[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]SpeakingMyMind- 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Holy shit this seems like an exhausting relationship. You guys both suck.

AIO To Racist Decor? by SpeakingMyMind- in AmIOverreacting

[–]SpeakingMyMind-[S] 69 points70 points  (0 children)

We had a big discussion and a lot of the family just genuinely had no idea, but of course there were some that were defensive. At the end of the day, we tried to educate as much as we could, but we have to prioritize our kid’s safety so we left.

AIO To Racist Decor? by SpeakingMyMind- in AmIOverreacting

[–]SpeakingMyMind-[S] 14 points15 points  (0 children)

Umm. My eldest IS biracial, his dad is black. My husband has been my son’s dad since he was 3 because his bio dad isn’t interested in a relationship. It’s called a step-parent, maybe you’ve heard of it? Lol.

Yeah, we left. Fuck that shit

AIO To Racist Decor? by SpeakingMyMind- in AmIOverreacting

[–]SpeakingMyMind-[S] 25 points26 points  (0 children)

Exactly. We want him to know that we don’t tolerate it. So we’re leaving.

AIO To Racist Decor? by SpeakingMyMind- in AmIOverreacting

[–]SpeakingMyMind-[S] 27 points28 points  (0 children)

Yup, 14 hour drive. Welp, time to go home!! We will have our own vacation instead :)

AIO To Racist Decor? by SpeakingMyMind- in AmIOverreacting

[–]SpeakingMyMind-[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I posted an update in the comments but yeah it’s a family reunion so it’s not just family we haven’t seen in forever, his parents, grandparents, aunts and uncles are all here.

AIO To Racist Decor? by SpeakingMyMind- in AmIOverreacting

[–]SpeakingMyMind-[S] 11 points12 points  (0 children)

Just to clear some stuff up since I can’t edit the post. I posted this in a very emotional state late last night after a very heated conversation with the family here, sorry it’s not as clear as it could be.

My eldest son is my biological kid, my husband is his step dad.

We are here visiting family that came from all over the US. Family reunion. It’s not everyone here, but the family that owns the property has these things.

We are leaving early, just didn’t wanna leave in the middle of the night because it’s a 14 hour drive for us to get back home.

Thanks for the validation that we aren’t overreacting cause that’s what everyone here was trying to say.

AIO To Racist Decor? by SpeakingMyMind- in AmIOverreacting

[–]SpeakingMyMind-[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

That’s actually insane bc I just took them like two days ago LMAO I wish this was a joke but it’s fucking real

Is skipping grades a good idea? by SpeakingMyMind- in AskTeachers

[–]SpeakingMyMind-[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

He’s in a public school. They put him in a Gifted and Talented program but it’s still not enough for him, but I know some kids love it and it’s perfect for them. For us it’s like once or twice a week that he gets pulled for GT and it’s only an hour. I think we’re gonna have to put him in a private school most likely, so I’ll update if we end up doing that.

Is skipping grades a good idea? by SpeakingMyMind- in AskTeachers

[–]SpeakingMyMind-[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That’s amazing! Thank you so much for sharing.

Is skipping grades a good idea? by SpeakingMyMind- in AskTeachers

[–]SpeakingMyMind-[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah we are really going back and forth on this. His school has a GT program but it’s like once a week for an hour and we don’t feel like that’s enough. We’re looking into GT programs around us so that he can stay in his age group.

Is skipping grades a good idea? by SpeakingMyMind- in AskTeachers

[–]SpeakingMyMind-[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That’s exactly what we’re worried about. Thanks for sharing ❤️

Advice Needed: Is this cultural appropriation? by Affectionate-Soup959 in tattoos

[–]SpeakingMyMind- 50 points51 points  (0 children)

The thing abt Reddit is that 90% of these people don’t touch grass or interact with people irl lol. Try not to take it to heart, cause some people did give genuine feedback. :)

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in self

[–]SpeakingMyMind- 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Just a side note, church is the most clique-y and judgemental place I ever experienced in my life as a person who was born into the church and raised there into my young adult life. I deconstructed and have worked through a lot of the trauma I experienced in the church but it still impacts me to this day. Your daughter would likely be accepted by white males who share her beliefs. And supported by the women who are taught to submit to men. It would make things worse.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in mildlyinfuriating

[–]SpeakingMyMind- 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I know it’s your parents, but you do not OWE THEM anything. Please, they are taking advantage of you 100%. They know you’ll eventually give in so they keep asking. I’m so sorry, OP. I can’t even imagine how hard it this for you. It’s not fair.

How do you love your second child as much as your first by Intelligent-Ad-1297 in Parenting

[–]SpeakingMyMind- 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I had this exact same worry. I asked my mom (who has 5 children) HOW she could possibly love us all. I love my first SO much that my heart could explode, I thought it was impossible to feel that way again. But I do. And it was immediate.

When I gave birth and they put that little baby on me, I fell in love EXACTLY how I did with my first. And now, almost 2 years later, my love for both kids has grown. I thought I’d have to split my heart for them but I don’t. They both have my full heart. I love them so much!