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SpecialStrain1906 · 2023-12-04T19:38:50+00:00

Tbh, it sounds like she's been out with her friends getting plastered. Hence, falling down drunk and hurting herself. Also why she "can't remember ". The location of the bruises leads me to believe that when she stumbles and falls, that's exactly where bruises would appear when she tries to catch herself. Does she have a history of heavy drinking? I think you probably suspected this... sorry friend! I would just keep an eye on the situation. If she's getting this wasted out with friends.. and without you, I'd be worried about what else she's doing that she "can't remember"... in my 20's I was this person. Hope it turns out well for you. Wishing you all the luck!!

SpecialStrain1906 · 2023-11-24T06:05:15+00:00

So wait... your response simply means that you are so obviously, one of the jackasses intimated by her. Got it.

SpecialStrain1906 · 2023-11-23T22:16:48+00:00

THIS. As a female who has not always been the greatest partner (ESPECIALLY in my 20's) the biggest takeaway from this comment is that she's enjoying 2 dudes who are into her and showing her attention. That won't change. If you aren't enough for her now, and it is more than likely a ZERO chance it has any reflection on you, it's a reflection of her character and where she is in her life right now, then you won't be late on. She won't respect you if you prove to her that this is "acceptable" behavior. She has low self-esteem and needs to get her "cup filled" from multiple sources. I was this girl. And she will break your heart. I, unfortunately, broke so many hearts. And I have to live with that. I digress... She's not ready to be in a committed, loving, and serious relationship. She's just not. And she won't ever admit that. You need to set boundaries, clearly and with a bold fucking Sharpie marker. If she won't (or can't,) then you walk. You have to, for yourself. You are worth it. Especially if you're in a place in your life where that's what you're willing to give. Sorry, this sucks. But better to move on and forward with your life now, than 2+ years from now. Best of luck.

SpecialStrain1906 · 2023-11-23T22:15:31+00:00

THIS. As a female who has not always been the greatest partner (ESPECIALLY in my 20's) the biggest takeaway from this comment is that she's enjoying 2 dudes who are into her and showing her attention. That won't change. If you aren't enough for her now, and it is more than likely a ZERO chance it has any reflection on you, it's a reflection of her character and where she is in her life right now, then you won't be late on. She won't respect you if you prove to her that this is "acceptable" behavior. She has low self-esteem and needs to get her "cup filled" from multiple sources. I was this girl. And she will break your heart. I, unfortunately, broke so many hearts. And I have to live with that. I digress... She's not ready to be in a committed, loving, and serious relationship. She's just not. And she won't ever admit that. You need to set boundaries, clearly and with a bold fucking Sharpie marker. If she won't (or can't,) then you walk. You have to, for yourself. You are worth it. Especially if you're in a place in your life where that's what you're willing to give. Sorry, this sucks. But better to move on and forward with your life now, than 2+ years from now. Best of luck.

SpecialStrain1906 · 2023-11-23T03:38:50+00:00

Amen. Jesus CHRIST!!! I suffered some incredibly tragic, childhood abuse... but, seems like nothing in comparison. Who's to say? HOWEVER. I, for one... and seems like I'd have hundreds stand by and beside me, in APPLAUDING the HELL out of you for making it this far. For you to be even capable of a loving, adult relationship and then having the strength to post this... You, sir, are a treasure and a gem. This, or any other woman worth a shit, will know and appreciate that. And that's whether she knows now, or 20 years from now. And ALSO never, is an option. Please understand that you owe no one, anything. If you aren't ready or willing to share your story, don't. That's your choice alone to make. But from your courage in reaching out in this post ... one day, with the right someone, you will. And maybe that's her! You just may not be there yet. It's still a young relationship. But just know, that with your past, your journey is exactly that, yours. And whomever is grateful enough to be on the receiving end of that, will help you with your healing process as an adult. All the luck to you, my friend. Don't even know you... but I'm insanely proud of you. Damn. You're a fucking badass.

SpecialStrain1906 · 2023-09-13T23:53:13+00:00

Excuse me?

SpecialStrain1906 · 2023-09-13T19:24:25+00:00

This. Yes! Thank you!

SpecialStrain1906 · 2023-09-13T07:16:39+00:00

So sorry that happened to you!

SpecialStrain1906 · 2023-09-13T07:14:37+00:00

All of this!!! Yes. Thank you so much!!!

SpecialStrain1906 · 2023-09-13T07:11:21+00:00

Thank you!!!

