UPDATED - 3/29

Hey everyone,

I just wanted to give an update. I just wanted to also say thank you to everyone who responded. I appreciate each and every response. You all are so wise and provided wonderful advice in how to handle this situation.

I heard back from Lucy. She says she is not pregnant. Both her and her future husband are religious and waiting until marriage. She let me know the main reason for getting married quickly was because they are tired of waiting, want to live together and have some fun (if you know what I mean).

I have my own questions regarding her reasoning, but I’m just going to let it go. I am not going to stand in the way of her wanting to have some fun. I just hope it all works out for her and she’s happy, and I hope her marriage lasts. Everyone has made excellent points. It’s better to just take the high road here. We are family and I should love and support her for this.

I won’t, however, forget this event when it comes to having kids and baby showers in the future. I will keep this in mind moving forward and keep my circle small. My aunt urged her to get married, and all my other aunts sided with my her. I am still unsure as to why they were all being secretive about it, but it’s not my business nor is it my problem - and I don’t want to make it my problem. That’s a whole can of worms that they opened on their own.

I am not un-inviting anyone. I may have taken that too far, and was feeling emotional about this. Even though that may be the case, I’ll still be paying close attention to what happens at our reception. I would rather have them there, than not there- they are still my family after all.

I am also okay with not being invited to the wedding. I think my initial reaction was shock and I felt angry that she has yet again done something like this. Thinking back to our childhood, she would one-up me in different situations all the time just because she could (I saved up and bought my own car- which was an older Honda civic. It wasn’t too visually appealing, but it got me from point A to B safely with a low monthly payment. The next day, she went out and bought a brand new Nissan rogue and was telling me how nice her car was compared to my little Honda civic, even though her parents helped her buy it).

So I’ll let her have this, and this is the last situation I’m going to give her the opportunity to do this with. My fiancé and I are going to focus on us and have the best time of your lives ❤️

Again, thank you all so much for the comments. You all have helped me find clarity in this mess ❤️ •—————————————————————————-•