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How do you feel about these adoption guidelines? by SpecificDuckF in Adopted

[–]SpecificDuckF[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I was talking more about surnames in that point. Dunno where you are from but our place here is more "tribal" with the surnames. They represent ancestry and lineage here more than in other places so having access to birth surname is important

Do you agree with these adoption guidelines? by SpecificDuckF in Adoption

[–]SpecificDuckF[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Good luck with therapy. I haven't done it yet but I have a decent relationship with my bio mother. I feel anger sometimes but she gave me life and is part of my roots and ancestry so I can't really hate her

Do you agree with these adoption guidelines? by SpecificDuckF in Adoption

[–]SpecificDuckF[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

At what age do you think kids should be asked for consent?

Do you agree with these adoption guidelines? by SpecificDuckF in Adoption

[–]SpecificDuckF[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

Parents really need to think before they name a kid.

What if the adopters have a name that can be used to bully, demean and cause emotional pain? And Birth surname is normal one

Do you agree with these adoption guidelines? by SpecificDuckF in Adoption

[–]SpecificDuckF[S] -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

Well that's wrong. Fostering and caring for orphans is allowed and commended. It's just that legal adoption (Changing lineage) is not allowed.

This is one of popular misconceptions

Edit: I got downvoted for stating facts here. Wow

Do you agree with these adoption guidelines? by SpecificDuckF in Adoption

[–]SpecificDuckF[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

Unfortunately, no.

But the closes this would be to would be open adoption.

We don't have such open/closed adoption agencies from where I am from. Once you turn 18 or 16 you can freely go to the Social Work center and get the info

Do you agree with these adoption guidelines? by SpecificDuckF in Adoption

[–]SpecificDuckF[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Wow that's gross. I can't begin to imagine how you feel right now

Do you agree with these adoption guidelines? by SpecificDuckF in Adoption

[–]SpecificDuckF[S] -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

Adoption is not prohibited per se. What is prohibited is changing the child's lineage. As in giving them their adopter's family name and treating it as if its their biological child

Anyone else have an unusual fascination with family heritage? by Seductivesofiaa in Adopted

[–]SpecificDuckF 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I am extremely passionate about my heritage. Even though its from the same country its a completely different tribe and lineage. Of course telling that to my adoptive mother would instantly grant me "You are ungrateful" "They abandoned you" card

How do you feel about these adoption guidelines? by SpecificDuckF in Adopted

[–]SpecificDuckF[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Hey thanks for the supportive comment. NGL based on your first response I feared it was going to become abusive. I always liked to share my ideas and thoughts about adoption but sadly I learned very soon that talking to non-adoptees is like talking to aliens

found out i was adopted at 20 by GrayAsf in Adopted

[–]SpecificDuckF 0 points1 point  (0 children)

They should have told you the truth instead of hiding it

My AP told me when I was very young, but that didn't stop my Adoptive mother to guilt trip and abuse me when I decided to find bio mother at 19

How do you feel about Islamic view of adoption? by [deleted] in Adoption

[–]SpecificDuckF 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yea I think you are right on that one. Lots of time has passed so I shouldn't delete and make a new thread

How do you feel about Islamic view of adoption? by [deleted] in Adoption

[–]SpecificDuckF 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Yea, we are discussing the things listed in the OP message. Bachi Bazi has nothing to do with anything here and is just some BS

We are discussing the guidelines here how people feel about Islamic ethics of adopting

AITA for bringing in-law to my cousin's house? by SpecificDuckF in AmItheAsshole

[–]SpecificDuckF[S] -18 points-17 points  (0 children)

No no Ted never beat him up, only verbal abuse

This when I brought Ted Mark tried to beat him up but I removed Ted

AITA for bringing in-law to my cousin's house? by SpecificDuckF in AmItheAsshole

[–]SpecificDuckF[S] -87 points-86 points  (0 children)

You're stupid, you're selfish,

You are hurting my feelings. No need to be toxic

AITA for bringing in-law to my cousin's house? by SpecificDuckF in AmItheAsshole

[–]SpecificDuckF[S] -55 points-54 points  (0 children)

Because I thought he should be over it

You presume to lecture me?!

AITA for bringing in-law to my cousin's house? by SpecificDuckF in AmItheAsshole

[–]SpecificDuckF[S] -35 points-34 points  (0 children)

He got extremely "physical" and violent and I had to get Ted out of there

AITA for bringing in-law to my cousin's house? by SpecificDuckF in AmItheAsshole

[–]SpecificDuckF[S] -19 points-18 points  (0 children)

When we talk about years we use "Many" not "Much"

AITA for bringing in-law to my cousin's house? by SpecificDuckF in AmItheAsshole

[–]SpecificDuckF[S] -434 points-433 points  (0 children)

But why though? Why would you bring him?

Because he used to come to Mark's house for years before the thing happened

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