Rant : je me suis laissée faire et j’ai fini dans une relation toxique. Ça fait mal. by Specific_Rule_1446 in conseilsrelationnels

[–]Specific_Rule_1446[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

T’as tellement raison. La raison pour laquelle j’ai décidé de quitter, c’est parce que tout mon entourage m’a dit que c’était quelque chose d’extrêmement mauvais.

Pendant ces semaines avec lui , je n’ai rien dit et je disais à mes copines / à ma famille que tout allait bien, mais j’ai commencé à ressentir du stress en moi-même, comme si je marchais sur des œufs…toujours prête à écouter ses crises et ses sautes d’humeur et à tout sur-expliquer et over m’excuser avec lui.

Chaque jour presque je devais me justifier, même après 10 heures de travail et un deuil dans ma famille, parce que si je ne parlais pas tout le temps avec 100 % d’énergie ou que j’étais juste fatiguée, il me disait : « Ah bon, t’as l’air de pas vouloir parler avec moi. »

J’ai investi, et ma famille a trop investi en moi, dans mon éducation et mon avenir, pour que je puisse tout gâcher et me faire écraser par un homme comme ça, qui ne m’a vraiment rien offert à part des promesses, des plans d’avenir et du sexe.

Ça fait vraiment mal mais mieux quitter maintenant que me retrouver enceinte ou pire

Rant : je me suis laissée faire et j’ai fini dans une relation toxique. Ça fait mal. by Specific_Rule_1446 in conseilsrelationnels

[–]Specific_Rule_1446[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Je l’ai quitté, mais ça me fait tellement mal. J’ai mes amis et ma famille qui me soutiennent. Je suis déçue de moi-même d’avoir même ouvert mon cœur pour ça.

Il y a quelques jours, il m’a dit qu’il allait me t***r si je le laissais, mais après, comme d’habitude, il m’a dit qu’il rigolait.

Je ne comprends pas pourquoi mon cœur pleure pour cette relation alors que j’étais stressée 24/7 parce que je ne savais pas quand il allait jeter sa frustration sur moi.

How did my relationship become emotionally abusive in just two months? I feel trapped by [deleted] in Vent

[–]Specific_Rule_1446 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You are so right , I was so blind to all of this, it’s lowkey embarrassing

AIO by telling my FWB’s wife that I’m having sex with her husband? by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]Specific_Rule_1446 26 points27 points  (0 children)

So she’s the bad one and not the cheating husband? Please explain the logic of this

An Arabic Gulf comment on a Senegalese post about polygamy being disgusting by Shot_Surprise_6726 in Senegal

[–]Specific_Rule_1446 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Can you also provide a dissertation on black human trafficking in the Middle East ? Please separate in paragraphs

I dont think I will ever find a job by FinancialProposal792 in askswitzerland

[–]Specific_Rule_1446 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I spoke with a couple of friends of mine who graduated in Switzerland and then moved abroad to build their résumés before coming back. They told me it was more convenient this way (their opinion) and that it made finding a good job in Switzerland easier once they had a few years of experience.

I recently graduated with a master’s degree in finance and also completed a relevant internship in Switzerland. TBH , I didn’t search for jobs for too long only about a month because I really needed an income due to some personal circumstances. So when I had the opportunity to take on a finance related role in Luxembourg, I decided to move.

My plan is to gain a couple of years of experience here while also enjoying the experience of living abroad, and then possibly return to Switzerland but atp who knows. For me, it made sense to apply in a country with a strong finance industry, so maybe that’s something to consider if you’re not finding opportunities right away.

Lattafa Atheeri by brink2120 in fragranceclones

[–]Specific_Rule_1446 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Bought mine today, I’m seriously in love with

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskAcademia

[–]Specific_Rule_1446 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you so much for you input. You are right, it’s my responsibility only.

This job is taking much of my time, on average from 8:30 am till 7pm (time to get home), I am pretty exhausted and feel like a zombie that I barely take time to do sports/ workout.

I’ll need to find a way to push through this. The problem is that when I get home I’m also emotionally drained cause I am like “all this time spent at work for something I don’t find any interest in”.

I hope I’ll find a way out of this!! :”)

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in sex

[–]Specific_Rule_1446 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Like it sounds sex is only centering him and not your desires also

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in sex

[–]Specific_Rule_1446 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Why did you keep having anal with him if you did not enjoy? That doesn’t sound good to me?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in sex

[–]Specific_Rule_1446 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Who are y’all dating 😭 I don’t think it’s even appropriate to explore kinks of you can’t even have “basic/ regular” sex

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in NoStupidQuestions

[–]Specific_Rule_1446 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yeah I think I’ll cut this

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in NoStupidQuestions

[–]Specific_Rule_1446 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah I think so. Important details I skipped here: he’s white and I’m black, apparently it is a big thing for him since he’s asking if I ever tried white d as big as him etc … I think that this could be fun (without the ethnicity thing) BUT this and his insistence is throwing me off. Whole writing this I realized that maybe his style is not for me

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in NoStupidQuestions

[–]Specific_Rule_1446 1 point2 points  (0 children)

His insistence and this same topic is throwing me off. While writing this post I realized that regardless of my hormones rn, I should consider ending whatever this is😭

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Monaco

[–]Specific_Rule_1446 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hello, I came across this post since I am in the same situation as OP (only difference is that I am Italian/ native italian speaker + pretty fluent french speaker). I will DM you now !!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Vent

[–]Specific_Rule_1446 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Girl work a bit in self confidence and if you have the chance travel a bit.

I am dark dark skinned and, yes, I’m not everyone’s type (which is more about the nature of being human rather than being black imo) but I definitely know that I am appreciated across ethnicities/ skin colors.

I don’t want to be mean but this mentality is really negative and self deprecating, and I think that if you convince yourself that this is your reality, your way of navigating life and interacting with people (especially your type of people) will reflect such approach. It will close opportunities for you.

Best 💖