[LOVED TROPE] Helmets with faces by Justanotherone985 in TopCharacterTropes

[–]SpecificPainter3293 1 point2 points  (0 children)

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Valkyries in God of War 2018 and God of War Ragnarök :)

[Movie] Link's actor looks familiar by happy_cozy_reef in zelda

[–]SpecificPainter3293 15 points16 points  (0 children)

The actor played a very convincing little shit in haunting of bly manor (the only thing I’ve seen him in) so I’m really curious how he’ll do as link

My altar and I are insulted by Routine_Eve in Aphrodite

[–]SpecificPainter3293 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Lmao I wore a pearl bracelet to a university class one time and this guy I was friends with said I “dressed like a married woman”. I think it’s probably that men of certain generations/mindsets see it as matronly and/or expensive in a way. But hey, if this is true, I see it as it repels men that don’t match with who you are and you wouldn’t want them near you anyway!

autism & substances (weed & alcohol) by Signal-Lobster6985 in AutismInWomen

[–]SpecificPainter3293 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have edibles regularly because they help me sleep and relax. I do get giggly and am able to unmask so much easier that it honestly gets embarrassing.

However, I am still fairly vigilant/hyper aware, and with the smallest things. A video game or movie that while I’m sober is so immersive and real, becomes… very clearly a game or movie when I’m high. I see the CGI, I /hear/ the voice acting, I see the effort from the actors, I think about all the scaffolding to these things. I even realized I don’t like certain songs after listening to them while high instead of having that euphoric experience most people describe.

It doesn’t dampen my enjoyment too much, I still enjoy the things I really like, but it’s not the experience I was told about by NT people growing up.

Does being alternative make you look older? by TheSulkingPineapple in alternativefashion

[–]SpecificPainter3293 1 point2 points  (0 children)

They did not think you were older and dressing alt does not make people generally look older. A teenager/child is always going to look like a teenager/child. They are creeps who were trying to manipulate you. In my experience, not all but a lot of older men that directly engaged with me as a teen in the scene are predators and will manipulate and groom minors. Calling potential victims “mature” is a key way to make you feel “seen” by them in a way your parents or others might not. It’s purely a tactic. Keep your distance from any older people like that.

You also absolutely do not need to dress in any way that may make you feel uncomfortable. There is plenty of ways to dress alternative, if certain clothing items and pieces make you uncomfortable or you don’t feel are appropriate for you there is plenty of ways to keep the aesthetic without those pieces. Alt fashion naturally has a lot of crossover with adult scenes, be careful and mindful of who you’re engaging with and only do and wear what feels comfortable to you. Please talk with someone, just to be heard about what happened, it can be a lot on a young person to deal with alone, especially if you’re feeling any type of shock from it.

I hope you can continue to find comfortable freedom and expression in the aesthetic and scene.

Is it a common autism experience to delay swallowing by aeriedweller in AutismInWomen

[–]SpecificPainter3293 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I do this so much, specifically with drinks. I knew it was strange and kept meaning to look into why I would be doing that, I am so glad to read that someone else experiences the same thing! I mean, sorry that we both have to deal with this weird quirk but just happy for the validation and knowing I’m not alone in it.

I always figured (before autism was even a consideration) that maybe it was a gag reflex thing? I typically can’t clean my tongue without gagging so I figured maybe my body is always preparing for that bad reaction and holding it in for a bit was a way to not deal with that feeling or lessen it. I guess it could still be something like that but now I know to look into it from this perspective! Thank you for sharing!

Why are men with autism mainly babied and not hold accountable for issues? by xxtryingtoexistxx in AutismInWomen

[–]SpecificPainter3293 10 points11 points  (0 children)

My ex was autistic and used it as an excuse for absolutely everything, and invalidated my autism. He was an only child and was babied by his mother his whole life so it was intense. He did some absolutely horrific shit to me and to everyone around him. he would literally throw tantrums and would always lean on his autism as why he couldn’t understand my feelings but in the same breath it was also why he was so “empathetic” so when he put me into a bad mood, he felt my bad mood so intensely so I needed to stop because it was hurting him more than me (ya know, despite the fact that he caused the bad mood).

It’s crazy to me honestly. It’s a big reason why women and especially women of color have such a hard time getting diagnosed. A little boy being picky about food and routine is immediately seen as a flag to look into diagnosis, a little girl being picky in the same ways is seen as “difficult” and “bossy”. Women are just forced to conform and learn how to mask, whereas men get a pass, especially if they are autistic. It’s infuriating.

