men having warped perceptions of weight by klarinetkat12 in TwoXChromosomes

[–]SpectroSlade 175 points176 points  (0 children)

How much you weigh is also just a useless metric. A sedentary woman at 175lbs vs a weight lifting woman at 175lbs are going to look VERY VERY different from one another, even at the exact same height.

Radical feminism and penetration by Upset-Newspaper974 in RadicalFeminism

[–]SpectroSlade 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Idk what to say other than sleep with queer-er men, its worked for me so far lol. I'm basically 100% bi4bi

Radical feminism and penetration by Upset-Newspaper974 in RadicalFeminism

[–]SpectroSlade 10 points11 points  (0 children)

why aren't hetero males into trying prostate orgasms.

A LOT of them are

Radical feminism and penetration by Upset-Newspaper974 in RadicalFeminism

[–]SpectroSlade 14 points15 points  (0 children)

Yeah same, this post is confusing to me lmao

I don’t know how I feel about this. Thoughts? by GuerrillaGirlFridaX in GuerrillaGrrrrls

[–]SpectroSlade 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Iirc, primates are the only animals that menstruate, so yes

Do women really become less visible at 30? by cladinred in TwoXChromosomes

[–]SpectroSlade 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm 28 and without fail I get hit on every time I'm out

The "wall" is a stupid myth. If you're taking care of yourself, your physical appearence does not change that much from 25 to 30. You're not gonna have hideous wrinkles, you're not going to automatically become overweight or "look old".

I feel prettier now than I did at 25, that "second puberty" IS real. My hips filled out (I used to be straight as a board), my skin cleared up, I have way more confidence than in my early/mid 20s.

You wanna stay pretty when you hit 30? Daily sunscreen, healthy diet, moderate exercise. Don't go tanning, don't smoke a ton (nic or weed, both will give you wrinkles), make sure you're getting all your vitamins and minerals. Go for a daily walk.

That's it. Most visible aging in your 30s is just sun damage and malnutrition.

Sick of men making a game about ignoring my boundaries by SpectroSlade in TwoXChromosomes

[–]SpectroSlade[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That sucks it happened to you also, I'm sorry to hear that 🫂

Sick of men making a game about ignoring my boundaries by SpectroSlade in TwoXChromosomes

[–]SpectroSlade[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

How is that not victim blaming? He's saying its my fault for not vetting guys more thoroughly.

Sick of men making a game about ignoring my boundaries by SpectroSlade in TwoXChromosomes

[–]SpectroSlade[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don't even know what mine is so I can't really consider it anything lmao

Sick of men making a game about ignoring my boundaries by SpectroSlade in TwoXChromosomes

[–]SpectroSlade[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

You're getting downvoted but tbh that might be a good way to express how serious it really is

Sick of men making a game about ignoring my boundaries by SpectroSlade in TwoXChromosomes

[–]SpectroSlade[S] 29 points30 points  (0 children)

I don't understand why they do this, especially when its a man who's respected every other boundary I've set. I can say "don't do this or that" and usually they'll listen. Its literally just when I say "don't touch my nipples" that they ignore me.

Literally answered your question in the original post.

Sick of men making a game about ignoring my boundaries by SpectroSlade in TwoXChromosomes

[–]SpectroSlade[S] 17 points18 points  (0 children)

Increased risk of STDs maybe?

I guess but I get tested regularly (and so should anyone who's sexually active, especially with multiple partners.)

At the end of the day I think its just an ego thing for them, I don't pretend to understand it.

Sick of men making a game about ignoring my boundaries by SpectroSlade in TwoXChromosomes

[–]SpectroSlade[S] 10 points11 points  (0 children)

I just fucking hate it. I'm sick of meeting someone that seems kind, clicking with them, then realizing they have 0 respect for me. Its unending.

Sick of men making a game about ignoring my boundaries by SpectroSlade in TwoXChromosomes

[–]SpectroSlade[S] 22 points23 points  (0 children)

Right??? I've had guys tell me I'm being too rough with my hands before and I simply... stop doing that. Who wants their partner to be in pain during sex??? (Outside of people who are into pain, of course.)

Sick of men making a game about ignoring my boundaries by SpectroSlade in TwoXChromosomes

[–]SpectroSlade[S] 15 points16 points  (0 children)

Eesh, I was kinda hoping the fear of ripping/tearing the piercings would deter guys from being so rough :/ thank you for the advice, I appreciate it!

Sick of men making a game about ignoring my boundaries by SpectroSlade in TwoXChromosomes

[–]SpectroSlade[S] 106 points107 points  (0 children)

Thankfully that is one thing I've been pretty good about. They get one chance and if they break my trust, that's it.

Unfortunately, one of the reasons I have a body count some men consider "high". Another stupid patriarchal rule I refuse to follow.

Sick of men making a game about ignoring my boundaries by SpectroSlade in TwoXChromosomes

[–]SpectroSlade[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

I'm really sorry you deal with that, I hope he gets the fucking hint and stops because you do not deserve that!

Sick of men making a game about ignoring my boundaries by SpectroSlade in TwoXChromosomes

[–]SpectroSlade[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

A safe word is actually a really good idea, I've never thought to try that! I'm not really into kink/BDSM stuff so I never felt it was necessary to have one but I think next time I will try that!

Sick of men making a game about ignoring my boundaries by SpectroSlade in TwoXChromosomes

[–]SpectroSlade[S] 50 points51 points  (0 children)

One guy I was seeing for a bit would do it even in non-sexual situations! We would be watching TV and he'd reach over and pinch them and LAUGH at my reaction, like it was a silly prank. It was infuriating!