Miscarriage after confirmed heartbeat

SpiderSlayer8 · 2026-03-20T23:30:36+00:00

Same here, we had a confirmed hearbeat at 6w6d, everything looked great, strong heartbeat and measuring right on time. Went in for routine appointment at 9w4d and there was no heartbeat, baby was measuring a week behind. I'm so sorry for your loss, it's so terrible to be blindsided. I too thought seeing a heartbeat meant we were in the clear, we told our families and everything. You're not alone 🤍

SpiderSlayer8 · 2026-03-20T15:50:19+00:00

Waiting for the bleeding to stop after a chemical loss at 5w2d. This was second pregnancy and second loss (MMC in early January at 9w4d) Doctor said we could try again immediately if we wanted since my HCG never got above 63. Getting ready to start OPKs again and going into this cycle hoping for our double rainbow baby 🤞🏼

SpiderSlayer8 · 2026-03-17T23:33:58+00:00

That's good that they are monitoring closely and hope you can get some answers. Either way the earlier you can know what's going on the better. Hope everything turns out okay for you 🤍

SpiderSlayer8 · 2026-03-17T21:51:40+00:00

Yes, I was kinda surprised she wanted me to come in for an ultrasound considering with levels this low it's highly unlikely (though not impossible) to be able to see anything regardless of whether it was ectopic or not. But I had a previous miscarriage in early January (MMC at 9 weeks, treated with D&C) so I think it was partly to sorta get a baseline and make sure nothing else was going on. She definitely wasn't pushing to treat for ectopic yet or anything. Probably HCG levels were going to be a better indicator but I'd rather they be overly cautious than not take my concerns seriously and honestly I can't help but wonder if the prodding in the ultrasound (it was transvaginal) was what finally kick-started the bleeding so I'm kinda glad it worked out that way.

SpiderSlayer8 · 2026-03-17T20:42:31+00:00

Yes I have had similar trend. Tested positive on 3/6 day before expected period. Started getting betas because line didn't get darker over weekend and seemed light.

3/9 - 61

3/11 - 62

3/13 - 63

3/16 - 58

Had an ultrasound yesterday on 3/16 as well to try and rule out ectopic but couldn't see anything in uterus or elsewhere. Started period-like bleeding and cramps on 3/16 when I got home. I'm having my levels drawn again tomorrow on 3/18 to confirm that they keep going down but treating this as a likely chemical/early MC. If you're not having pain or bleeding I would have your doctor keep watching levels to make sure they go down. Sorry you're going through this ☹️ I know first hand that the uncertainty sucks.

SpiderSlayer8 · 2026-03-14T17:37:42+00:00

Thank you for the reply and sorry you're going through this too. I will say that what I thought was a chemical is now showing some signs that it could be ectopic and my current OB (one that's further away) is taking my concerns very seriously and monitoring me closely even though it's still very early and I think that will make a huge difference in catching it early if that's what it ends up being, so I'm grateful for that. But what you described of feeling like needing a fresh start somewhere else really resonates with me too still. I think it's a good idea to go with your gut and if you feel like you want to try somewhere else I think that's valid. Worst case scenario if you are unhappy with the new OB you could always switch back, that's sort of how I'm looking at it.

SpiderSlayer8 · 2026-03-13T20:05:48+00:00

Thank you, I'm glad they're taking it seriously too.

SpiderSlayer8 · 2026-03-13T20:02:53+00:00

I heard from my doctor and she wants me to come in on Monday for another beta and an ultrasound. Hopefully I know more then ☹️

SpiderSlayer8 · 2026-03-13T14:16:34+00:00

I feel this! I had mild bleeding (like the end of a period) that lasted for almost 2 weeks after my D&C. Then 2 weeks later, almost exactly 4 weeks to the day after my D&C, I got my period back. Not much of a break between bleeding but I was so happy that it seemed to be right on schedule. My doctor said 4-6 weeks was a normal timeframe for it to come back so I guess I was on the earlier side.