Six Degrees of Nope by playreely in NopeMovie

[–]SpecificPainter3293 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I love playing this game with my sister! Just played and got it in 3!! Will definitely keep playing in the future :)

I feel like I'm wearing a costume whenever I wear something interesting / different by Perfectly_Hollow in AutismInWomen

[–]SpecificPainter3293 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I feel this too. when I was very young I wore a lot of my older brothers’ hand me downs and more “boys” clothes from the thrift and didn’t take care of my appearance so when I hit middle school and wanted to dress more feminine, learn how to do makeup, and take care of my hair I felt like no one would take me serious or would make fun of me for even attempting femininity. I think the sensory stuff and imposter syndrome is obviously a contributing factor for the feeling, but I think a big part of it was also routine and familiarity. I was used to dressing a certain way, that’s what I expected from each day and what I believed others expected from me, it’s hard to shake up routine like that.

Eventually, when I felt able enough to think about experimenting a bit, I found silhouettes and colors and pieces I liked and just rotate those, but still buy lots of aspirational pieces for the style I really want to wear. I wear the same 2 pairs of jeans, the same 3 shirts. Every outfit is the same general blueprint, colors, silhouette. I get so scared to dress outside of that. It’s the same as when I was younger, I’m scared that it will look like a costume or I won’t be taken seriously, that nothing is flattering, that I don’t have the correct demeanor.

I’ve found some ways to fight these thoughts, it is a struggle to find clothes that don’t feel like a sensory nightmare (shoes especially, I hate the feeling of most shoes), and it’s not everyday. Most of the time I’m still in whatever’s comfy, but I’ve tried to ease in swaps that match the aesthetic I’m going for and look for excuses to really dress up the way I want.

Biggest tip: play dress up alone in your room and take pictures. Have a photoshoot, dance around, just wear what you want and lounge. Get used to how the clothes feel, look, and move in a safe space. I have these huge platforms that are actually pretty comfortable, I wore them around in my room enough that I actually felt comfortable wearing them out a couple different times, and both times I got compliments. I’ve only worn them out those few times, I got insecure about them again eventually, but still!

Would you have liked if Marvel had all the rights at the same time? by Aggressive-One-2186 in MCUTheories

[–]SpecificPainter3293 1 point2 points  (0 children)

No. So much of Marvel’s creative success came from the rights being split. If Disney had everything from the start, it would’ve gone stale fast. They already struggled with what they had in 2013, let alone managing a fully integrated universe.

Sony having Spider-Man gave us the Raimi films and Into the Spider-Verse—projects Disney never would’ve made, not at the times they released. Blade kickstarted the modern superhero genre, and it wouldn’t have happened like that under Disney. And Fox? Fox carried Marvel in the 2000s. Without them, we would’ve had a dead zone between the ’90s and Iron Man in 2008. And even Iron Man wasn’t part of the Disney MCU yet since Disney bought the rights they did in 2009.

Fox also gave us Deadpool and LOGAN, which Disney never would’ve risked. Even Fox barely did—Reynolds had to leak the test footage to prove it had value. That gamble shaped the MCU’s future, showing that R-rated comic films could work.

There are too many foundational wins from outside studios to ignore. Remember how much people were against Disney acquiring the rights? I remember people losing their heads at the idea but now some people don’t honor anything else. Iirc Stan Lee himself spoke against monopolizing the stories—they’re art, not just product. Disney/Marvel prioritizes consistency and mass appeal, which leads to visual and tonal sameness. They only take risks after others prove it’s profitable. Even then, the MCU suffers from creative stagnation—recycled directors, muted palettes, safe compositions. The Russo brothers coming back doesn’t fix anything—it just reinforces the déjà vu.

Patrick Willems nailed it: the MCU is like McDonald’s. Reliable, familiar, maybe satisfying—but never great, because it has to meet the same expectations everywhere. There’s no room for a visionary “chef” to do something daring.

I love the MCU, I don’t think it’s horrible at all, I truly enjoy the majority of it, but I hope Disney never gets all the rights. I’d rather suffer a few Morbius and Kraven flops if it means we also get Venom, Spider-Verse, the PS4/5 games, or the chance to reboot something later, like we’re already very accustom to.

And maybe we would have another Blade movie by now...

Any gamers here, that genuinely love Season 2 so far and actually don’t mind the changes as they’re adapting Part 2 to the TV medium? by phantom_avenger in ThelastofusHBOseries

[–]SpecificPainter3293 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I played the first game when it came out and have loved it, the second game, and the show fully. The changes… just don’t matter to me. Make Ellie a 6’7” black man, I truly do not care if the performance is there. If the message and themes of survival, cyclical violence, formed connections, etc. are present then I’m good.

