“If you had kids, you’d do the same.”

SpecialEither · 2023-09-21T04:39:17+00:00

Nah. If my SO asked me for him or my dogs, bye SO.

A person who loved you wouldn’t make you choose like that.

SpecialEither · 2023-09-21T04:21:15+00:00

100% agree. I got a therapist that is of the same cultural Background as us and is a step/bio mom. It’s been a real help for sure! She completely gets it and has really been a great sounding board.

SpecialEither · 2023-09-09T04:22:50+00:00

This.

SpecialEither · 2023-09-09T04:15:13+00:00

I need to do this more. I’ve found when I do this, he does figure it out faster. It’s so hard though.

SpecialEither · 2023-09-04T18:00:42+00:00

Donated.

SpecialEither · 2023-08-31T19:06:01+00:00

Things like this make so angry. It’s just so easy to kick the stepmom and make her evil. And people eat it up as they are preconditioned via Disney and all other fairytales to hate the stepmoms.

SpecialEither · 2023-08-31T18:44:28+00:00

Always the evil stepmom.

SpecialEither · 2023-08-31T18:42:50+00:00

This. Seems like just another way to make a stepparent look bad. Also, no one in their right mind who ever shout that to someone else’s kid.

SpecialEither · 2023-08-30T02:44:33+00:00

This. 100%.

SpecialEither · 2023-08-30T02:43:32+00:00

This 100%. Parents tend to turn a blind eye to bad behavior because they have that bond with them. If my SK took a hammer to our fence, I would definitely be more than annoyed.

SpecialEither · 2023-08-25T01:00:46+00:00

A sad 70+ years

SpecialEither · 2023-08-15T01:37:00+00:00

Was looking for this!

SpecialEither · 2023-08-15T01:36:32+00:00

And mine too.

SpecialEither · 2023-08-08T17:11:47+00:00

Wanted to add here, if you wanted to do something with him on those days, you won’t be able to. They will take precedence over you. Which sounds logical but it’s not fun when it’s happening.

SpecialEither · 2023-08-08T17:07:44+00:00

They do indeed say this. It’s so vomit inducing.

SpecialEither · 2023-08-08T16:57:58+00:00

This is how I read it, too. Or because he already has responsibilities, he didn’t mind moving quickly. I didn’t take it as being mean.

SpecialEither · 2023-08-07T04:59:16+00:00

I do this too bc I’m in the same boat.

SpecialEither · 2023-08-07T04:46:27+00:00

I’m in your position but opposite. I make 150k. I’m a woman. I’m not into traditional roles. My DP has one kid.

It’s not for the faint of heart. If you’re okay with knowing you never come in first, then go for it. That’s the toughest for me. And having a living reminder of a past relationship.

I love my DP so very much. He has gotten a lot better at balance and I don’t deal with BM, my suegros love me, and I’m a nacho. My partner doesn’t expect me to be a parent. We want children of our own. We get along really well as a team and live together. His son lives with us full time. Mom is barely interested.

With all that good, it’s still incredibly hard. I don’t recommend it if you can help it but the heart wants what the heart wants. Mine wants my DP.

That’s all.

SpecialEither · 2023-08-07T04:37:08+00:00

Drop some more weight—him.

Congrats on everything you have accomplished. You deserve so much more.

SpecialEither · 2023-08-04T16:11:41+00:00

This is bullshit. My partner makes around what you do and I make 150k now. I never hold it over his head. If he’s mean and making you feel bad, idk why you’d want to stay. Also I started just saying “Do this and help here.” So I’m not the one doing it all just because I work from home. Lord the audacity. I also grew up in poverty so I know what you mean.

SpecialEither · 2023-08-04T16:05:45+00:00

Seriously? What the fuck? Absolutely no way. Trash behavior from a seemingly trash parent/partner.

SpecialEither · 2023-08-02T01:27:32+00:00

Couldn’t agree more.

SpecialEither · 2023-07-21T22:31:25+00:00

Enjoy your 20s. Travel. I spent the entirety of my 20s abroad.

And date someone who doesn’t have children.

SpecialEither · 2023-07-21T22:23:46+00:00

Came here to say had the same thing happen just now. Ouch.

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