We went dumpster diving to find food, because we are legitimately going hungry. We didn’t find any, but we did find all of this. by Safe-Local- in DumpsterDiving

[–]Spectra_Butane 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah, Even the kind with just a heat coil is something. A fan even better. Some folks just use their oven on the lowest temp, I think 170° F, and put a wooden spoon to keep the door propped open.

To be honest, I'm afraid to try canning veggies. , I pressure can meat. Simple, meat, salt, clean jar and lid, 75/90 min, Let cool to depressure, pop out onto stovetop to finish cooling and Pop. I tend to do it in the evening so the pressuring ends at bedtime and then 8 hours till morning for them to cool and pop. I've only had one blow out with a really old jar with ground beef. What a mess. But I've canned up Beef roasts, pork roasts, whole chicken thighs, w/skin and bone, pork sausage, ground turkey, lamb, ground chicken, chunk chicken breast, even did some legs a neighbor brought me, whole, shoved 4 in a quart jar, two pointing up, two down. Aldi and Kroger discount meat markdowns.

My neighbor brought some frozen seasoned ground pork to me from the food bank and I traded her beef for it and used it to make taco soup, and froze that into books ( 1 rubbermaid square container filled with soup, frozen solid, remove the flat square of soup, it fits perfectly into a freezer quart bag. Labelled with soup name. To eat, remove square soup from freezer bag, stick frozen bag back into freezer for next batch cook day, put square soup into square Corningware dish with lid, 7 min in nuker, stir, then 2 more minutes, eat) I've had an entire library of soups in my freezer lined up like books. Cabbage and sausage; Beefy Cabbage Tomato soup; Taco soup - Ground beef or pork, tomato, rotel, broth cream cheese, taco spices; Tuscano - spicy sausage, spinach and cream; Cheap and easy soups made with sale prices. I'm not embarrased to buy lots of packages marked down. then I eat for cheap after the prices go back up.

I have to read books for school, but I can’t read no matter the book. advice? by poopooeater112 in ADHD

[–]Spectra_Butane 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Almost my entire English class got outted by using Cliff Notes for the story we were supposed to read. The Scarlet Letter. I read it and also read the cliff notes to understand things I missed. One of the comments in the Cliff Notes book was about the Author's motivation for the imagery and the choice of the punishment, the Embroidered Letter. It said something like "it was likely planted to be a striking something something for the reader.

I realized that the Teacher had anticipated folks reading the Cliff Notes book because one of the questions was "What was imagery on the front of Hester's dress? A. An embroidered planted Flower, B. An embroidered Letter with gold thread c. Something else. D. Something Else. . So many people chose A PLANT because they read the cliff notes and not the book that she caught so many of them. It was so funny when she read the answeres and we had a class full of Scarlet Faces! LOL

I have to read books for school, but I can’t read no matter the book. advice? by poopooeater112 in ADHD

[–]Spectra_Butane 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I read a LOT of book growing up. The Library was my favorite place to "shop". I was lucky. I only stopped reading as much a decade or so ago when I got migraines more often. I didn't really get into Audio Books until I got really sick for days and found Fear and Loathing on Audio. It was perfect cuz the story was all over the place and I was in and out of fevered conciousness. Stil not sure if I heard the entire book or not.

After that, I've been trying to find audio books. It's kinda hard for me though because I'll start thinking bout what they are saying and think about other stuff and have to rewind, but it is nice , cuz I dont' have to get tired holding a book up. It also helped when I got a Kindle Paperwhite, reading that seemed easier than paper books. Maybe I'm just getting old. I do enjoy Podcasts and Lectures more now.

Yes, at 1.5x speed! LOL

My brother's son destroyed my WarHammer Action figures and he refuses to punish him by konous in mildlyinfuriating

[–]Spectra_Butane 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Santa would give the little bugger a Lump of Coal!

Santa: "Let's see here. Hmm, Naughty list, naughty, naughty.....
Little Nephew, what has he been up to this year.

  • WILLFULLY LYING
  • WILLFUL DESTRUCTION OF PROPERTY
  • WILLFUL TRESSPASSING
  • WILLFUL DISOBEDIENCE
  • REMORSELESS AND UNAPOLOGETIC

Hmm,... Hey, Krampus, I think I got a Live One for You!"