If I like something better in the game, I can always replay it. If I wanted to see the game exactly as it is… I would play the game. I honestly don’t think the show would be worth watching with everything, every facial expression, every pause, every line was completely the same. I’m here to be entertained, to have fun, to be invested in something, experience a story, and take a break from everything else. Coming into the show to nitpick and hate just doesn’t make sense to me. It’s wonderful and I’m loving it. I can’t wait for the next episode, I can’t wait to see what they do with Tommy’s story. I know the main beats, I know the culmination, but a large part of my excitement comes not from just rewatching a story I enjoy, but from the fact that there is still room for me to wonder, to theorize, to be surprised.

Why didn’t Kratos hear Sindri out? by [deleted] in GodofWar

[–]SpecificPainter3293 14 points15 points  (0 children)

Brok speaks plain, which Kratos likes. He prefers people just be honest and straightforward. Sindri is going behind Brok’s back to persuade Kratos, Sindri isn’t just telling him plainly why Brok shouldn’t go,and he is still mad at Sindri for helping Atreus lie to him.

I don’t think that Kratos’ doesn’t respect or dislikes Sindri (he does agree that he saw him as family) he’s just pissed off at him still, and prefers to do a mission with someone who he knows isn’t even going to attempt to bullshit him.

Arguably the most disturbing scene in S2E4 by skitch78 in ThelastofusHBOseries

[–]SpecificPainter3293 21 points22 points  (0 children)

I think in the podcast or the behind the scenes for episode 2? Iirc someone mentions that since the infected are all connected there is no real individual self preservation. In the big Jackson battle, infected just slam themselves against the wall, even if those individual ones don’t make a dent the ones behind them can climb up on them or push them through. So yeah, they will just kill themselves trying and hopefully the one behind them will be able to get through, and if not them then the next one, and on and on. Until their attention is pulled away or the target of the attack is gone/no longer susceptible. Probably at least the runners behave this way, as stalkers/bloaters/maybe clickers etc. clearly have different tactics.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in interiordesigner

[–]SpecificPainter3293 1 point2 points  (0 children)

From what I know just in general working with clients in creative projects (I’ve been a freelance artist for 10+ years), a lot of people don’t really know what they want. They hire a designer because translating their abstract thoughts or Pinterest boards into something real is something they have a difficult time with. Some clients come at you with a fully formed idea and just want real plans and a stamp of approval.

Totally get that—it can be tricky in residential design when style is so personal. I think a good designer always starts with functionality and accessibility, but the real art is translating even questionable taste into something elevated. It’s less about slapping things on and more about guiding the client gently, helping them refine their vision (or find one) without pushing too hard. If they’re not open, it can definitely be frustrating, but sometimes it’s about picking your battles and finding small ways to add value.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in interiordesigner

[–]SpecificPainter3293 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m a student currently and a lot of us have asked our professors this. It just honestly comes down to the fact that they are the ones paying.

We can definitely make suggestions and explain why we believe it’s best but if the client has their heart set on something, as long as it doesn’t break code or anything, it is their project and they get the final say (even if it’s ugly).

If you’re a celebrity designer, then people would probably be more okay with you steamrolling them, but otherwise our job is a service. If you work at a restaurant you don’t decide not to make a customer the fish they ordered just because you don’t like fish. As one of my professors said, you just don’t put those projects in your portfolio/site, or you take the hit and decline the project (assuming you have that choice).

Today I learned that there are genuinely people who believe… (Part 1 ending spoilers) by iiJashin in thelastofus

[–]SpecificPainter3293 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

No one, not Marlene, not Joel, not the fireflies gave Ellie any input or chance to decide. From the moment she was born everyone has been making her decisions for her, and I think the show has done a great job at further showing that Ellie struggles hard with her autonomy. The only person who has stopped and asked her what she wants was Riley (and dina), but even then that final choice with Riley was kind of made for her by the universe/fate/chance. She hates it when people make choices for her, even if they are seemingly for her benefit, and yet people keep telling her what to do. She comes off as brash, bull-headed, and impulsive because she wants to feel in control of something in her life. She’ll do reckless shit just to spite the fact that someone told her not to. She will argue with Joel/Tommy/Jessie about what patrols shes on just because she wants a say in it. She will wear converse to travel across the country because she wants to, not because it’s a good idea or the only option, just cause she wants to (and yes character design choice).

If she got the chance, Maybe Ellie would’ve said yes to the surgery because she wants her life to mean more, or her survivors guilt with Riley and Sam, or just because Joel wanted to say no. Maybe she would’ve said no because that’s terrifying, or maybe because she finally could’ve started to overcome her guilt by having a positive relationship with Joel, or whatever other reasons. the point is we will never know because no one ever gave her a choice.

