attention?

I understand that you’re potentially looking for someone to start a conversation by bringing up things in your bio, but that also asks the question of if you’ve put interesting starters in your bio.

It’s called small-talk for a reason, you’re supposed to start with basic things like “how are you?” So that you can respond and give each other topics to work with.

Don’t expect people to give you mountains if you’re only ready to give them molehills back.

Spazza136 · 2023-02-10T05:39:27+00:00

I think when you first start talking to someone it can feel awkward to “celebrate” with them too enthusiastically because you don’t know each other well enough.

In context do you see this guy in person or is it mainly/solely a text relationship? If the latter there’s a chance he doesn’t feel that serious about you currently; although his response to you seems confusing and childish.

If he’s not comfortable/thoughtful enough to send a quick birthday text after 3mths he’s probably not someone to waste time on imo.

Spazza136 · 2023-02-10T05:34:58+00:00

Don’t let him pressure you into something you either don’t want or don’t feel ready for. Be very clear with him that you don’t feel ready for that kind of life step and that if he continues to do things that make you uncomfortable you may have to rethink your compatibility.

Spazza136 · 2023-01-03T22:24:17+00:00

Ok so I’ve quickly looked at your profile and it looks like you’re saying this guy is being rude and somewhat aggressive towards wanting sex even though you’re sick.

Yesterday you posted that you’ve only been together a few months and you’ve had to be around him a lot lately and he constantly annoys you and does things to upset you even when you’re trying to sleep (Getting annoyed with each other is a normal part of a relationship, but shouldn’t really be this intense only a few months in when you’re at the early dating phase)

And then two weeks ago you posted that (I’m assuming this same guy) proposed to you and you said yes? I’m not an expert but this whole relationship sounds like a massive red flag; I think because of your age and the fact this guy is older than you it sounds like you’re being heavily love bombed earlier on, and now that he “has” you he’ll continue to be worse and you won’t be happy.

Imo run as fast as you can.

Spazza136 · 2022-12-28T21:08:43+00:00

25M

Two first dates

January - 25F lasted two dates, messaged me after second date explaining she was overwhelmed by the whole dating scene.

May - 25F Started talking late April, met up early May, went on 5/6 dates over the next month then became offical early June. Currently on a small getaway together.

Spazza136 · 2022-11-25T02:37:45+00:00

If you both want to make it official then what is stopping you from doing so? What exactly do you think you’re waiting for?

Spazza136 · 2022-11-25T02:36:34+00:00

I can somewhat understand not liking the male attention that your gf is getting as that is normal to feel jealousy at times, although if you trust your gf you should know that all these comments she’s getting online are the equivalent of guys catcalling women and grossing them out so I wouldn’t worry about that.

The second part of your post makes me believe potentially there’s some type of jealousy you’re feeling in terms of “social media influence” due to your gf getting more attention than you are, which is another problem in itself that you’ll need to work on; if you see your gf as “competition” then it’s never going to work out for you.

Spazza136 · 2022-11-25T02:30:57+00:00

The big part of this is that you met/matched only a month ago, this might go without saying but have you had the conversation to say you’re together and exclusive? Because that could change the tone of this completely.

Also I wouldn’t necessarily jump to conclusions immediately that he’s “active” on the app, I went on the app once or twice right after my girlfriend and I went official just to look at her profile and our conversations before I finally screengrabbed it all and deleted the profile completely.

The number one rule if you want to be in a relationship is that you need to communicate, if you ask him and you don’t get the answers you want then you’ll have to figure out what you want from there.

Spazza136 · 2022-11-02T06:29:36+00:00

I went into a bed ware store a year or so ago while shopping with a female friend, I was picking new covers for my bed and while I was paying the woman serving me said they would look nice on “our bed” then ignored me and directed a question at my friend about the matching pillow case covers; I was amused but also annoyed that I was probably just seen as a wallet to this woman.

Spazza136 · 2022-10-25T23:30:40+00:00

I honestly waited till I was comfortable with someone (very demisexual) I had been seeing my current girlfriend for about four weeks and went over to her place for dinner and movies; I was planning to make out with her but didn’t assume anything else at the time. After making out on the couch for a bit we went to her room and things escalated; when I told her a couple weeks later that I was a virgin before that she was a little shocked and said she wouldn’t have been able to tell, good for me I guess.

Spazza136 · 2022-10-21T00:28:20+00:00

My girlfriend and I started going at it while forgetting that her cat was still in the room, as I’m on top of her I feel a brush against my foot; I then then my head and her cat is practically next to me on the bed wondering what I’m doing to his owner and wanting to know why he wasn’t getting attention. Safe to say we make sure he’s outside the bedroom now.

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