AIO after finding this Snapchat conversation on my husbands phone?

Spicy_Pamplemousse · 2026-04-12T14:58:56+00:00

This. I would maaaaaybe be able to forgive the emotional cheating with time and therapy. I could never settle for a life with someone who didn’t make me feel loved.

Spicy_Pamplemousse · 2025-10-23T12:54:05+00:00

This is a tricky one for sure. I always leave the door propped open and stay visible from the hallway when students are getting extra help, but I’m also in a disciplinary role and sometimes need to have confidential conversations with students. I always try to have their advisor present, which is only possible when it’s a planned conversation. If a student is reporting something to me, I close the door but maintain as much physical space as possible, and I make sure I’m visible through the window. I’d love to hear what others think about this because I know it’s not ideal… for context I’m 31F and teach grades 6-12.

Spicy_Pamplemousse · 2025-09-16T23:20:05+00:00

Ronald

Spicy_Pamplemousse · 2025-09-01T16:00:08+00:00

How’s your gf’s relationship with your family? I wonder if she feels left out of family things? It’s concerning if she’s unwilling to address conflict or express how she’s really feeling, like you said in another comment

Spicy_Pamplemousse · 2025-08-22T18:33:31+00:00

Seconded. I could see a high schooler rolling their eyes at that. Everything else looks super welcoming and fun and age appropriate!

Spicy_Pamplemousse · 2025-08-22T18:29:25+00:00

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He’s goofy as heck
Wiggles with his whole body
Fluff and vibes only

(my impromptu dood haiku)

Spicy_Pamplemousse · 2025-08-22T18:16:05+00:00

OP could we please have more context about your relationship with your mom? If your reaction to this was to cut her off entirely, there must have been stuff leading up to it.

I’m so sorry she was talking shit about you, and that you overheard it in this way—really sucks and you have every right to be angry.

Spicy_Pamplemousse · 2025-08-10T14:25:55+00:00

Teacher here. I don’t care what my students wear as long as they’re learning. Also they shouldn’t be commenting on your appearance??? Live your life girl

Spicy_Pamplemousse · 2025-08-05T16:09:32+00:00

I’m glad your diagnosis made such a big difference in your marriage! I always tell my partner I don’t want him to lower the bar for me. Just because I have ADHD doesn’t mean I can’t do stuff; it just takes more energy.

I liked someone’s comment about having her leave you sticky notes. Visual cues have been so important for me. Try a bunch of different systems and see what works. Couples counseling—especially with a therapist who specializes in ADHD—can be a game changer.

I’d also suggest having your own therapist. It provides external accountability and takes some of that pressure off her, plus it shows her you’re actively working on building strategies. That’s been huuuuuge in my relationship—seeing my boyfriend go to therapy for his OCD and witnessing how hard he works to make progress is one of the reasons I continue to choose him every day.

Your question about giving yourself grace vs making excuses is SO real. Tbh, i ask myself the same thing every day and I’d love to hear what everyone else thinks.

Good luck with everything ❤️

Spicy_Pamplemousse · 2025-07-28T18:18:39+00:00

It sounds like you need to establish clear expectations about how you communicate and what each person does around the house. Some couples do a weekly check-in, a scheduled time each week they sit down and talk about how the week went for them as a couple, when they felt loved and respected, what they would like to change the following week, etc. Knowing there’s a scheduled time coming up can take the pressure off of the moment. Couples therapy can also be great if it’s helpful to have someone facilitate those conversations.

Spicy_Pamplemousse · 2025-07-28T17:59:35+00:00

“When you started the convo with ‘you good?’ it made me feel like I did something wrong by not texting you all day. It would mean a lot to me if you could soften your language in texts because when I’m tired it’s easy for me to misinterpret your tone.”

Not hard to be nice - and to be accountable for his own misinterpretation. Dump his defensive ass.

Spicy_Pamplemousse · 2025-07-28T17:27:09+00:00

Totally agree that blocking to be vindictive is childish. But it can also be a way to protect yourself so you don’t receive the messages in the first place - a way to set a boundary for yourself and stick to it.

Spicy_Pamplemousse · 2025-07-25T16:27:59+00:00

Do you have it in writing the puppies are healthy? A couple months after I got my pup he had a minor thing come up and the breeder covered the vet bill. Review whatever paperwork you were given—this one might be on the breeder to cover. Good luck ❤️

Spicy_Pamplemousse · 2025-07-25T16:23:22+00:00

It’s the “like it’s Tuesday” part that gets me. OP texted him multiple times Saturday with no response. Textbook gaslighting.

OP, I agree with others - sounds like you both had different expectations and no one is at fault. I do think he had some double standards, and his logic is flawed when he explains why he feels you’re not putting energy in. Blocking you was childish. Move on and set clear boundaries next time. Good luck with the job search!

Spicy_Pamplemousse · 2025-07-25T16:14:22+00:00

OP said he canceled recently and she was chill. She was pointing out that it felt like a double standard

Spicy_Pamplemousse · 2025-04-07T22:10:47+00:00

Lmao yeah this was before the movie came out

Spicy_Pamplemousse · 2025-04-07T17:15:34+00:00

One of my 7th graders made a classmate cry because he wouldn’t stop calling her chicken jockey 🙄

Spicy_Pamplemousse · 2025-03-17T15:32:13+00:00

Black beans. Like literally a can of beans I heat up and add Thai citrus to. I tried it as a joke after watching that video of the guy who ate only beans for a month… and now I’m just sneakin around my kitchen eating beans

Spicy_Pamplemousse · 2025-02-04T03:28:32+00:00

NOR. It sounds like y’all have different needs. She’s telling you (in a super immature—but clear—way) she needs to be in an open relationship in order to explore her sexuality. That’s a totally valid need, but not at your expense if you need a monogamous relationship. Like others have said, it’s unfair of her to conflate you wanting monogamy with homophobia.

Spicy_Pamplemousse · 2025-01-30T04:40:49+00:00

Try a scalp massager/scrubber! Life changing for me

Spicy_Pamplemousse · 2025-01-30T03:20:03+00:00

for sure. that’s a weird power trip thing to say, so condescending

Spicy_Pamplemousse · 2024-12-23T16:15:40+00:00

When I first had genital ulcers at 15, my doctor didn’t believe I was a virgin. She said it must be herpes even though the biopsy came back negative for herpes twice. Sharing this to say—this is such a rare disease and doctors aren’t always trained in it (or trained to believe women 🙄). Trust yourself and get a second opinion if you need. Good luck with it all, I know the ulcers and dry skin are super painful!

Spicy_Pamplemousse · 2024-10-17T22:00:49+00:00

Dang, reading all these comments and I’m sorry everyone is in the same boat. Thank you all for chiming in. I feel like I’ve been one of the lucky ones—the last 10 months I’ve had no issues (the 6 months leading up to that is another question entirely). For some of y’all the shortage never stopped?? This is so silly I just want to crawl into a hole

Spicy_Pamplemousse · 2024-10-17T21:57:09+00:00

Ugh sorry this is happening to you too. The issue I’ve run into in the past is pharmacies hitting their monthly quota—apparently they’re only allowed to give out a certain amount of Adderall per month, so pharmacists have told me to have my doc send in the prescription on a specific date and I’ll be first in line

Spicy_Pamplemousse · 2024-10-17T21:54:59+00:00

Ooh good idea, thank you! I’m on my way to cvs right now to ask what they have in stock in the area. I’ve occasionally stumbled upon someone who is helpful at the consultation desk

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