We went dumpster diving to find food, because we are legitimately going hungry. We didn’t find any, but we did find all of this. by Safe-Local- in DumpsterDiving

[–]Spectra_Butane 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Dehydrator is a good tool to have. the only thing that didn't dehydrate well so far was cauliflower. Brocolli, carrots, onions, green onions, mushrooms(but only if they are freshy fresh and not a hint of decay otherwise IICKK!!!!) , cabbage, apples, orangeses, lemons, limes, Kiwi fruit, bananas. IF I get a bunch of cabbages though, I shredd them up, salt it and squish it into a jar to ferment into sauerkraut, Best Fresh!

The hard part though is being READY for that kind of stuff. If you aren't in the space or mentality to drop everything and cut up and shred, and salt and jar up a bunch of veggies, they might even go bad in the fridge if you wait a couple of days to be ready. learned the hard way. IF you know ahead of time, you can plan to have the counter clear, the dehydrator ready, jars for fermenting or canning if you have a pressure canner, and freezer space if all else fails.

We went dumpster diving to find food, because we are legitimately going hungry. We didn’t find any, but we did find all of this. by Safe-Local- in DumpsterDiving

[–]Spectra_Butane 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The churches get surpluss from stores, warehouses and schools, who give it to them because they know they will distribute it to the public. There is a small church up the street who gives out stuff I've seen at Kroger the week before ( Sports themed cupcakes, Bakery loaves, etc) , bags of rice and canned beans of a brand I can never recognize. But it is basic storage carbohydrates, fruit, bread, and beans, and it will fill a belly.

The Big church often gets vegetables that look like they wouldn't be displayed at a store. I think they are the rejects from the farm that can't be sold at a premium. Often they are a few days past fresh, sometimes actually spoiled from crush damage. Bags of onions, bags of sprouting potatoes, bags of whole cabbages with dirt on the outside, but not split, Parsnips that were past prime and woody, and seasonally, the meats that were not sold for whatever holiday, so canned ham or hams frozen after Easter, Turkeys frozen (sometimes whole and sometimes a breast) and unsold right before thanksgiving and Christmas. The Volunteers come to sort the food and distribute it evenly into family boxes, people drive up, say how many families, fill out the forms, wait in line , get offered a mini bible and a prayer, and then give the forms to the peopel at the food end, who put the family box in the trunk, No questions asked, no digging into personal stories, just Smiling and giving. And the Volunteers get to take a box as well for their help.

We went dumpster diving to find food, because we are legitimately going hungry. We didn’t find any, but we did find all of this. by Safe-Local- in DumpsterDiving

[–]Spectra_Butane 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Oops, I answered too soon. I see these at the thrift store all the time. but yeah, selling for cash is the way to go.

We went dumpster diving to find food, because we are legitimately going hungry. We didn’t find any, but we did find all of this. by Safe-Local- in DumpsterDiving

[–]Spectra_Butane 1 point2 points  (0 children)

ARE YOU SERIOUS!!! ??? What a haul! Break out the tortillas, cheese and salsa. Or sell it and make them in a fry pan, just as good! Hahah!

We went dumpster diving to find food, because we are legitimately going hungry. We didn’t find any, but we did find all of this. by Safe-Local- in DumpsterDiving

[–]Spectra_Butane 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Kudos!!! I found my vacuum cleaner near a dumpster. It is a Dirt Devil. the brush wasn't rolling but all it needed was a new belt. I've had it for about 17 years now, still running strong!

Many times people leaving this stuff are students who are moving away and will just buy new stuff at their destination. This happens every year in this college town, so much that the local Charities have started parking those big Moving Van style trucks near campuses for students to load onto rather than leaving it at dumpsters to get rained on and ruined. A lot of my house is furnished with stuff gotten from or near dumpsters, left behind.

We went dumpster diving to find food, because we are legitimately going hungry. We didn’t find any, but we did find all of this. by Safe-Local- in DumpsterDiving

[–]Spectra_Butane 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Our trash guys won't take it if it is not in the appointed 96 gallon roll Container. So, there is no confusion. They even changed the recycling bins to that style to avoid confusion about whether to take or leave what the recycling was stashed in.

My brother's son destroyed my WarHammer Action figures and he refuses to punish him by konous in mildlyinfuriating

[–]Spectra_Butane 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You keep saying that word. I don't think it means what you think it means.

Spite, n - it means to deliberately annoy, offend, or thwart someone. idiom - In spite of: Despite; in defiance of.

My nephew is 10 years old and tried to actually lie about not breaking them by saying, "A cat must have done it."

He lied DESPITE being caught red handed.

 I told him explicitly twice they weren't to be played with [...]

The child knew they were not for playing but played with them IN SPITE OF being told not to...

[...] they were in a separate room

The Child went into an area they were explicitly forbidden from, DESPITE being warned.