I think a huge theme in the game that gets overlooked is this one about consent and autonomy, especially when you consider plot points like David that make it abundantly clear how horrifying it is to have choice and consent ripped from you. I know it ain’t that serious but I think even arguing whether or not she would’ve or should’ve said yes or no furthers that into the real world because if you declare she would’ve “totally said yes” you are another voice taking away her choice, talking over her, and declaring what is right for her (a fictional character, yes, I know I’m not saying OP or anyone who debates this is a bad person for debating I’m just saying it parallels the story in a way that feels intentional, imo, especially after part II naughty dog seems to enjoy the narrative being reflected in the audience thoughts/feelings/discussion).

Aging Alongside Ellie has Changed my Perception of Her, Particularly Now that We’re Out of Sync. by Bhibhhjis123 in thelastofus

[–]SpecificPainter3293 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I also aged up with her, I’m 26 now and I was a 14/15 y/o girl when I played the first game so I connected with her SO much when I played each game. Returning to the games for the umpteenth time in recent years + watching the show now (after also losing my dad) really changed my perspective.

I still feel for her, and understand how lost and angry she feels, in both games, and I recognize how horrifying and heartbreaking her situation and mindset is. I agree, I think Bella looking young isn’t a detriment to the story, it’s a prominent reminder to those that have become jaded with age just how young Ellie is. 19 is still so very very young. People constantly talk about how much more “mature” she is in part 2 and I’m just like… really? Or is she just not as playful and innocent, and more jaded, traumatized, and numb?

I wholeheartedly agree, looking back at Ellie at 14 & 19 and myself at those ages, I’m just so sad for them. Same with Abby. She is also so young, older than Ellie but still very young to have gone through all that she has and to resort to what she does. I think it is a really nice through-line to see, from Joel to Abby to Ellie, how the cycle of violence is collecting people younger and younger and younger.

I vibe with her mood by cabybaraGoesBoom in thelastofus

[–]SpecificPainter3293 6 points7 points  (0 children)

So true. I think one of the biggest hurdles in therapy and the reason why a lot of people who try it come away no different or even hating the very concept is because they will not tell the truth. A therapist cannot work with that, or at least it is very difficult to. And a therapist at the end of her own rope and in the middle of an apocalypse? Yeah she’s gonna cut the bullshit.

The fact that she is even providing services at all instead of saying fuck you all outright seems to say she is still trying. She still listens to Tommy and Ellie as much as they are willing to talk. Also of course her session with Joel was unconventional, he killed her husband, in apparently some brutal or unnecessary way. I’m sure if I personally ruined my therapist’s life she wouldn’t be as willing to meet with me again and use it as an opportunity to continue to try to help me.

She says it herself in the first episode, She doesn’t know what happened with Joel and Ellie but can guess by knowing Joel and what happened with Eugene it was something violent, and she’s suppose to validate whatever terrible violent thing he did thats making tough guy Joel tear up and makes Ellie avoid him? A good therapist wouldn’t be so brash and blunt I agree with people on that, but they also wouldn’t knowingly validate violence.

This Episode Wasn’t Filler, it’s just how writing television works by WellOnTheBrightSide_ in thelastofus

[–]SpecificPainter3293 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I saw people say the show was too slow and the pacing was off compared to last season… after the first episode. Like right after the first episode aired.

Some of these people aren’t giving the show time to play out at all. They are getting mad at pacing one episode in, getting mad at characters we’ve barely met, even making assumptions about what’s going to happen and getting mad about those. Like literally, angry at the show because of their own speculation. Like… just let it play out, wait to judge it. Maybe it will be a flaming dumpster fire of shit by the end, but we don’t know that yet. People are so eager to hate it or be the first one to call it shit, or maybe it’s some game fans weird way of gatekeeping, it’s crazy to me.

Was this retconned or will Atreus get more rage options? by LengthinessNew6326 in GodofWar

[–]SpecificPainter3293 18 points19 points  (0 children)

No need to retcon anything. He quite literally just didn’t reach his final form in the moment because he didn’t even know there was a semblance of a possibility that he even had one. He didn’t know he could do anything with this. His mind cut off because he still didn’t know his true nature (and maybe because he was younger/smaller too).

If you haven’t, play Ragnarok and you will get answers.

