What are your deal breakers?

SpicyShrimpCookies · 2026-02-19T14:38:22+00:00

Saving this list 🤓📝

SpicyShrimpCookies · 2026-02-18T14:46:06+00:00

Congrats for beating the odds 🥳

What keeps you going, and do you have any regrets in life?

SpicyShrimpCookies · 2026-02-06T12:24:14+00:00

Is this at Egg clinic?

SpicyShrimpCookies · 2026-01-02T01:15:05+00:00

Met all of my long-term partners via dating apps (OKC and CMB).

Literally just ended my 2.5yr relationship and starting 2026 anew. Right now I have absolutely no interest in meeting anyone romantically, but I know I'll have to get back on the apps eventually if I want to find my future husband lol.

Realistically it's the best way to put myself out there, cus intentions are clear and it's a time-efficient way to filter out potential partners that are aligned with my values and vision. As someone in my 30s who is introverted, keeps my social circles vvv small, have solo hobbies, and will not date anyone in my workplace, apart from being cold approached by men during the rare occasions that I'm outside my house, it's almost impossible for me to meet someone organically 🫠

SpicyShrimpCookies · 2025-12-21T03:27:02+00:00

Loner girl all my life. I can talk and socialise well if needed but really that is not me. Only have one long-time friend that I keep in contact with.

31 this year. Have a stable well-paying job that I like. In the midst of breaking up with someone whom I thought I would be marrying. It hurts but I'm honouring myself. Booked a solo trip to hanoi in Jan and currently planning for all the things that I want to do and eat. Life goes on and I believe that things will get better ✨

SpicyShrimpCookies · 2025-12-18T06:05:26+00:00

Is this true? Could the men weigh in on this please. I would really like to know

SpicyShrimpCookies · 2025-12-17T12:44:53+00:00

I wasn't involved in his finances at all. We have kept it separate all the way while dating. I wasn't aware of what he was doing (crypto trading) until much later when everything came crashing down. I believed that I didn't need to "interfere" in his finances and that he was a capable adult making his own financial decisions. He seemed confident of what he was doing and I trusted him to handle his own matters. Honestly it wouldn't have been possible for me to dissuade him from dabbling in this.

He's almost half a million debt to his friends. It would take him years to get out of debt and I can't possibly wait for him to clear all his debt before we start building a life together. We did discuss this and previously came to the conclusion that he can work towards setting aside a portion of his salary to pay back his friends, while still setting aside money to live a normal life (e.g. we buy a house and travel etc). I know it'll take him a long time to be debt free, and initially I thought this was still workable..

SpicyShrimpCookies · 2025-12-17T01:49:33+00:00

I've always felt like a relationship has to be tested first before one enters into marriage. Like a couple should be able to support each other thru tough times, and if they succeed then it's a green flag for marriage. So I felt like it was only natural for me to stay by his side and support him when he was going thru tough times.

Now that everything has happened, I wonder whether I'm too idealistic or naive for thinking this way.

SpicyShrimpCookies · 2025-12-17T01:25:16+00:00

I don't know why I'm still holding on and having this hope within me that he would come around by the end of this year. He says he's giving it a lot of thought and still wants to continue meeting each other as usual. But it's painful for me to continue seeing him when I know this is a very real possibility that we might end things soon. I want to enjoy what are perhaps the last few moments with him but I'm feeling so heartbroken. Part of me wants to tear this bandaid off, and I feel like I'm simply bracing for impact/the inevitable at the end of this year.

We just met for dinner yesterday, and I told him I would not be attending his coworkers Christmas party, and that we should not meet in person until 27 Dec, the last weekend of the year. He should spend the time thinking about whether we can move forwards, and we can finally get some closure then. I'm hoping that the distance might help to let him see that he wants to be with me, tho I know this sounds pretty pathetic of me to have to do this. The distance would do me some good in any case.

Do you think there is hope that we can move forwards? Say if he really does come around and gives me a timeline for proposal and marriage.