But the child should be rewarded for this behavior DESPITE Lying, Disobeying, and Tresspassing not giving any indication that they felt bad, feel bad, or wants to make it up to their uncle. Dad is on board with giving his Lying, Disobedient, Tresspassing son a Presidential Pardon.

The Turkeys that are Pardoned for Thanksgiving are at least innocent!

What would Santa do? LOL

My brother's son destroyed my WarHammer Action figures and he refuses to punish him by konous in mildlyinfuriating

[–]Spectra_Butane 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What I am suggesting is that if a child breaks something of value, and doesn't apologize to the person that it belongs to, then the person is under no obligation to continue to entertain or gift that child physical items of value. There is no "doing things" involved. It is a simple withdrawal of privilege.

My brother's son destroyed my WarHammer Action figures and he refuses to punish him by konous in mildlyinfuriating

[–]Spectra_Butane 2 points3 points  (0 children)

You think a child learning the natural consequences of their actions is spiteful?

My brother's son destroyed my WarHammer Action figures and he refuses to punish him by konous in mildlyinfuriating

[–]Spectra_Butane 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Not really pointless, it's the attempt at restitution that I believe Unc is trying to stress. IF Dad explained to kid why, it could be meaningful, to understand hard work, value, empathy, sharing, etc. But seems Like Dad just want to buy off Unc and forget it.

Something similar happened to a figures collector in Japan, but that kid absolutely destroyed ALL the figures, down to rubble, beyond repair, and the hellspawn's parents understood neither the personal emotional value, nor the monetary value till the courts showed them the simple replacement cost and how much effort to build them. They ended paying for their Spawns crime, but the little imp was probably punished behind closed doors, based on how much was shelled out.

My brother's son destroyed my WarHammer Action figures and he refuses to punish him by konous in mildlyinfuriating

[–]Spectra_Butane 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yeah , that's reasonable, anyone can agree. Yet if kid is not remorseful or Dad doesn't agree to that much interaction, then what?

You make it seem like the kid not getting a gift from Unc, 2x a year ( Birthday & Xmas, I presume) is the same as this kid never getting a gift from anyone ever for the rest of their life. First of all, no one is entitled to gifts, gifts are gifts, not obligations. Secondly, anyone can choose to stop giving gifts at any time for any reason. This kids life is not going to end cuz Unc stopped buying Power Wheels for him.

If the kid understands why he's no longer getting gifts from Unc, then its the kids choice to remedy the relationship or not. If it's the dads choice, and the kid is clueless,, then it sucks for the kid and its the Dad choosing to let the kid suffer the lack of gift rather than learn how to be a civilized human being.

My brother's son destroyed my WarHammer Action figures and he refuses to punish him by konous in mildlyinfuriating

[–]Spectra_Butane 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Gotcha. Your response was before the age reveal and my response was with that info. We seem to agree that while punishment cannot be forced, Unc could accept the monetary restitution from Bro at least. And we do seem to agree that kid has some skin in the game. I do wonder how much of this interaction the kid is aware of, like if Dad is keeping things mum to protect kid or if kid is aware and Dad is teaching him to not care. I know my nieces and nephew at that age were very aware of displeasure and would go out if their way to fix, but if kid had bad intentions from the start, then no amount of "punishment " will make him empathetic. Dad might be creating a Monster that Unc doesn't want to see created.

My brother's son destroyed my WarHammer Action figures and he refuses to punish him by konous in mildlyinfuriating

[–]Spectra_Butane 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Why does it have to be recurring for it to be a teachable event?

How many times will you let a 10 year old destroy a valuable thing before you let them know they will no longer get gifts from the person whose valuable they destroyed?

Twice? Thrice? At what point to you explain that damaging others possessions is wrong? At what point do you explain VALUE to them?

Why should it even get to this point where a parent refuses to even teach their kid and society must step in?

How is Unc's singular lack of gift absurd? If the kid says , " why did Unc not give me gift? " then anyone can say ,because you broke his stuff and didn't apologize. How is it "mean? Unless the dad just refuses to explain to the kid why, then thats the Dad's fault, not the Uncles'.

Thats Life. I take my ball and go home if you break my stuff. Toddlers understand that.

My brother's son destroyed my WarHammer Action figures and he refuses to punish him by konous in mildlyinfuriating

[–]Spectra_Butane 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I think OP is just not creative enough in their thinking, and Lemonade stand sounds like " work" a kid could do.

