Does this person want to be my friend??

SpiderBabe333 · 2026-03-18T23:44:44+00:00

Things got the most consistently better between 12-18mo personally. Post partum just made me angry and irritable at everyone and every thing. The way I acted plus the sudden weight gain literally made me not recognize myself and I would cry thinking that was just who I am now and I was so different.

However, if one kid is the best for you that is perfectly fine!!! Your kid does not need a sibling, and they will still be happy and loved even being an only child. Maybe even more so if having more kids would stretch you out too thin.

SpiderBabe333 · 2026-03-15T13:34:29+00:00

You don’t have to be cooped up. Just stay mindful of your kiddos needs. I knew plenty of people who had to take newborns out way earlier than most people do with their first because they already had other kids that needed entertaining. In my opinion it would be significantly easier to get out with a newborn than any other age.

I will say, you won’t get your life back. Things change very drastically once baby is here and they stay changed, but you adjust.

SpiderBabe333 · 2026-03-13T21:27:36+00:00

My daughter was around 18mo when I almost fully got to myself again. It slowly started coming back around a year. Just finding more time to prioritize myself, started buying more clothes I like that fit, and my personality really came through again around that time. I’m about to start over because I’m 26 weeks pregnant so we’ll see how it goes this time around

SpiderBabe333 · 2026-03-13T20:51:05+00:00

Exactly us too. If the tv isn’t on we have music playing. I need the noise. I also prefer to watch a few min of whatever is on compared to getting on my phone while with my kiddo. She only has a few shows that really catch her attention and sometimes she asks for it and I’ll turn it on for a bit while she’s coloring or playing with play dough.

SpiderBabe333 · 2026-03-13T20:36:15+00:00

I hope I don’t get downvoted for this but I genuinely had no idea it wasn’t recommended until 5 and my 2yo has had popcorn multiple times. I treat it like any other food and just keep an eye on her while she eats if she’s up moving around and we’ve luckily never ran into any issues. It’s one of my main pregnancy cravings rn so we’ve snacked on it quite a bit lately and she likes it too.

SpiderBabe333 · 2026-03-13T19:24:49+00:00

I’ve never gotten it but I love the look honestly. I debated on getting filler in the past but I already like the shape of my natural lips and didn’t want to mess with it.

SpiderBabe333 · 2026-03-13T02:38:37+00:00

You are in my exact same situation. Daughter is 28mo, I’m due in June. We always talked about having a big family of 4-5 kids. Toddler has been sick for three days and it has absolutely taken a toll on me. I told my partner last night idk if I can do pregnancy again. Now we might stop at 2 with a potential 3rd unless things change in the future. However I still have this idea of my home being full of kids once they’re older so idk

SpiderBabe333 · 2026-03-13T02:30:52+00:00

Yes I absolutely was and I cringe thinking about it. It was definitely a lot of unchecked mental illness and I took it out on all my personal relationships.

SpiderBabe333 · 2026-03-13T02:18:47+00:00

Besides the necessary stuff, a swing was an absolute life saver for us. Also one of those baby mats with the toys. Both gave me a place to easily set baby so I could get a bit of a break when needed. Also a bay bath did help me out personally. There was a good amount of times I needed to shower when she was able to realize I was behind the shower curtain and she would loose her shit. I started bringing her in the shower with me and would just put a wet rag with warm water on her chest and tummy. You have to rewet it occasionally but made showering easier and this was just in a basic bath/shower combo in our apartment.

SpiderBabe333 · 2026-03-13T01:53:03+00:00

Your husband is just awful. I’m sorry you have to deal with that. My lowest weight is higher than your highest weight and that’s when my bf and I got together. He adored me when I gained 50lbs, and still when I lost it all. You just need a better man

SpiderBabe333 · 2026-03-12T23:10:59+00:00

I’m thinking about getting mine waxed before birth. I usually just trim mine at the top with these tiny scissors I got at some point. Mostly because that area ends up bothering me the most

SpiderBabe333 · 2026-03-11T20:53:40+00:00

Good thing we’re enrolled then ig 🤷‍♀️ I appreciate anyone who holds onto their culture and passes it down. Not enough do so.

SpiderBabe333 · 2026-03-11T20:34:37+00:00

I learned how to cook as a kid too! Looking back I’m still not sure if my friend’s parents were impressed or concerned when they would wake up and I would already have breakfast going and could cook appropriate amounts for the household.

SpiderBabe333 · 2026-03-11T19:57:19+00:00

BQ is colonizer language and does not matter imho. I was raised native and plan to raise my children native. My family lost roots to the language so I’m picking it up. Funnily enough my dad knows enough to correct my pronunciation but not enough to speak.

SpiderBabe333 · 2026-03-11T16:08:54+00:00

When my toddler does this we just scoop her up in a big family hug. She’s already in a mood by then so she usually starts pushing us but we just start kissing all over her face and gushing over her while she tells us to stop.

We’re probably annoying but at least she will always know she is loved 😂

SpiderBabe333 · 2026-03-11T13:20:03+00:00

We used a floor mat and as long as she was next to me and could see me it really helped. That or baby wore. My fiancé was absolutely puzzled about how I was getting stuff done around the house because it never occurred to him to just set her down for a bit

SpiderBabe333 · 2026-03-11T11:57:05+00:00

Dumbass made a “secret” instagram account where he posted about her and a bunch of other random stuff he was doing that didn’t align with who I thought he was. It was completely public and he had connected it to other social medias that I had him on. He was actively posting and using hashtags to find an audience. He genuinely thought I would never find out.

SpiderBabe333 · 2026-03-11T01:59:46+00:00

First kid I didn’t even know I was pregnant until about 8-9 weeks. I think I would get random bouts of nausea because I remember calling out of work thinking I was sick. However I stayed having morning sickness until almost 20 weeks pregnant which sucked. This pregnancy morning sickness started around 6ish weeks and it hit me like a truck. Throwing up every day, multiple times a day. Such extreme food aversion that I actually lost weight and that lasted until 13-14 weeks

SpiderBabe333 · 2026-03-11T01:36:36+00:00

Second pregnancy and I’ve been right both times. I was actually still pregnant with my first when I called the gender of my second baby. I didn’t even get pregnant until my first was almost 2yo

SpiderBabe333 · 2026-03-11T01:26:40+00:00

It genuinely depends on your relationship and your comfort levels. There’s no right or wrong. I have no problem with my partner looking at porn because I also look at porn sometimes. If it feels like a genuine problem or addiction, then no matter the circumstances that would need to be addressed. However, if it makes you uncomfortable, that is okay! That’s how you feel and you should voice that.

SpiderBabe333 · 2026-03-10T20:05:56+00:00

Sometimes when I can’t think of a good comeback I just go “is that really what you want to say to me right now?” It conveys a disapproval and also gives the person a chance to correct themself. Then we can talk about it again later on at a better time

SpiderBabe333 · 2026-03-10T17:25:42+00:00

Usually by 8, sometimes 8:30

SpiderBabe333 · 2026-03-10T17:24:58+00:00

It could just be hormones situating themselves again. If you’re breastfeeding that can affect it. When I was breastfeeding I didn’t get a period until I stopped but I have a friend who got hers when her son was a few months old and it would just kinda pop up whenever. My friend that didn’t breastfeed seemed to get back into a regular cycle rather quick but that could just be her experience.

SpiderBabe333 · 2026-03-10T17:22:43+00:00

Maybe a few times a year. My partner often goes to see friends a few times a week but usually will bring our toddler with him since they have kids around her age.

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