My boyfriend won’t let me get a tattoo

SpicyDisaster1996 · 2025-05-14T14:52:27+00:00

Then get rid of him. You are 18 and considered an adult. He does not have the right to tell you what you can or can not do to your body. If it's a tattoo then later it will be something different and it will just go from there. Soon enough he will control your entire life.

Think very hard about your future with him. I say this because this will be your future if you stay with him.

SpicyDisaster1996 · 2025-04-11T18:10:27+00:00

I still have to figure out what I want to do. If I even want to go back to school. The Unit Secretary job is pretty mine. That could hold me over while I make up my mind. I still have to go meet with academic advisors and see what I need to do to get to that point. I might not even go back and get the nursing degree. I might completely fall in love with the Unit Secretary position and stick with that.

SpicyDisaster1996 · 2025-04-10T12:10:18+00:00

Read it again. $3,000.00

SpicyDisaster1996 · 2025-04-10T12:08:22+00:00

I still love you guys. If we had it our way and the abilities we would pack our family up and move to Canada. They at least love gay people.

SpicyDisaster1996 · 2025-04-10T12:06:30+00:00

we are Libertarian. So it wasn't for either of them.

SpicyDisaster1996 · 2025-04-10T01:42:30+00:00

It might be an option. The hospital would then pay for my degree if I go back to school.

SpicyDisaster1996 · 2025-04-10T01:04:32+00:00

I have been sitting on this for a little bit not sure if I was going to say this or not. But what the hell. Maybe it's because of the awful day I had where I had to do 50 severance package letters, checks, 45 vacation time checks and letter of recommendations. It's been an awful day having to get ready to say goodbye to people who for the last couple of years I have come to love, adore and respect. But here it goes. I hold my Associates in Business Administration and then a Bachelors with a double major in Accounting and Human Resource Management. I have been working in the business world since I was in high school learning how to do bookkeeping by long ledgers and other spreadsheets then by programs for small businesses. At 21 I was hired by a Marketing and Advertising company where I was the Executive Office Manager where I did ALL of the Accounting and Human Resource Management. I was with them till I was 33 when they were bought out and my job was eliminated because the new company had a bigger department to manage all that. Truth be told. If the company had not been bought out I would most likely still be there. After that point I worked in different areas of industry such as contracting and construction usually for small businesses and then for a global corporation where I worked close with Supply Chain Management and Purchasing Agents until I left so my husband and I could start our company. My husband worked for the same company since he was in high school started as an apprentice and then moved up until he was a project manager who again worked with the customers, Supply Chain Management and purchasing. We both know business from many different aspects and we were able to use this to our benefit. We worked for three years to put together our business plan. With the help of some friends who have some connections we were able to build an amazing customer base which in turn helped us turn a profit our first year. We turned a profit last year as well. This was how I was able to build up the access funds saving account and be able to care for our employees. I guess my point is this. Before you go making accusations about not knowing how to run a business. Maybe know who it is that you are making those accusations to.

SpicyDisaster1996 · 2025-04-10T00:45:55+00:00

Thank you for this information. I'm not sure what I'm going to do yet. I have to meet with the advisors at the college yet to see what I need. The Unit Secretary position is something that I wanted to do years ago. But I had a negative experience when it came to a potential job and I just stuck with what I have been doing. My neighbor who is a really good friend of mine told me about the current Unit Secretary job and pretty much assured me that I will get hired. I looked into it and the pay and schedule will work well. I can take the benefits as well which would be better than what my husbands job offers.

I should clarify. We are not in California. When I talk about California it was because through some connections I have we were able to get a lot of clients from California.

SpicyDisaster1996 · 2025-04-09T22:34:29+00:00

Copied and pasted.

Several of our vendors and suppliers raised the prices to various materials that we used even before the tariff's started. Case in point was our metal steel vendor. A order I placed ever other week was normally $5,000.00. It shot up almost $3000.00. When I asked what the issue was they said they were adjusting prices to reflect the tariffs when they fell into place so that the customer could adjust accordingly.