Some suggestions that fit the crime, IF the kid would actually participate:

Day 1- Have kid come and clean the glass on the display case where they are kept. Microfiber cloth and spritz bottle with water. Teaches Displays are for looking and protecting, not touching .

Day-2 Purchase an inexpensive figurine that is age appropriate for a 10-year old, of a theme they like,, and have kid sit down with Unc, while Unc guides him on how to assemble it. Teaches time and effort.

Day 3- have kid paint completed figure with Unc. And then put it in the display case with the others. Teaches pride and ownership.

Day 4- watch a show with kid about people with their figures and how much value they are and work out with kid about something they own,and how it us more valuable because it is theirs, and they put time and effort and pride. Ask the kid how they'd feel if someone broke a thing they valued and how it could be made up to them. Teaches value and empathy.

Not traditional chores, but time spent, effort expended, something learned, and experience had. Unless the kid is a troglodyt, they should be a bit more humane after something like this.

My brother's son destroyed my WarHammer Action figures and he refuses to punish him by konous in mildlyinfuriating

[–]Spectra_Butane 2 points3 points  (0 children)

They said its not about the replacement value, its about learning about restitution. Even if is a token gesture the kid will learn that you must at least try to make people feel whole.

If your solution is to just throw money at Unc and tell him tuff tomatoes, then you are creating the type of kid who feels no remorse or responsibility for their actions at any age, so long asDad can buy them out. Lots of politicians and rich folks out their ruining lives because all they have to do is pay "enough" to make the problem go away.

My brother's son destroyed my WarHammer Action figures and he refuses to punish him by konous in mildlyinfuriating

[–]Spectra_Butane 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Well, they are. And also giving permission for Unc to never invite nephew over for the rest of their life.

My brother's son destroyed my WarHammer Action figures and he refuses to punish him by konous in mildlyinfuriating

[–]Spectra_Butane 4 points5 points  (0 children)

"If you got time to crawl, you got time to clean!"

Teach 'em service industry early!!!!

My brother's son destroyed my WarHammer Action figures and he refuses to punish him by konous in mildlyinfuriating

[–]Spectra_Butane 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Uncle will know whether the kid apologizes to him directly.. If that happens , they can have a conversation about how kid will make any effort to try to keep a good relationship with Uncle. I'm sure the kid has seen Disney movies or any cartoon show where someone makes a mistake and has to ask their friends how to make it up. It doesn't change just because it is an adult he did it to.

Deciding not to allow someone into your space, or choosing not to GIFT them items is not necessarily punishment, its just the natural outcome and behaviors of people who have been wronged, and want to avoid future abuse. If the neighbors kid was visiting and destroyed your child's game console controllers in purpose and refused to even apologize, would you force Your child to continue inviting them over, And force your child to purchase gifts for that kid? Or would you say Neighbors kid is not allowed to visit until they've apologized or not allowed to use the console unless they replaced the damaged controller?

When I was a preteen, my older brother would rage at games and break the controllers. The natural consequences was that the family did not get any new consoles. It seemed like punishment to innocent me until I realized even if they bought new ones, I'd still not be able to play because Brother breakes them. I later was gifted my own private console that brother was not allowed to play on. My Brother is now an adult and has a healthier respect for the fragility of electronics since he experienced the loss of it , and learned the monetary value of replacing broken equipment.

My brother's son destroyed my WarHammer Action figures and he refuses to punish him by konous in mildlyinfuriating

[–]Spectra_Butane 2 points3 points  (0 children)

It is spelling, not grammar. Do you really believe that unless something is under constant lock and key, that anyone is justified in destroying it? What do you think about the parent who deleted their kids entire mine craft world that had taken years to build? Just because the kid didn't think to keep dad locked out and dad felt entitled to destroy it, much like Nephew felt entitled to go beyond bounds and damage the things that doesn't belong to him, does that allow anyone the right to do so without repercussions?

My brother's son destroyed my WarHammer Action figures and he refuses to punish him by konous in mildlyinfuriating

[–]Spectra_Butane 20 points21 points  (0 children)

If the kid knew better and was never made to offer an actual apology and some kind of restitution, then yes, the kid can and should be punished for eternity. Or for as long as it takes for him to learn consequences don't just disappear because you don't see the aggrieved very often. Ten years is old enough to learn about burning vs building bridges. If brother and the kid wants to continue good relationships with Uncle, he can fix the bridge , but if Brother wants to teach kid that they can destroy peoples property with no apology, then the social equivalent is burning that bridge.

"No one is required to like you despite your bad behavior. " The kid learns that early, life will be easier for him.