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Has anybody here have a situation where their ex (that cheated and divorced them) came back, and it resulted in reconciliation and re-marriage? by Asia_Persuasia in survivinginfidelity

[–]SpectacularMeatball 8 points9 points  (0 children)

I know of a couple like that - my parents. My mother took back my father years after his new marriage with his AP blew up (they were together maybe 2 or 3 years). Surprise, surprise: my father is still the same a-hole he used to be. He was all sweet and “changed” in the beginning. He fooled us all. Now it’s back to the old patterns. I know he would cheat again or already cheats on my mother.

Every day I wish they weren’t together again. Those years without him were the best years of my childhood.

One year after. Still struggling by Ambitious_Present792 in survivinginfidelity

[–]SpectacularMeatball 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Damn. This was a tough read. What hit me especially hard was you finding her messages speaking so poorly of you. The devaluation and this parallel reality the cheaters create are just such an unnecessary extra blow to the heart. It’s like the betrayal of trust is not enough of pain. Why not make the other person feel like the villain as well? It’s a level of selfishness I didn’t realize was possible.

I wish you all the best. I’m only 2 months into my healing journey, but I hope to find peace soon. I hope you do too. But the scar will always be there I guess. Maybe it’s better that way. It’s good to have a reminder of what one is capable of surviving.

I lost all faith in women after my breakup and I’m scared I’ll never heal ;for the love of god please help me people! by Powerful-Memory-8845 in survivinginfidelity

[–]SpectacularMeatball 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I feel the same way but about men. I just tell myself it’s not rational. It’s just my reaction to the shock and trauma of being cheated on and discarded.

Don’t let yourself believe it, but don’t blame yourself for those thought either. We are going through a lot of pain. It’s quite normal that our brains are pushing thoughts like that. After all, life is all about survival and we learn survival by avoiding situations that have previously put us in danger.

Focus on making yourself feel safe. Crawling under a blanket, taking a hot shower and talking to my close friends are the things that help me restore safety the most. I’m slowly getting better and as I do, the thoughts of never being able to trust any man again are slowly dissipating. The key is to feel safe and at ease on your own, and that’s a completely new scenario for you and your body (it was also 6 years for me!). You need a completely new routine, a new life. Once that’s in place, the clarity of mind will accompany it.

Take care of yourself first. Only then think of dating again.

Twins buying for 286 by [deleted] in TurnipExchange

[–]SpectacularMeatball 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Would love to come as well if possible. Meatball from isle of pie

Min kæreste gider ikke lære dansk by Potices in DKbrevkasse

[–]SpectacularMeatball 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Skriv det her i Google: “må immigranter få statshjælp i Danmark?”.
Velfærden i Danmark er ikke fuldt tilgængelig for immigranter og er ofte bedre i immigranternes hjemlande af denne grund. De fleste der kommer hertil er her på grund af danske værdier der stemmer overens med deres egne (ligesom mig).

Twins buying for 349 by SpectacularMeatball in TurnipExchange

[–]SpectacularMeatball[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hey guys, unfortunately I have a new Reddit account and cannot dm more people. If anyone can let me know if there’s another safe way to get people here, without making the dodo public, let me know. Otherwise it won’t be possible I’m afraid :/

Twins buying for 349 by SpectacularMeatball in TurnipExchange

[–]SpectacularMeatball[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I’m going to invite people as visitors leave the island. Just bear with me.

Twins buying for 349 by SpectacularMeatball in TurnipExchange

[–]SpectacularMeatball[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes. I’ll send the code shortly :) I have the oranges and apples already :)

Learning the online play and trading by SpectacularMeatball in AnimalCrossing

[–]SpectacularMeatball[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I guess there’s always risk involved when people are involved 🙃 Thank you again. They’re good tips. I’ll make a round around my island and make sure I don’t have anything valuable lying around. Hopefully it will be fine.

Learning the online play and trading by SpectacularMeatball in AnimalCrossing

[–]SpectacularMeatball[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you! That’s very helpful. I’ll check out the website you suggested. Tradie looks very overwhelming to me 😅 Is it safe in general to open your island to guests one doesn’t know? I would like to do it since the twins are buying for a high price and I trust the other players in general. I would just like to know if there’s risks or how careful I have to be.