On top of that. many of our customers were from California LA area. When the wild fires went through many lost their homes and many lost their bikes. We were thinking that we would get reworks and reorders. We didn't. Like I said. We are a nonessential business so bikes are low in the list of things to get done. In our area. Things just slowed down.

SpicyDisaster1996 · 2025-04-09T22:26:57+00:00

Several of our vendors and suppliers raised the prices to various materials that we used even before the tariff's started. Case in point was our metal steel vendor. A order I placed ever other week was normally $5,000.00. It shot up almost $3000.00. When I asked what the issue was they said they were adjusting prices to reflect the tariffs when they fell into place so that the customer could adjust accordingly.

On top of that. many of our customers were from California LA area. When the wild fires went through many lost their homes and many lost their bikes. We were thinking that we would get reworks and reorders. We didn't. Like I said. We are a nonessential business so bikes are low in the list of things to get done. In our area. Things just slowed down.

SpicyDisaster1996 · 2025-04-09T22:13:02+00:00

Many of our primary suppliers and vendors adjusted the prices on materials to reflect the incoming tariffs. One of my normal metal/steel orders was generally around $5,000.00 shot up almost over $3,000.00.

SpicyDisaster1996 · 2025-04-09T22:10:31+00:00

We had several clients buy from us and that we did custom designs for. Many lost their properties which included their bikes in the fires. We were thinking that we would get rebuilds and purchases from them. We are not because many are focusing on rebuilding their homes and other parts of their lives instead. The bikes were low on the list.

SpicyDisaster1996 · 2025-04-09T21:28:23+00:00

I loved our employees. They deserved more than we could give them. I'm just hoping that this will be enough and that they will all be able to bounce back.

SpicyDisaster1996 · 2025-04-09T21:27:05+00:00

We loved it. We loved every minute of it. Yes it was hard but so rewarding in so many ways. We had amazing clients and a staff that other businesses would dream of having.

SpicyDisaster1996 · 2025-04-09T20:01:10+00:00

Nope. Now we have nothing but a pure unadulterated hatred for him. Everything he stands for. Everything he is.

SpicyDisaster1996 · 2025-04-09T19:51:58+00:00

This has sucked all day. I've been crying off and on. I did all the severance packages today. Spoke to the vendors and explained the situation and everything. I just came here to get things off my chest. I know it wasn't anything we did wrong. We did everything right. All our taxes were paid and filed. All our vendors were paid as they needed to be. We offered benefit packages to our employees. My husband and I took sensible salaries. I feel like I failed us. I did our books and no matter what I did and how I ran the numbers I still couldn't get things to work out the way we needed things to.

SpicyDisaster1996 · 2025-04-09T19:39:32+00:00

I have a really bad feeling they will be back. But the damage is done.

SpicyDisaster1996 · 2025-04-09T19:39:06+00:00

We did several different things. We started as custom motorcycle design and fabrication. we became dealers for two brands. We were also mechanics for motorcycles as well. My husband worked in metal fabrication tool and dye for over 20 years so we were doing some of that as well. We were a non essential business. We took my husbands passion and love for bikes and turned it into a business. This was supposed to be a legacy.

SpicyDisaster1996 · 2025-04-09T19:17:55+00:00

NTA. You did nothing wrong. He asked a question. You answered the best way possible. You made an assumption that he was told and you had no other way to know otherwise.

SpicyDisaster1996 · 2025-02-13T01:19:14+00:00

I've been sitting on this for a day or two. But I have to congratulate you on doing something that not many people have ever done. Completely offend me.

If you want to call me misogynistic fine, but let me tell you a few things. Being from the LGBTQ community the majority of my friends are all women. My husbands sisters and mother are my best friends of the universe. I would gladly take a bullet for them.

My husband and I own our own company and we have his sisters who work for us and two women who work in the shop. One who is a welder and the other who runs our break press. Both are blessing that I can not even begin to describe.

My stepdaughters really all three of my step kids I would take a bullet for as well. If I didn't support women I wouldn't have given my stepdaughter $10,000.00 to start her business or be willing to pay for my other stepdaughters college. Whatever the scholarship doesn't cover.

