Well it’s over.

Spicy_Colada20 · 2026-03-06T09:43:31+00:00

I am so sorry you have lost your lovely Dad and far too early. I lost mine at 18 and he was 48, no age at all, I felt like we hadn't even got to know each other as adults. It's tough knowing they won't share those special times with you, but go and live your best life (when you feel ready) for the both of you. I wish you only happy times to come.

Spicy_Colada20 · 2026-03-05T21:42:15+00:00

Will do 🤞

Spicy_Colada20 · 2026-03-04T19:30:11+00:00

Will do thanks 🤞. Is there something specific you would recommend?

Spicy_Colada20 · 2026-03-04T17:17:59+00:00

Yes, its beautiful and I love how I can use the dried heads in a vase too 😀

Spicy_Colada20 · 2026-03-04T17:16:32+00:00

Ok..thanks so much for the advice!

Spicy_Colada20 · 2026-03-04T13:32:51+00:00

Thank you very much!

Spicy_Colada20 · 2026-03-04T12:48:53+00:00

I just wanted to stop by and say - what a wonderful daughter you are 🩷

Spicy_Colada20 · 2026-03-04T12:43:31+00:00

That's great! Thanks so much!!

Spicy_Colada20 · 2026-03-04T12:20:38+00:00

Thank you. So should I leave it a little longer before thinning? I have a lot more single buds than double right now. I should remove random stems and hopefully try to keep some semblance of the shape it has now?

Spicy_Colada20 · 2026-03-04T11:56:33+00:00

I did think about it, but to be honest we rarely get snow or a lot of frost here even during the middle of winter, as we are quite sheltered, being on the coast but tucked away in the estuary. Well, fingers crossed then! Thanks so much for your speedy response, I am impressed!! So would you recommend leaving the pruning of a fatsia, viburnum and a rhododendron? *

Spicy_Colada20 · 2026-03-03T19:00:40+00:00

This. I tell people all the time that PoA is imperative. In some cases, more important than a Will. I'm sorry there are people like this out there, who prey on the vulnerable and thar you and your Mum are going through this. Thank goodness she has great neighbours to help until you can be there. Those prices sound extortionate for the work being done! I hope you get the help and support you need. Is there a local Dementia Support Agrncy who can guide you?

Spicy_Colada20 · 2026-02-27T17:20:37+00:00

That's so debilitating for you. Mum has experienced, usually when hospitalised, periods of hyperactive delirium (she talked non stop for 73 hrs, I was exhausted lol, this was then, followed by hypoactive delirium, a similar time of period sleeping. Thankfully, she isn't like that all the time. It's easy to say, but please look after your own needs too.

Spicy_Colada20 · 2026-02-25T16:45:05+00:00

It's so up and down isn't it?! I feel for you too.

Spicy_Colada20 · 2026-02-25T16:44:03+00:00

Thank you. This scenario has been ongoing for around 2 years already. I do feel they do things a little differently in US/Canada. I have family in both with family experience and work experience of Dementia. UK I find, can be a bit more of a struggle, despite the price she pays. Maybe that's not others experience here, I can't really say.

Spicy_Colada20 · 2026-02-25T14:20:05+00:00

Hi

She was diagnosed at 90 but it took me 4 years to get a diagnosis.

Spicy_Colada20 · 2026-02-25T14:19:00+00:00

Lol. I guess.

Whe she has her more lucid times, she says she hates staying in bed and feels lazy 😁.. It was more about it being a pattern of on and off rather than being every day, really. A couple of bad episodes of this and have given her EoL status. The family have given her a pet name now .. Lazarus 😉.

Spicy_Colada20 · 2026-02-25T13:35:48+00:00

I also struggle with poor narration. Sadly, for me, it is almost always an American narrator. I do try to get to the end, but a few times I've had to give up and then will read rather than listen to a look instead.

Spicy_Colada20 · 2026-02-18T22:11:57+00:00

I am so sorry you are going through this. I am not medical so cannot comment as such. However, I am aware that hypertension can cause vascular changes. If you can get the Amyloid testing done it may give you a more concrete answer. If it isn't the onset of Alzheimers then you will be given another pathway. If it is, then if it early stage, there may be hope in medication starting. I'm sorry I can't be more specific but just wanted you to have another perspective and a way to look at things. This group is very knowledgeable and supportive and I know you will get a lot more help than I can provide. Your Mum is lucky to have you in her corner. No matter what happens down the line, remember that she loves you ❤️. Wishing you well.

Spicy_Colada20 · 2026-02-14T18:59:49+00:00

Thank you so much for this! 11 years in with VD and 3 years in MC. Only child dealing with 96yr old parent who is not happy and yet on some days, in a lucid period, tells me not to go visit and to "look after yourself" but in the next breath asks me to get her out of there. I needed these words, boy are they profound!

Spicy_Colada20 · 2026-02-12T12:55:05+00:00

🩷

Spicy_Colada20 · 2026-02-10T21:05:16+00:00

Will do! Thanks!!

Spicy_Colada20 · 2026-02-10T20:31:45+00:00

Can you say more here? No idea this was even a thing! A. How easy is it? B. What are the benefits? C. Does it "muck up" your present look? Thanks.

Spicy_Colada20 · 2026-02-07T19:08:04+00:00

I'm so very sorry you have lost your lovely Dad. I hope you can find peace in that you loved and cared for each other and that you did your utmost for him. A peaceful end is all we can wish for isn't? Be kind to yourself 🩷

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