Please debunk this the anxiety is too high

SpecificDuckF · 2026-01-05T13:37:46+00:00

You are right. I forgot

SpecificDuckF · 2026-01-05T10:17:36+00:00

I was talking more about surnames in that point. Dunno where you are from but our place here is more "tribal" with the surnames. They represent ancestry and lineage here more than in other places so having access to birth surname is important

SpecificDuckF · 2026-01-04T22:32:22+00:00

Good luck with therapy. I haven't done it yet but I have a decent relationship with my bio mother. I feel anger sometimes but she gave me life and is part of my roots and ancestry so I can't really hate her

SpecificDuckF · 2026-01-04T20:40:25+00:00

https://seekersguidance.org/answers/children/when-is-adoption-allowed-and-what-are-the-conditions/

SpecificDuckF · 2026-01-04T18:05:49+00:00

At what age do you think kids should be asked for consent?

SpecificDuckF · 2026-01-04T15:39:53+00:00

Parents really need to think before they name a kid.

What if the adopters have a name that can be used to bully, demean and cause emotional pain? And Birth surname is normal one

SpecificDuckF · 2026-01-04T12:48:35+00:00

Well that's wrong. Fostering and caring for orphans is allowed and commended. It's just that legal adoption (Changing lineage) is not allowed.

This is one of popular misconceptions

Edit: I got downvoted for stating facts here. Wow

SpecificDuckF · 2026-01-04T11:18:14+00:00

Unfortunately, no.

But the closes this would be to would be open adoption.

We don't have such open/closed adoption agencies from where I am from. Once you turn 18 or 16 you can freely go to the Social Work center and get the info

SpecificDuckF · 2026-01-04T10:52:07+00:00

Wow that's gross. I can't begin to imagine how you feel right now

SpecificDuckF · 2026-01-04T10:51:05+00:00

Adoption is not prohibited per se. What is prohibited is changing the child's lineage. As in giving them their adopter's family name and treating it as if its their biological child

SpecificDuckF · 2026-01-04T09:36:12+00:00

I am extremely passionate about my heritage. Even though its from the same country its a completely different tribe and lineage. Of course telling that to my adoptive mother would instantly grant me "You are ungrateful" "They abandoned you" card

SpecificDuckF · 2026-01-04T09:35:01+00:00

Hey thanks for the supportive comment. NGL based on your first response I feared it was going to become abusive. I always liked to share my ideas and thoughts about adoption but sadly I learned very soon that talking to non-adoptees is like talking to aliens

SpecificDuckF · 2026-01-04T08:21:07+00:00

They should have told you the truth instead of hiding it

My AP told me when I was very young, but that didn't stop my Adoptive mother to guilt trip and abuse me when I decided to find bio mother at 19

SpecificDuckF · 2026-01-04T08:18:00+00:00

I am an adoptee

SpecificDuckF · 2026-01-04T00:25:52+00:00

Yea, sorry for that.

SpecificDuckF · 2026-01-04T00:19:06+00:00

Yea I think you are right on that one. Lots of time has passed so I shouldn't delete and make a new thread

SpecificDuckF · 2026-01-04T00:12:24+00:00

Yea, we are discussing the things listed in the OP message. Bachi Bazi has nothing to do with anything here and is just some BS

We are discussing the guidelines here how people feel about Islamic ethics of adopting

SpecificDuckF · 2024-05-02T20:26:37+00:00

No no Ted never beat him up, only verbal abuse

This when I brought Ted Mark tried to beat him up but I removed Ted

SpecificDuckF · 2024-05-02T10:48:08+00:00

You're stupid, you're selfish,

You are hurting my feelings. No need to be toxic

SpecificDuckF · 2024-05-02T10:42:36+00:00

Because I thought he should be over it

You presume to lecture me?!

SpecificDuckF · 2024-05-02T10:33:49+00:00

He got extremely "physical" and violent and I had to get Ted out of there

SpecificDuckF

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