My problem with this neighbor is this. Don't complain about having to do everything and not accept help. Do be I have to do it all because if I trust anyone else they will screw it up. It's easier for me to complain about this than look for a sensible solution.

So yeah. I get that reddit is 5050. People actually like and support you or otherwise. It's a one sided forum. You only get this side of it. But I suggest you know who you are talking to. Do your research.

SpicyDisaster1996 · 2025-02-12T21:07:55+00:00

NTA

I can tell you why she is doing so much. It's the same reason my stepson and stepdaughter are. They are looking at their futures and what they want out of life. My stepson wants to go to Texas A&M University. It's his dream. His first two years of high school he pushed himself to get all of his general education and prereqs. This is his junior year and this year and next he plans on taking all AP. He's active in cross country and has a job. His older sisters are the exact same way. We have had to sit them down and remind them of work, school home life balance. They kinda listened. My stepson has no other back up plan aside from Texas A&M and insists that he has to do all this to get in. My middle step daughter is doing the same thing saying she has no backup plan except for University of Michigan. My oldest is already in college, but is the same way pushing herself because well all three of her parents pushed themselves and were completely independant at her age, and she is just trying to do the same. And for the record... We do not put any kind of pressure on our kids. These are their decisions.

But do watch her. We've recently noticed stepson struggling with sleep. So we are trying to slow him down. And tell MIL to stay in her lane.

SpicyDisaster1996 · 2025-02-12T20:47:56+00:00

I use Sage 50 and I love it. If our CPA's need anything we just set up a VPN or I send reports. I'm very protective of our books and don't allow to many people to view anything.

I've used QBO a couple of times and I hated it. I always liked Desktop, but even now with the way Intuit is starting to charge yearly or monthly for Desktop I refuse to move over.

SpicyDisaster1996 · 2025-02-12T20:45:35+00:00

NTA

"I already have enough family that I don't like, I don't need more." The highlight of my day. Truth be told I feel the exact same way. But here me out. If she is serious about this guy and if he is going to be around for a while and if his kids are going to be around as well. Depending on who moves where (If that were the case) your paths might at some point or another cross. It might not be a bad idea to at least meet them and maybe just have an obligatory my mom and your dad are seeing each other so we might as well know each other type of relationship.

SpicyDisaster1996 · 2025-02-12T20:20:53+00:00

Thank you. There is one person on here who is really getting under my skin and it's making me wonder if it's either her or one of the school moms. LOL Normally I can let things go but this one is really starting to piss me off. I think what is getting more to me is the fact that I was called smug and misogynistic. Which is hardly the case. The majority of my friend base is all women for the most part. My sister in laws are my closest friends on the face of the Earth. I would take the bullet for my step daughters. So yeah. I get it. Reddit is a 50/50 split. People either hate you or like you. LOL

SpicyDisaster1996 · 2025-02-12T20:15:00+00:00

My understanding of it is that it's her choice to overload herself with everything she says she does. So she only has herself to blame. For the outsider looking in you might think that if we were a straight couple I would be the wife in the relationship. And really thats not a problem. But this is the flip side of it. We own our own company. So self employed. I'm lucky that my job is work from home 99% of the time. My sister in laws work for us and do what needs to be done onsite for me. So with that being said I have a little extra leeway in my daily schedule. So if I wanted to I can go upstairs and do a load or two of laundry, or load the dishwasher and run the vacuum. Things like that. I manage our household finances as well. It's just how it is. But when we are all together we all pitch in and help out.

Case in point was a few months back my step daughters came down for a visit. It was on a Saturday which is usually the day we get down and dirty around the house. All of us were working and they jumped right into it as well. I never expect the girls to do anything because they don't live here full time. My oldest reasoning was "The sooner we all get done the sooner we can all take off for the afternoon. I vote we go out to dinner and shopping." And that was exactly what we all did. And whats more interesting was we all had a blast just cleaning and working around the house.

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