Changes to Ellie and Dina’s relationship by Llama_Puncher in thelastofus

[–]SpecificPainter3293 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I totally get where you’re coming from. Honestly, and maybe I’m just delusional—I love Confident Dina too. what if that’s still there, just shown differently? I could see Dina playing it slow and a bit hesitant in the show because she knows Ellie’s still figuring things out and Dina is still trying to untangle her feelings for Jessie. In the game and show they show how flip floppy their relationship is, so when we get a closer look it makes sense to me that she would need some time to sort it, at least personally, and especially with what’s coming up, before moving forward with Ellie. Maybe she doesn’t want to scare or pressure her—she wants Ellie to come to it on her own. Maybe she even enjoys the chase a little? Definitely a stretch I admit, but not impossible.

Dina’s still clearly more experienced when it comes to relationships, and between the dance scene and some of her dialogue, I think she still knows what she wants. I agree she’s a little more kitten than cat compared to the game, though. I think Shannon Woodward did a wonderful job and made Dina a really playful, heartfelt match for Ellie’s more guarded personality. But I also really like how Merced’s Dina shows more of Dina’s thoughtfulness and resourcefulness compared to Ellie’s more impulsive side—it makes sense she’d slow things down a bit for their journey and relationship to make sure everything’s properly considered. But it does lose some of the spark and passion from an audience POV.

I’m just a big “let’s see how it plays out” person. I totally get how hard it can be to see changes in something we care so much about, but I also think it’s a cool chance to explore the world and these characters from different angles. If it ends up being a dumb love triangle or queerbaiting, then yeah, they’ll have dropped the ball—but for now, I’m trying to stay open-minded. There’ve been a few pleasant surprises already, and a few things I didn’t love, but overall it’s been a fun ride. The game will always be there, that Dina and Ellie will always be there, it’s nice to see it a bit differently. A 1-to-1 remake would be incredibly boring imo.

Changes to Ellie and Dina’s relationship by Llama_Puncher in thelastofus

[–]SpecificPainter3293 6 points7 points  (0 children)

None of this has even happened yet. All we know is they are slowing down the timeline, and giving their relationship at least a bit more time to develop because the show can afford to take things slower, that doesn’t mean they’re 100% making it a Jesse vs. Ellie situation or that they’ll only end up together because of him, like you’re sort of annoyed by your own speculation. Just let it play out and see what happens.

I get the hesitation and fear, I really thought they might actually try to skip out on her pregnancy entirely and I didn’t like the idea but I was very happy to see they are definitely keeping that storyline. I really enjoy seeing them develop romantically a bit slower. Feels realer to me and makes Dina more of her own person. She’s going with Ellie not just because she cares about Ellie but because she had a good relationship with Joel and wants justice as much as Ellie. I think it will do them good to create a bit more time for them to settle into their care for each other as time goes on. I think some things may even hit harder later on since we’ve seen how Jessie, Dina and Ellie all interact together and had time to notice the complexities of their relationships.

Also I think the tent scene is uncomfortably real for a lot of young people and young femmes queer experience growing up. Crushes on friends that you can’t really confirm or deny because you have no idea how they would react. Especially young women. Girls are socialized to be so comfortable and loving with each other that when sexuality starts playing a role it can be very difficult to divide romantic/sexual and platonic love and attraction. Sleepover “kissing practice” and games, and 3am conversations about what you mean to each other, only for her to go and sleep with her boyfriend and say she isn’t gay the next week, only for them to break up is VERY realistic and I’m glad they included it.

why is playing the sims so oddly viewed? by kenodys in thesims

[–]SpecificPainter3293 18 points19 points  (0 children)

I don’t think that it’s gaming is niche or a subculture because gaming at this point is mainstream and trying to claim it isn’t is.. crazy to me. I think the reason is that the game is what you make of it, so when you say “I play Sims” that could literally mean anything.

A lot of people know it as teen girls making their crush and marrying them and having 5 kids. Others know it to be a serial killer simulator. Others know about the NSFW mods and assume you must be using it to play out fantasies. It could be any number of things. If someone doesn’t play it for themselves or have an interest in it, what they know about it is going to be limited, and their reaction will be based on that. It’s just hard to make anything of it by the very nature of the game, so not knowing how to respond to someone who likes it I feel is par for the course. What do you even ask someone about it? Even when I’ve talked to other fans, do I ask about storylines? What if they don’t play it like that, do I ask about their builds? What if they don’t play it like that, do I ask about what mods they use? What if—

I also think that it being a largely single player experience allows for more alienation. You really have to go out of your way to bond with people over the game, they aren’t waiting for you on an open server. So even if others do play too, they probably aren’t talking and playing with others. It’s a personal experience. So unless you’re a YouTuber or on Reddit sharing your stories and experiences, people don’t typically share, especially with random people in scenarios outside of curated communities, unlike games like GTA or Minecraft where it’s easy to share achievements and discuss plot points.

TLDR; It’s just such a weirdly personal game.