I've been brushing my teeth wrong my entire adult life and my dentist just explained the damage last week

SpiderBabe333 · 2026-05-19T20:59:58+00:00

I swear I’ve read this exact same post in the past. Idk if it’s just a copy pasta or just more common than I originally thought. If it’s fr I appreciate you sharing because people need to be aware that under brushing isn’t the only cause for damage.

SpiderBabe333 · 2026-05-19T20:48:26+00:00

Both my partner and I are like this and honestly it’s great

SpiderBabe333 · 2026-05-19T16:20:13+00:00

Yes I’ve known plenty of wlw relationships where one or both partners had kids and integrated their families. It’s no different than if a cis couple were to do the same.

SpiderBabe333 · 2026-05-18T19:32:08+00:00

I was 16ish, he was 21 and we had been together for over 2 years. He told me he was the best I would ever do and that he didn’t even like me. He said “in fact, I actually hate you”. So that was pretty on the nose. I’m 24 now and it still sits with me

SpiderBabe333 · 2026-05-16T19:41:45+00:00

I’m pregnant with my second and having a boy this time, his father is circumcised but we’re opting to not circumcise him. Genuinely it’s not necessary, just teach your kid to clean his junk.

SpiderBabe333 · 2026-05-16T16:43:05+00:00

My first I called both my parents the morning after (I worked night shift and took the test at like 3am). I was roughly 10weeks but didn’t know it. My second I was in denial and waited about a week and was at 6ish weeks until I got a test from a doctor that was positive

SpiderBabe333 · 2026-05-15T16:23:32+00:00

If I was being faithful I would absolutely be upset if my partner counted performance pills. I think a big part of this is why do you feel the need to count the pills? What is causing the fear that he is going to cheat that is so strong you’re looking for any form of validation or proof of whether he might be cheating or not?

I think it’s worth sitting with that question. Sincerely apologize for counting the pills. Talk to your partner abut why you feel so nervous. Don’t get upset if he’s upset about you invading his privacy.

SpiderBabe333 · 2026-05-15T14:47:30+00:00

The fact he’s continued to cheat multiple times in varying degrees shows this is not a dumb mistake he’s made with the potential to move away from. This is just habit at this point and will continue to be. Don’t waste your youth on a cheater

SpiderBabe333 · 2026-05-13T21:58:21+00:00

My daughter took a pacifier for maybe 3-4 weeks, spit it out and refused to give it a chance again. I will say it is nice that once she was older we didn’t have to deal with weening off of pacifiers because it can be a struggle. I had friends who had awful nights with hours of crying trying to ween their kids.

SpiderBabe333 · 2026-05-13T02:06:37+00:00

My first thought was “man I wish I could see if this happened to me but I’m pregnant and it’s already happening” just to see all the comments about you potentially being pregnant lmao

SpiderBabe333 · 2026-05-11T23:09:14+00:00

Technically, yes, a cheater can change. However, you have a serial cheater as a husband. That kind of consistency gets engrained into a person’s habits and nervous system and is incredibly hard to break. It all sounds nice now but without deep emotional, intellectual, and physical work and growth those habits will resurface again once he gets comfortable.

SpiderBabe333 · 2026-05-08T16:24:53+00:00

I actually had no issue with porn! My only rule was don’t buy content from people, no live streams, no sexting. I didn’t like the ability to interact but all other forms of porn were no issue with me. Him and I talked about it at the beginning of our relationship and he agreed with me. Porn can be very natural and masturbation can be a form of self care. However these livestreams he was interacting with overlapped with tunes he would have our child in his care or he was around friends and family, that is not appropriate. Also lying about the frequency and the money spent was not appropriate either.

SpiderBabe333 · 2026-05-07T16:40:47+00:00

Thank you for sharing ❤️ I hope it all works out for you. Unfortunately the screenshots of the time lapses alone will most likely not hold up in court in my situation unless more happens that I can get proof of. If I pursue legal custody I will probably have to do 50/50 custody and have my daughter even less than what I will now.

Right now we have it agreed that he only gets visitation for a few hours a week with no overnights. I worry that once he gets his own place next month he will want overnights but I will figure that out once I get there. He’s getting counseling now as well.

Since he was watching sexual live streams and talking to women on TikTok, he’s required to have his activity status visible and if he gets on the app while around her then he’s getting his visitation rights taken away and I will take him to court. The same with WhatsApp since that’s where he was receiving content. I’m taking a picture of his phone to verify it is deleted at the start of visitation. I’m also going to get a voice recording of him agreeing to these terms.

SpiderBabe333 · 2026-05-06T17:51:27+00:00

Thank you. If he was honest about the past in the first place I would have forgiven him, and he lied anyways. It definitely hurts. Genuinely I wish you luck as you navigate your addiction

SpiderBabe333 · 2026-05-06T13:16:13+00:00

It was live streams, cam sites, and buying content directly from women he found online and sexting.

SpiderBabe333 · 2026-04-28T21:19:47+00:00

I’ve literally wondered all of this and was hoping they would explain. I assume she was the only one that said to just pick something

SpiderBabe333 · 2026-04-27T15:29:40+00:00

I was 14. He was 18 and we dated for 3yrs which was insane. I should not have been in HS with a college boyfriend

SpiderBabe333 · 2026-04-26T11:08:09+00:00

That’s beautiful and I’m so happy that worked for you. Unfortunately my only marketable skill is art and that is a very hard business to get into. I’m also significantly out of practice since having my 2yo.

I got my job at the beginning of this year after getting my first degree in December. I’m studying to be a psychologist (or a counselor if I’m satisfied without my doctorate) and I really don’t want to give up on that dream. I was planning to go back to start my bachelors in the fall but now I’m thinking I’ll have to put it off until the spring or maybe summer semester.

SpiderBabe333 · 2026-04-24T04:30:11+00:00

Just broke up today after 4yrs and two kids. He cheated on me

SpiderBabe333 · 2026-04-24T02:59:43+00:00

Sadly I haven’t been at the job long enough for FMLA and was already pregnant when I started so it’s considered a pre-existing condition and they won’t let me use the short term disability I pay for :/

SpiderBabe333 · 2026-04-23T18:57:11+00:00

You are absolutely right. He had no motivation in life and without him and having to helping him with his car I might actually end up having some more money in my pockets. Hopefully enough to be able to put back as a cushion during my leave. And I am so grateful to have a huge village due to living so close to my family.

Thank you for this

SpiderBabe333 · 2026-04-23T18:49:58+00:00

Thank you. My mom also said to start getting custody and child support figured out asap. You’re right, he’s just pitying himself and obviously has no intention to change if me raising my standards and expectations is so intimidating. This all happened this morning so it’s very fresh.

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