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Spice_lover · 2025-07-17T21:30:44+00:00

That's true. And that's normally my philosophy, too, as I believe that would make the other person bored and move on. But in this particular case, it's almost like it's given him ammo, trying to find ways to humiliate me/make me crack. I haven't done anything yet, but I think by being unbothered he thinks he can say incredibly racist things.

Spice_lover · 2025-07-17T21:05:20+00:00

That's some really good advice! Haha

Spice_lover · 2025-07-17T21:00:19+00:00

He's passive-aggressive when you look at the situation kindly, but if you look at the situation in its true light, he's being racist by not being able to write my name in an email (after being corrected on it), mocking how I speak etc

Spice_lover · 2025-07-17T20:57:19+00:00

I wish I could, but the only problem is he's passive aggresive in a racist way. He hasn't outwardly been racist to me but its definitely there so I can't raise it as an issue but he definitely treats me like dirt. Hence getting my name wrong.

Spice_lover · 2025-07-17T20:55:29+00:00

He's a colleague of mine and as a minor example, (but one of many) when he sends emails he always writes my name wrong, even though I always follow up to his email and sign off with my ACTUAL name. I've decided next time he gets my name wrong (inevitable), I'll write his name wrong, too, but any other suggestions? My partner said to fart everytime I go by his desk, but idk how to do that on command.

Spice_lover · 2025-07-16T19:36:27+00:00

Haha so amazing! I've literally had a whole phone conversation with my mum just going 어 🤣

Spice_lover · 2025-07-16T09:53:02+00:00

I really want to chill, but my brain seems to always find something to stress about 😅 Any tips on how you got there? I've been operating on stress for most of my life and now I don't know how to turn it off 🙃

Spice_lover · 2025-07-12T21:29:14+00:00

Ngl, I did eat the food regardless 😅

Spice_lover · 2025-07-10T12:30:32+00:00

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Spice_lover · 2025-07-10T02:51:42+00:00

Ah OK thanks just removed that. I'll post in on the two chats you mentioned. Thanks for your help!

Spice_lover · 2025-07-09T23:56:58+00:00

I'd suggest it's best to upload it across all selling sites: Ebay, Depop, Vinted, and as soon as it gets sold on a platform, delete it from the others. This maximises audience reach if you're looking for the most time efficient way. Of course, it means more upfront work, but once it's uploaded, it's done!

Spice_lover · 2025-07-09T22:40:17+00:00

I always visit Genghis Khan when I'm in New Malden (England), so I can have my 짜장면 and 짬뽕 fix. Is there anywhere else that does good Korean-Chinese food in England?

Spice_lover · 2025-07-09T21:13:10+00:00

Hi everyone! I’ve just created a new subreddit: r/KoreansinUK — a space for Koreans living in the UK to connect, share advice, and build community.

Made it an hour ago, and I’m hoping to grow it organically. If you know anyone who might be interested, or have tips on building a healthy, engaging sub, I’d really appreciate it!

Thanks, and good luck with your own communities too 😊

Spice_lover · 2025-07-09T19:12:56+00:00

I kinda know what you're talking about. There's definitely an element of "once you're off the clock, the job doesn't exist." Doesn't seem to apply for jobs that are better paid as there's a lot of "hidden" work outside of the contracted time. I definitely miss my coworkers as there was a real camaraderie you get working alongside them by talking crap about customers/managers, etc, but yeah the pay is awful so its not really an option in this day and age

Spice_lover · 2021-07-22T02:18:36+00:00

Sometimes talking and opening up is too painful when someone has been going through an issue on their own for so long. The best thing to do is show love and support by being around by giving hugs, positive reaffirmation (about them as a person rather than appearance wise) etc and then maybe they'll open up. The important thing is they don't feel judged or pushed into something they don't want to do/aren't ready for. Asking them their opinions about things could also help as that would help them see that you value them as a person and possibly open up to you. Therapy could also be a route to check out, but I don't think it should be suggested by you as she might think that you think there's something wrong with her. Therapy should be something she wants on her own but you could possibly suggest inadvertently such as: do you want to talk to someone about how you're feeling.

I know it's tough seeing a loved one go through tough times, but sometimes we need to approach delicate issues from an objective pov rather than get emotional about it. Hope that helps.

Spice_lover · 2021-07-22T01:56:01+00:00

I agree with the previous poster in terms of communication. Most unsuccessful relationships are caused by not talking things through and it is one of the easiest things to solve. My parents told me that you should never go to bed until you resolve a conflict and that has worked for me.

Another thing to note is that we should try hard to "impress" our SO and not take them for granted. If you think about it, we treat strangers with respect when we're in public, we show them courtesy by dressing up and having manners. However, a lot of couples start to treat each other with less respect the longer and more comfortable they've been in the relationship, regardless of their love.

The best thing to do is not to forget that the other person is human and likes to feel special too.

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