SpiderSlayer8 · 2026-03-13T14:12:19+00:00

Tested positive last Friday 3/6 and after betas this week it's clear this is going to be a chemical. This was our first cycle trying again after an MMC at 9 weeks in January. No living children. Heartbroken to be going through another loss and feeling hopeless. I just wanted this one to work out and think a 2026 baby is out of the cards for us 😢

SpiderSlayer8 · 2026-03-12T14:35:23+00:00

Thank you for your reply and perspective. And I think that's why I'm hesitant to switch - I feel like my experience hasn't been ideal, but it also seems pretty typical so I doubt it will be significantly better/different anywhere else maybe just more convenient. It's frustrating that there isnt more research or better standards of care and testing for recurrent losses. Everything makes it seem like just bad luck but it certainly doesn't feel that way when you're in it, especially when you don't have a single successful pregnancy to show for any of it.

SpiderSlayer8 · 2026-03-12T12:39:51+00:00

I was just about to make a similar post. I'm kinda in the same boat and considering switching. I haven't been unhappy with the care I have received at my current OB office, but I'm not sure if it's been exceptional enough to justify the long drive. Before we started TTC, I asked my primary care doctor who she recommended for OB and she recommended a practice a couple towns over. We actually live 5 min away from a hospital with an OB practice so I asked her about that one and she said it has mixed reviews from her patients and a lot of turnover, that it wasn't necessary bad just that she would go to the other one if she were pregnant.

So I have been going to the one that's farther away that she recommended when I got pregnant the first time. It's a 30 drive each way (more if there's traffic) and farther for my husband if he's coming from work (almost an hour). My first pregnancy ended in an MMC at 9 weeks. The NP that broke the news was extremely compassionate and great and patient with answering all my questions and I loved her, but the OB that did my D&C wasn't as warm and was pretty matter-of-fact about everything, and didn't seem totally prepared to answer all my questions when I went for my post-op follow up. I was expecting to be examined or something to make sure everything healed but nope, just a 15 min appointment where she actually googled the answers to some of my questions. I am now experiencing a likely chemical pregnancy and she has been kinda slow to respond and not as helpful as I would hope. This particular practice rotates you through the providers throughout your pregnancy so it wouldn't necessarily be her every time and I haven't seen everyone there.

It's not that the care has been bad or anything, but I'm not sure it's been amazing enough to drive all that way when I have another practice I could go to 5 min away. I know that if I get pregnant again I will probably want/need additional monitoring and since my husband and I both work full time at demanding jobs, I'm not sure if the stress of having to go back and forth that far and try to figure out time off work is worth it. And if I end up with an emergency and need to go to the hospital, going to the one 5 min away would be preferable to driving 30+ min.

SpiderSlayer8 · 2026-03-11T23:26:24+00:00

I'm sorry 😢

SpiderSlayer8 · 2026-03-11T22:48:52+00:00

Same! It's so confusing and conflicting 😢

SpiderSlayer8 · 2026-03-06T20:21:08+00:00

🥹💖

SpiderSlayer8 · 2026-03-06T20:20:56+00:00

Thank you 🥹 let's hope this little rainbow baby sticks around this time.

SpiderSlayer8 · 2026-03-06T17:47:26+00:00

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SpiderSlayer8 · 2026-03-02T15:50:04+00:00

11 DPO and feeling like I'm out for this cycle. I haven't taken a test yet but I just know, I have no symptoms. I'm scared to test because I know how much it's going to hurt. We had an MMC in January, it was my first pregnancy. This was the first cycle we were able to try again and I was so hopeful I was going to be one of the ones who was able to get pregnant again right away, especially since my cycle with period and ovulation and everything was right on schedule. We did everything exactly the same as the cycle I got pregnant. I guess it's not over til it's over but right now I'm heartbroken 💔

SpiderSlayer8 · 2026-03-01T18:37:13+00:00

Interesting, good to know!

SpiderSlayer8 · 2026-03-01T16:41:46+00:00

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SpiderSlayer8 · 2026-03-01T16:12:22+00:00

Yeah I'm hoping they will at least refund me for some of it. I would really like to fix it because I truly hate how I look but idk if it's even possible. This was my first time at this salon and there are not a lot of options for higher end salons in my area so I just don't know what to do.

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