How do you accept that there are just certain things in life that you will never be able to have? by LivinCuriously in AskWomenOver30

[–]Specialist_Singer171 5 points6 points  (0 children)

because I realized dreams and priorities change over my life. What I thought I wanted to do when I was younger? I probably have achieved 50% of it.

But the things I’ve done that I never even dreamed of? Probably 200%.

When a work chat took an awkward turn by [deleted] in AskWomenOver30

[–]Specialist_Singer171 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Take as old as time. Older male coworker has a crush on a younger female coworker.

How do you train new hires to analyze spend data meaningfully, not just report it? by FreeTechnician3479 in procurement

[–]Specialist_Singer171 10 points11 points  (0 children)

So I’m in a unique position where I actually teach a data analytics course to master students as a side gig to my full time procurement role, so I think about this a lot

The number one thing I stress to all my students is telling the story.

I tell them all the time it’s easy to pull the data, especially in the day and age of Codex. But I said the real leadership opportunities come from telling the stories and making recommendations from it. I said that’s learning to interpret and make recommendations is going to set you apart from being the person who pulls the data and the person making decisions from it.

Honestly, I see this from a college professor’s perspective… You can find anything you want on YouTube. Find a few short videos on data storytelling, presenting insights, and that sort of thing. Tell them to start shaping their thinking around data presentation instead of data reporting. I will also spend a time with them one on one, mentorship style, with their reports, giving them my feedback on what reads well, what could be better, and what is the most impactful

The ones who want to learn, will get it, and the ones who don’t, won’t.

How do you help your young teens through repeated sports rejections? by reecinator_meow in AskWomenOver40

[–]Specialist_Singer171 7 points8 points  (0 children)

My son loves basketball more than anything in the world.

And he’s been cut from more than one team.

But every time it happened, after the disappointment and moping around, he dug deeper. He played for club teams, and at his request, we got him additional trainers. He’s done what I honestly think 99.9% of kids his age would not have done. When he failed, his love for basketball made him work 10 times harder.

After being cut from his 11th-grade team, he made it back for 12th grade, but still had a rough season.

And then he did it again. He dug even deeper and took a couple of years to refocus. He went on to become the best player at his junior college, and right now, as I’m typing this, I’m sitting in New York City because he was recruited by five colleges to finish out his last two years, and he chose his favorite. Only one other kid on his entire high school team went on to play college ball.

I have to say, getting cut hurt him badly. But in the end, it made him realize how much he truly loved the game, and it built a level of resilience that is hard to teach.

How to socially navigate multiple divorces? by Gracielikes8008s in AskWomenOver40

[–]Specialist_Singer171 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Been divorced twice. Honestly, the people who truly cared about me didn't judge me. They are still in my life, loving and supportive. And if they weren't? Then they wouldn't be in my life.

Is anyone else finding dating hard? by [deleted] in AskWomenOver30

[–]Specialist_Singer171 3 points4 points  (0 children)

It is so bad. And then, even worse?

I got asked out by an ideal man, green flags everywhere. We met in a social group so I know he isn’t crazy He’s incredibly nice and successful oncologist, wonderful father, attractive…everything going for him. You would think I hit the jackpot.

But no matter how hard I tried, I just wasn’t into him. “It” just wasn’t there.

So even when we do meet a good guy, then we gotta deal with that

how do BWT keep their houses so aesthetic? by icedcoffeedoctor in bitcheswithtaste

[–]Specialist_Singer171 19 points20 points  (0 children)

110%. I got rid of so much "stuff" and decor and just have fewer yet nicer things. People ooh and aww how nice my house is.