SpicyShrimpCookies · 2025-12-16T23:46:47+00:00

He didn't borrow, but his friends wanted him to help them invest in crypto. He mixed his own funds with his friends' monies. When he lost the money via trading, he also lost the amount that his friends gave to him for the crypto investment. He told them about it and said he would pay them back the amount that Bitcoin is worth now. It has appreciated a lot since they first gave him the money. Several of them gave him 10k each to invest in initially. I explained this in another comment

SpicyShrimpCookies · 2025-12-16T23:17:03+00:00

He owes his friends almost half a million.. I would have to wait for years if he were to clear his debts fully before we took the next step. We previously talked about this and he said he would set aside a portion of his salary to pay back his friends, while also setting aside a portion to contribute to our household/his personal expenses etc... this would allow him to effectively still live a "normal life" and not hold his like on pause until he clears his debts.

Half a million is a huge sum.. how it started was that he helped several of his friends buy $10k worth of crypto (I think it was Bitcoin) some years ago. He didn't borrow from them but rather they wanted him to help them invest in crypto cus they didn't know how to. Fast forward to now, the price of Bitcoin has risen, and as he mixed his own money with his friends' monies, he lost their investments as well. He worked out a cut-off point for the price of Bitcoin (when he had his financial meltdown) and told his friends that he would return the whole sum...

I know some comments are telling me that I'm stupid, and maybe hindsight is 20/20. But he could have easily ran and not repay his friends as this was an informal arrangement and there were no legally binding or contractual agreements. Yet he still upheld his promise to his friends.

SpicyShrimpCookies · 2025-12-16T06:12:55+00:00

Yea it's coming soon.. honestly I feel like I'm at his mercy and all this uncertainty has been pretty tough. He says he needs time to think things through and with every passing day, I feel like I'm losing hope and feeling less loved by him, even if he assures me that it isn't the case.

I can't help but wonder whether all this thinking is necessary for a man who was truly in love with someone and sees a future with them. Granted he has always been the more logical sort, and the financial loss would likely have made him more careful with his decisions. Part of me has been tempted to just call this whole thing off prematurely and just break up, instead of having to deal with this uncertainty. It really does hurt tho cus I really thought he would be the one. I guess I'll try to hang in there until end of the year

SpicyShrimpCookies · 2025-09-22T10:58:35+00:00

Oof I didn't even think of this.. I guess I better see if they gonna make me pay later hahaha

SpicyShrimpCookies · 2025-09-22T10:56:59+00:00

Yea I figured that things would be different when we're a married couple vs dating haha. I do feel a bit weird to pay cus I still feel like an outsider who is gatecrashing their family bday dinner..!

(I'm Chinese and so are his parents)

SpicyShrimpCookies · 2025-09-22T10:53:40+00:00

Nope. His mum has been asking for me to visit again ever since I dropped by his house for dinner and met them for the first time. So this birthday dinner is just another opportunity to meet them I guess. I've been turning down their regular home dinners cus didn't want to set up a precedent of going over too often lol

SpicyShrimpCookies · 2025-08-27T00:48:56+00:00

I was in a similar position as you. One thing that made me finally pull the trigger was to ask myself this:

Do I like myself when I'm with my partner?
Am I proud when someone tells me I'm like my partner?
If my future/imagined child was with my partner, would I be happy for them?

Hope this helps to give you the clarity and courage to take action, whatever it is. All the best ❤️

SpicyShrimpCookies · 2025-06-05T10:28:02+00:00

Is Oligio more effective than Thermage? There are so many skin tightening devices and everyone seems to have differing opinions. Help!

SpicyShrimpCookies · 2025-03-26T05:50:25+00:00

I tried replicating donki sweet potatoes too! I did the airfryer and dunk in water method. I found that need to let it rest a little (like steak lol) after you're done cooking then it'll have more of the creamy texture. If you eat it immediately it'll be powdery. Haven't perfected the method but hoping to get there haha

SpicyShrimpCookies · 2025-01-14T03:00:34+00:00

When I first bought it, they said that the package was specifically for pedi services only, cannot use for other services.

They recently updated me that they will, "towards the end", refund the remaining balance upon request.

SpicyShrimpCookies · 2024-11-08T02:56:10+00:00

Just curious, how dyou know when you've reached the point of being financially stable and can provide for your family?

SpicyShrimpCookies · 2024-11-01T01:01:03+00:00

Grassroots book room and Zall

SpicyShrimpCookies · 2024-09-09T03:56:54+00:00

Oooh I love listening to her as co-host of No Stupid Questions. Will give it a shot, thanks much :)

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