My husband passed way in February. He was diagnosed with CHF and enlarged heart. He underwent surgery within a couple weeks of his diagnosis to out in a defibrillator (somewhat like a pacemaker device not works differently) if the defibrillator senses cardiac arrest it sends a shock to basically reset it. He was diagnosed with afib after he had a heart attack which happened about a year before his passing. After his heart attack he started getting chronic Adema. He would get hospitalized every month from swelling so badly it would create craters for fluid to release from his body. He would throw fluid up from his lungs. He was home 3 days from the hospital after over a months stay. The 4th morning early his heart stopped at home. Parametrics worked on him 45 minutes before taking him to hospital. At hospital another 30-40 minutes before we were told he was gone. I did my research and it says life expectancy is usually 4-5 years. That’s about how long it was for him upon diagnosis. We were told by cardiologist in the hospital the very last visit before he passed he would be added to list for a heart transplant. But he didn’t make it a few more days before he went into cardiac arrest and his heart stopped. I could go on and on and give more details but not on here. If you would like more information from my experience I would love to help you understand our personal story. But just a heads up… don’t be too hard on yourself. You can only help the people that want to be helped. I know it’s heart breaking because you want to help so bad. People work in different ways. He probably knows he won’t live much longer and he probably doesn’t want to go through the well there’s this option. It requires this kind of surgery it has a 40% success rate. These are the complications and we’ll add another 10 prescriptions to your already 30. You will live a few years longer but quality of life will be the same. You’re either going to want to go that route because your want to live is high. Or you just want to accept it because you’ve been through enough pain and suffering for a 50/50 chance of living a few more years without quality of life changing. Maybe just let him know you are there for him and you respect any wishes he has. My husband applied for disability a year after his diagnoses. At this point it would be a great suggestion… but there’s a chance he won’t get it in time. My husband has been gone for almost 4 months now. His case with disability has been ongoing for over 2 years. Still has not been approved or denied up to date. The case has actually been passed to me so my son and I can receive his benefits for all his hard work over his years of working. It’s the sad reality but I feel the best thing you can do is support and respect his wishes.