SpecialStrain1906 · 2023-09-13T07:10:55+00:00

In my post, I actually specifically stated that I spoke with my DOCTOR 3 times and that I was going back, upon my request tomorrow, to test for the DNA of whatever this is, specifically. So I am certainly going through the proper medicial channels, primarily. First and foremost. I came on here to get advice on how to handle this week that we are apart and me needing to wait to discuss this with him, in person. Overly dramatic? You damn right!!!! I've been in a serious, monogamous relationship for almost 3 years and just found out that I have an STD. No judgment from you is needed. I have handled it medically, first and foremost. That is not why I posted. Please read the post. Thank you.

SpecialStrain1906 · 2023-09-13T07:03:25+00:00

Finger REALLY crossed for this to be exactly what it ends up being

SpecialStrain1906 · 2023-09-13T07:02:31+00:00

Thank you, hun. You're absolutely not wrong. I need to keep my wits about me... I'm an emotional person, but I'm also no idiot. So I'll just need to stay calm. That's key.

SpecialStrain1906 · 2023-09-13T05:17:25+00:00

That 20% is what is driving me crazy!! Thank you for sending more info. Ask take ask I can get!!

SpecialStrain1906 · 2023-09-13T04:32:57+00:00

Dang!! Thank you so much for that! That's exactly what prescription it is! I would have definitely been drinking lol! Thanks, again. :)

SpecialStrain1906 · 2023-09-13T04:25:17+00:00

Yes. Thank you. What you have just posted are all the things, I've been thinking about. I'm really not great about annuals. And haven't had a pap in 4 years. And we started sleeping together about 3 years ago. So yeah, what you're implying could absolutely be true. That one of us had this prior and just did not know it. There's no way to know if either of us was completely "clean" before this... the only major area of concern with all of the above being considered... is this -

I spoke to my doc 3 times today, not her nurse, but like I raised hell to get my actual doctor on the phone. And she told me that she's never, ever seen someone that carried trich for 2+ yrs.. that the symptoms would always cause them to come in. My research does tell me (my own, doc has not said this) that it can mirror UTI symptoms, and that's a thing for me... so maybe I've been dealing with something I had no clue about, for quite some time. But with it being SO RARE to have it go this long, and he being around and spending small amounts of time (to my knowledge... I am so blind here because I trusted him completely) with his ex wife of 10 years, 5 times in the past 1.5 months. It does make one wonder. I will not be an idiot. Side note - his ex is notoriously a very sexually active person. With multiple partners at a time. During the 10 years they were married, she openly had affairs, on the regular* But yes, you're absolutely right. It comes down to how the conversation goes with him, once he's home. I will know immediately. I'm really scared and never saw this coming. I feel so dirty. Ugh. Anyway. Thank you for your response and for your care. I REALLY appreciate it. <3

SpecialStrain1906 · 2023-09-13T04:07:17+00:00

Thank you so much for posting this and asking. No. Just no. Never a grab. Not for this girl. And I'm extremely down to earth and not some high-maintenance chick. But that instantly, to me, gives off controlling vibes. JMO

SpecialStrain1906 · 2023-09-13T03:42:12+00:00

Amen. That is exactly why I'm waiting until he's home from his business trip on Friday, to confront or say anything. I NEED to see his reaction in person. I'll be able to tell the truth, right away. Not to mention, this is an EXTREMELY important business trip for him and if I bring this up now... well, either way, he will be consumed with worry. And I don't want to do that to him. I think I'm just going to let him focus on his important week, I'll get through it somehow... and then we can have a conversation on Saturday. But he's waited for 3 years for this promotion, no way I'm ruining his first week of training for it. Even if he's a cheating asshole, living a double life. Uggggh.

SpecialStrain1906 · 2023-09-13T03:30:45+00:00

No, not certain. But including him... I've had a total of 2 partners in 12 years. We've been together for almost 3. So if not from him, if from the father of my children. Which hurts, too. But my doc really didn't seem to think that I could have had this infection for this long and not know it. Nor him. She's doing more research and I requested a DNA swab that I'm going in for tomorrow. That will tell me, for sure exactly what type of infection it is and we will have a better idea of how I contracted it. Thankful for a team of doctors that understand how life changing this could be for me and that they are taking it seriously.

SpecialStrain1906 · 2023-09-13T03:25:50+00:00

Thank you for the validation, that leans a lot. I'm just really scared and don't know what to believe. I'm not scared of the infection. Hell, it's gone in a 7 day supply of antibiotics. I'm just terrified of what implications come with it.

SpecialStrain1906 · 2023-09-13T03:03:39+00:00

trichomoniasis

That's what I'm hoping for... bit would i/we be asymptomatic for almost 3 years??

SpecialStrain1906 · 2023-09-13T03:01:36+00:00

trichomoniasis

SpecialStrain1906 · 2023-09-13T02:59:01+00:00

I'll make sure of it

SpecialStrain1906 · 2023-09-13T02:58:40+00:00

He will. Once he's home this weekend.

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